"Intelligent Women More Likely To Be Single" aka "Smart Girls" are the equivalent of "Nice Guys"

[No_bammer_weed]

Perhaps, but my post wasn't made to throw shade on her...

I made it because sometimes women get their own Damn way, it's great that women are finally attaining the shyt that men have been doing for years...but don't don't get it twisted what you're doing is average in the grand scheme. You may be passing up something great because of your false sense of entitlement.

Perhaps...I think in general woman have chip on their shoulder just like black people do in general. The dominant class (white men) socially engineered both groups as having limited value compared to them. Its less "entitlement" and more awareness.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

Also, I'd just like to point out that every woman I've met that stands by her degrees, job title, and salary were the exact type of women to believe that they should never approach a man. That it's beneath them. There's a severe sense of entitlement, the line of thinking that a man should maintain all the positive qualities of being traditional while she upholds none of those things.

What some women don't realize is that men generally want women who will make their lives simpler, and vice versa. These women are not looking for simplicity. They aren't looking to conform to traditional gender roles (not that it's necessarily a bad thing to eschew gender roles). They aren't the women who will be at home taking care of children and having a meal prepared for you when you return from work. Men, particularly men who work high paying stressful jobs, are looking for the yin to their yang.

It has a lot more to do with the socially constructed idea that women who approach a man are considered desperate or slutty, rather than women having " a sense of entitlement". Whats funny here is that men promote stereotypes about women, and then whine when those same stereotypes work against them.

In addition, do you really want a woman not working and sitting in the house all day when we live in the age of social media and dating, where accessing available men across the nation and world is literally a push of a button away?

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

article sucks. it's based on the premise that a smart, successful woman shouldn't have to even work to find a quality man - one should just fall in her lap. while you were studying and all that, a woman who wanted a man put out the signals that she was interested and therefore got a man. when you abandon one thing in pursuit of another, you gotta accept the reality that the alternative thing may not be around when you're ready to come back to it.

also, women need to stop with the whole, "i gotta masters, i, the manager of the call center" bs. even with women gaining more, relationships still play out traditionally. meaning, what does your 75k job mean to me as a man if i'm still paying for the majority of the stuff? the most it tells me is that you're not a total gold digger, laying around ready to clean me out when i'm not looking.

They are willing to embrace modern gender ideas when it suits them, but they shy away from responsibilities like actually taking it upon themselves to go get a man that they want. Don't give me that shyt about slut shaming. This is 2014 and most men 25+ will be extremely refreshed to have a great woman approach him for once.

 

[Vandelay]

Perhaps...I think in general woman have chip on their shoulder just like black people do in general. The dominant class (white men) socially engineered both groups as having limited value compared to them. Its less "entitlement" and more awareness.

That chip makes people overcompensate, when they don't have too.

 

[KenyaDoll]

Also, I'd just like to point out that every woman I've met that stands by her degrees, job title, and salary were the exact type of women to believe that they should never approach a man. That it's beneath them. There's a severe sense of entitlement, the line of thinking that a man should maintain all the positive qualities of being traditional while she upholds none of those things.

What some women don't realize is that men generally want women who will make their lives simpler, and vice versa. These women are not looking for simplicity. They aren't looking to conform to traditional gender roles (not that it's necessarily a bad thing to eschew gender roles). They aren't the women who will be at home taking care of children and having a meal prepared for you when you return from work. Men, particularly men who work high paying stressful jobs, are looking for the yin to their yang.

There's a peace in that. And there's women who are content with that lifestyle, and seek men who will provide it for them. And that doesn't make them stupid, nor does it make the man stupid either. My favorite thing about this article is the fact that everyone else in the room is a fool but the intelligent woman. The beautiful woman, the submissive woman, the alpha male, they are all idiots. And the irony is just beautiful to me.

I stand by my degrees, but that's not why I don't approach men. That is a completely different realm of life and is often influenced by how you were raised. It's not about entitlement either because I don't EXPECT or DEMAND that anyone to approach me. If a man is interested then it will happen.

If funny that you mention women want a traditional man without holding those traditional qualities, but I actually find it's the opposite.

 

[Jhoon]

They are willing to embrace modern gender ideas when it suits them, but they shy away from responsibilities like actually taking it upon themselves to go get a man that they want. Don't give me that shyt about slut shaming. This is 2014 and most men 25+ will be extremely refreshed to have a great woman approach him for once.

What's wrong with cherry picking what works for you? The mediocre men who have been eating far too long, its time to let the women embrace and enjoy being mediocre. There are many things you need to bring to the table besides a paycheck.
That cliche is part of the problem. Most people dont eat at the table and most people have direct deposit. What happens when the economy really changes?

