Is being a 'stay at home mom' an excuse for being lazy?

[Sharp]

It just baffles me when people don't want to pursue careers.

Like how can a woman be content with just being a stay home mom? Wouldn't you want to do something else as well? Women who work also take care of their children.

I'm curious. If there are any stay home moms on Coli, share your thoughts

 

[Cappy77]

I have a good friend that has been with his SO for three years and they have a two year old together. One of the reasons he has not proposed is because she does not want to work. She left her job while she was pregnant and she has not been employed since. He likes to hustle and make money from multple revenue streams and wants a mate that is equally driven. He feels like she does not have goals and ambition. Yet he continues to pay all the bills and she gets to shop. They don't even live together. I told him he created that monster. Her goal was to be taken care of.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

It just baffles me when people don't want to pursue careers.
Like how can a woman be content with just being a stay home mom? Wouldn't you want to do something else as well? Women who work also take care of their children.
I'm curious. If there are any stay home moms on Coli, share your thoughts

What's bad about a woman wanting to always be available for her family and their needs? Being there to help out at her child's school, maintaining the upkeep of the household, being there for the kids/husband when sickness happens, running errands for everyone, etc.

I was raised in a household where my mom worked, but I think being a stay at home mom is just as honorable of a duty and not worth less than anything in value.

A woman who works for the benefit of her family, regardless of the circumstance, is a good woman.

 

[Yinny]

I don't necessarily agree with it, esp once children reach school age and are out of the house all day, but I def don't consider it lazy. Being nearly 90- 100% responsible for all the house maintenance, feeding everybody stuff EVERY damn day alone is def not "lazy" work.

 

[CrimsonTider]

I only know one stay at home mom, and she's a lazy ass airhead bytch.

You know one, then you know them all

 

[The Guru]

Part time job at least...Man never underestimate the importance of a parent who is out there in the world experiencing things and growing. The unstimulated mind grows dull quicker than you think. Also an unhappy parent is a detriment to the child just as much. My mother god bless her was very unhappy the years she didn't have a job. Later on she started working first as general staff in a school, then a teacher's aid, now a full fledged-teacher. She always cared for us with the same amount of heart and effort but from working she learned about the world around her and passed that on to us.

 

[Urahara_Kisuke]

For people saying the mother can go back to work once the kids are old enough to be in school, I've seen firsthand how those broads do NOT want to re-enter the workforce. They got too comfortable during those 5 years of watching Real Hoodrats of Random City and The Voice/Any Singing or Dancing show. They lose some self-confidence after being out of work that long.......start looking at real jobs like

 

[AquaCityBoy]

The funny thing is, nikkas like to think that women is out here plotting on em like their last name is gates or some shyt. Dudes making $10/hr talkin bout "I don't trust these bytches breh, they only want a nikka for his paper "

nikkas like to live vicariously through their favorite rapper, actor, or ball player. It's way nikkas is alway complaining about rich people getting fukked over in divorce settlements when they barely got a g in the bank

I really need to stop taking these types of threads seriously. These nikkas are bitter as shyt and they hate women.

Half these nikkas mothers/grandmothers/aunts/sisters were probably stay at home moms. They gon call their own mothers lazy, entitled bytches?

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

What's bad about a woman wanting to always be available for her family and their needs? Being there to help out at her child's school, maintaining the upkeep of the household, being there for the kids/husband when sickness happens, running errands for everyone, etc.

I was raised in a household where my mom worked, but I think being a stay at home mom is just as honorable of a duty and not worth less than anything in value.

A woman who works for the benefit of her family, regardless of the circumstance, is a good woman.

What if a man did it?

 

[AquaCityBoy]

Some of you idiots don't even know what stay-at-home moms actually do. As if they just sit at home eating bon bons and watching The View all day.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

What if a man did it?

That would be fine, but I think women are generally inclined to be more nurturing creatures, more so than men.

 

[twan83]

What if a man did it?

u can consider me that man
im a stay at home father but I AINT LAZY THOUGH

i stay at home and raise 4 kids

 

[Yinny]

Some of you idiots don't even know what stay-at-home moms actually do. As if they just sit at home eating bon bons and watching The View all day.

I'm not gonna lie, my stepmom does this and it annoys me to no end. But I certainly wouldn't project that onto all sahms.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Got no problem with stay at home moms. I actually think it's the best for the development of the children. If she is involved and doing her job like she should, then the kids would benefit immensely. Any body with kids and a job knows how hard it is to come home after work and give the kids your undivided attention. A stay at home mom should be able to give this care and attention daily.

 

[Ohnoits]

My girl's mom was stay at home and worked her ass off. It really depends upon the woman and the marriage. Her mom was ideal: she was educated, but could cook like no other, kept the house immaculate, and came to every single school activity/meeting especially since her husband worked so much he couldn't make it. She was always on them right after school, went to their activities, got involved in their homework etc... so when they weren't home she was also running errands, grocery store, laundry, cleaning the house from top to bottom and handling things like bills, phone calls etc since she was in charge of the bank account but her husband wasn't.

My mom was the same way so...

it really depends upon the quality of the woman you marry.

If she's sitting at home on her ass not contributing and only cooking a little etc... then yea...she's not getting her worth. Ideally she should be up when you're up with the kids etc and holding shyt down when you're not there and keeping everyhting on task.

My moms took running the household very seriously. She got up at 5am before all of us, had breakfast ready, and was already starting laundry/organizing shyt for the day etc. She worked her ass off.

So if your stay at home is lazy, she has to get her mind right because she could bring a whole lot to the household even if she's not working 9 to 5. When we got older and my mom had more time she ended up getting a part time job to also contribute and add to her day, even when she didn't have to...

but my mom is one of those type A personalities type, just like my girl's mother who did the same thing and now works since she's out of the house and graduated etc...

It's all down to the quality/ambition of the individual.