Everyone has a source of insecurity and for women, it seems to always be centered on their desirability to men.
We can’t act like dark skin women have not received unfair treatment for just being dark skin. It’s real and if people don’t want to acknowledge it then that’s their own manipulation of reality.
What I saw was a woman who allowed her insecurity to overcome what she wanted. A man who values her and doesn’t automatically dismiss her because of her complexion.
Folks want to act like men, especially, black men have not perpetuated the inferiority that some dark skin women feel in the dating game.
I’ve seen it too many times. Even dark skin men telling me their preference and calling me a “redbone” and I have to school those ignorant dudes on colorism.
I just don’t get why black men seem to be deliberately obtuse as to why dark skin women feel the way they do. They did not make their skin tone into something that others should perceive as unattractive… you men did that shyt.
And the worst thing about is that you silly dudes don’t even see what you do.
You constantly put women in categories based on their complexions or their race or where they’re from and what ethnic group they belong to. You constantly put women against each other in your own warped view of desirability and then want to act like a deer in front of headlights when those women express insecurity and superiority because of how you labeled them.
Light skin women think they’re better than dark skin women… yeah dummy because you said that and you made those women believe it
Why do white women think all black men want them??? Yeah dummy because your folks in your group put them on a pedestal now you’re mad that they started to believe it
So now dark skin women are just insecure for no reason, huh?
Black women have issues with being desirable for no reason, huh?
This is what men have done.