 

[daemonova]

If funny that you mention women want a traditional man without holding those traditional qualities, but I actually find it's the opposite.

like you, i disagree with the whole cook/clean mentality, but I understand the logic behind it, its about getting a woman with standards, are we dating or are we both going for the picket fence, some men will tolerate the no cook/clean thing for a fukk, but he isn't going to put a ring on it. I don't mind if my chick isn't going to cook/clean but I don't want to get married...

its all relative

 

[O.T.I.S.]

I don't mind having a smart girl, but let's be honest, most "smart" people act as if they know it all, making it extremely difficult to be with them. I would say it's harder for women though, because a smart guy can get a woman to marry because usually he's stupid in relationships but smart enough to make a lot of money to attract a stupid woman that is attracted to shiny things



A "smart" know it all woman usually wants to try to dominate the relationship imo. There's no humbleness or willing to put their "smart" ego aside for the betterment of the relationship.



I speak on this because my ex was kinda smart... But she liked to always be right. I'm far from stupid myself, so when I checked her on shyt she was wrong about (or knew nothing about because she never experienced it, only read or lived it through other people) she would get upset with me about it, usually going to another source that usually just repeated everything I told her but didn't believe/understand

 

[KenyaDoll]

like you, i disagree with the whole cook/clean mentality, but I understand the logic behind it, its about getting a woman with standards, are we dating or are we both going for the picket fence, some men will tolerate the no cook/clean thing for a fukk, but he isn't going to put a ring on it. I don't mind if my chick isn't going to cook/clean but I don't want to get married...

its all relative

I don't necessarily disagree with the cook/clean mentality (I'm from the south, I've been cooking since I was 5 or 6), I just don't think men should expect a traditional woman if they aren't willing to hold up their end of the bargain (which is pretty much me agreeing with your post).

 

[Mr. Somebody]

Can you really be smart if you dont cook clean and obey? Something to think about there. Yea, think about that, friends.

 

[CBSkyline]

Chances are you're not smart. You're probably just tactless and crass with a smart mouth. Not the same thing and it's actually really unattractive.

Got damn

 

[MoneyTron]

so you can give you man a blowjob for ten minutes, that paper work can't wait, i don't believe that at all

Not going to lie breh, my GF is a good example. If I didn't respect her determination and intelligence, our relationship would be a lot different.

She's in med school and spends most of her time awake in the books. I knew that there would be a time where this would happen, before she got into school. Being a doctor has been her main goal since childhood. So we don't spend that much time together and I'm not going to make her spend random times with me just to hang out.

If I was just meeting her today, I probably wouldn't pursue a relationship because of that and neither would most dudes out there.

That's how professional women fall into that void.

 

[The Maverick]

It has a lot more to do with the socially constructed idea that women who approach a man are considered desperate or slutty, rather than women having " a sense of entitlement". Whats funny here is that men promote stereotypes about women, and then whine when those same stereotypes work against them.

In addition, do you really want a woman not working and sitting in the house all day when we live in the age of social media and dating, where accessing available men across the nation and world is literally a push of a button away?

Difference between a housewife and a stay at home mom. I'd hope that the woman I choose would appreciate our family enough to not destroy it by cheating.

But on another note, can you illuminate what you mean about promoting stereotypes? Sounds interesting.

I stand by my degrees, but that's not why I don't approach men. That is a completely different realm of life and is often influenced by how you were raised. It's not about entitlement either because I don't EXPECT or DEMAND that anyone to approach me. If a man is interested then it will happen.

If funny that you mention women want a traditional man without holding those traditional qualities, but I actually find it's the opposite.

I get your mindset, but that's a little different than saying that men ain't shyt and that there's no good men left for the intelligent woman, no? There's the expectation of an XYZ sort of man, without the work being done to obtain that type of thing. Though you're right, that has more do to with upbringing than intelligence and education. Just wanted to point out the correlation I've noticed.

And you might be right, maybe I speak from a man's perspective. The men I know that want a traditional woman are well earning and college educated, which is basically the bar that women are setting when they say they want a provider. Bum folks are a totally different topic, one that I'd advise both genders to avoid.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

I will say that I think smart people, in general, can be kind of awkward. Therefore, if they are chasing after the wrong type of person, they will always lose. The key to not being single is pursuing the right kind of people; people who will accept you just as you are.

Simple, yet profound logic......

 

[Cabbage Patch]

The difference being that a woman has to actively try and put effort into being single as most times they are the ones being approached and courted, even if it's unwanted.

Usually a man has to put effort into finding himself a mate or he his dating prospects dwindle

I think the problem with "Intelligent" career oriented women will be solved once society stops shaming women for being the pursuers every now and then.

Pursuing =/= promiscuous

This post is perceptive.