A woman will never be able to understand what it's like to be trapped by a baby. They will NEVER be able to understand it. They'll never be able to understand the betrayal, the resulting loss of trust in people, and the pain.
See the issue isn't that the man should have worn a condom, no the issue is that one person unilaterally made a decision that will affect at minimum three people's lives for the rest of their lives.
I was trapped by my son's mother. She admitted it 7 months into her pregnancy through tears on the phone at 4am after I'd left her (for other reasons). Funny thing is I WAS very in love with this woman and was considering marriage with her (which explains why I trusted her enough to have sex with her without a condom--yes, she said she was on birth control, and even went as far as to show the Alesse packages to me) up until she became pregnant and I learned that she really didn't have any plans to do anything with her life.
A woman will never be able to understand that level of betrayal. Imagine having the course of your life changed completely because a person you trusted decided to do something extremely selfish. And it's not just selfish towards the dude who gets trapped, but what about the kid who is ultimately unwanted? What does it feel like to be that kid, who might get treated with resentment by both parents and left by the father? Trapping a dude with a baby is most unfair to the child, but it seems like that's the part that never gets talked about. I feel bad for my son who's now asking me why his mother and I aren't together, and I have to lie to him to spare his feelings. Let me tell you guys, looking into your kid's eyes and lying doesn't feel nice. It's fukking horrible.
And then there's the trust issues created by a woman trapping a dude with a kid. Imagine trying to relearn how to trust others after someone you trust does something like that to you, violates you, and changes your life without you knowing it?
Was I dumb for not strapping up? For sure. Was I dumb for trusting someone who I was in a committed relationship with to do what they said they would, especially with something so serious as taking birth control? That's debatable, because let's not act like people in committed long-term relationships don't have unprotected sex and use birth control pills--successfully--all the time.
Women need to stop blaming dumb men for getting trapped by women--cuz we can't blame women for wearing a short skirt and a pushup bra to the wrong party, and we shouldn't. Yes, we're dumb for getting trapped, but it's far more heinous to perpetrate the trapping. It's not the female-to-male equivalent of rape, but it's the closest thing if you ask me, so let's stop acting like men should just get over it.
And fukk you to any woman who disagree with me, y'all will never understand that kind of pain, to have your whole life changed, to have your professional, educational, financial, and romantic future severely damaged because of one person's selfish decision, and have to be handcuffed to a person you hate for the rest of your life, because you did something so bad as to TRUST that person.
Imagine that.
