Why would it be worth it after your 20's?I said not in your teens or 20's breh (which is the mistake I made)wait until you've lived life before getting locked down
Is It Even Worth Getting Married These Days?
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Why would it be worth it after your 20's?
fukk it stay single nikka goddamn
Im just saying most people ready to settle down in their 30s or w/e...
I'm just looking for answersfukk it stay single nikka goddamn
Im just saying most people ready to settle down in their 30s or w/e...
Me give my heart to a woman? 
namastehomie
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Yes, when it's right.
People fail to realize that marriage is a life long commitment to one person and it is an act of 2 people becoming one. They be rushing into it just because they love that person. Not because you love somebody means you were meant to spend the rest of your life with them, as one. Love isn't the only basis for marriage. Think about it, you love your parents, but at some point you need to and want to break free from them.
I feel like you should aim to marry someone who you love, who is your best friend and you can kick it with, who you are attracted to on every level (physically, sexually, emotionally...), who truly pleases you (esp. in bed) and makes you happy, who uplifts you and makes you want to be better, who you actually can see yourself getting old with, who you can fight with and forgive without grudges, who understands you and you can relate to on a soulful level, etc. Basically, someone who feels like apart of you. You two need a real soulful connection.
And all of this takes time to figure out.
Society has become so superficial. And roles of the genders are degenerating, and it's not working out.
People fail to realize that marriage is a life long commitment to one person and it is an act of 2 people becoming one. They be rushing into it just because they love that person. Not because you love somebody means you were meant to spend the rest of your life with them, as one. Love isn't the only basis for marriage. Think about it, you love your parents, but at some point you need to and want to break free from them.
I feel like you should aim to marry someone who you love, who is your best friend and you can kick it with, who you are attracted to on every level (physically, sexually, emotionally...), who truly pleases you (esp. in bed) and makes you happy, who uplifts you and makes you want to be better, who you actually can see yourself getting old with, who you can fight with and forgive without grudges, who understands you and you can relate to on a soulful level, etc. Basically, someone who feels like apart of you. You two need a real soulful connection.
And all of this takes time to figure out.
Society has become so superficial. And roles of the genders are degenerating, and it's not working out.
if shes worth it majority of these thots aint though, chicks will ge tbored of you and toss you in the dumpster for some thug
To the people who understand and desire the benefits, yes.
Tenchi Ryu
Ashtray B!tch
Sure
DrBanneker
Space is the Place
It is worth it IF you are at the right point in your life. I would not advocate it younger than 25. The tax break ain't shyt. The real difference between a (functioning) marriage and just shacking up and having kids together is that if done right, two people have a higher level of commitment and support for each other. Trust me, your mentality changes when you realize you can't just bounce when every day isn't happy but you know someone has your back for life. Marriage is also the main way to establish stable communities and pass wealth to the next generation. There are caveats to marriage though:
1. @namastehomie is right, while love is essential, lovey dovey all the time and unrealistic romantic aspirations don't make a solid marriage. Real love is more than p*ssy or getting a hard on and requires true dedication which is sadly why many couples don't make it. You have to find someone who is both a good person, complement for you, and has their head on straight.
2. Marriage material isn't what society emphasizes: if you are looking to turn some IG thot into a housewife, don't do it. Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved
3. Don't let friends, family, or society force you to get married or marry someone (somehow I doubt this is a problem on the Coli)
4. Sexual compatibility is a must -- but good p*ssy doesn't mean you should get married
Financial compatibility is a must - no one has to be balling but spending within your means and trusting each other with money is a big thing
Religious compatibility - not huge for the couple but you better know what to do with the kids
Compromise - marriage is about achieving greater things together but you must compromise and sometimes, one side or the other has to "lose". But one side shouldn't lose all the time.
But I know, I know WHAT is in it for YOU for marriage? Well if you are a dude never content with his girl, always trying to upgrade or have a side piece or generally selfish and unwilling to compromise, yeah marriage isn't worth it. If you are tired of the thots, clubs, dating bullshyt, and want to build a good life with someone who you love and trust, hopefully achieving financial security and some wealth to pass to your children and build a better Black community, marriage is it.
1. @namastehomie is right, while love is essential, lovey dovey all the time and unrealistic romantic aspirations don't make a solid marriage. Real love is more than p*ssy or getting a hard on and requires true dedication which is sadly why many couples don't make it. You have to find someone who is both a good person, complement for you, and has their head on straight.
2. Marriage material isn't what society emphasizes: if you are looking to turn some IG thot into a housewife, don't do it. Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved
3. Don't let friends, family, or society force you to get married or marry someone (somehow I doubt this is a problem on the Coli)
4. Sexual compatibility is a must -- but good p*ssy doesn't mean you should get married
Financial compatibility is a must - no one has to be balling but spending within your means and trusting each other with money is a big thing
Religious compatibility - not huge for the couple but you better know what to do with the kids
Compromise - marriage is about achieving greater things together but you must compromise and sometimes, one side or the other has to "lose". But one side shouldn't lose all the time.
But I know, I know WHAT is in it for YOU for marriage? Well if you are a dude never content with his girl, always trying to upgrade or have a side piece or generally selfish and unwilling to compromise, yeah marriage isn't worth it. If you are tired of the thots, clubs, dating bullshyt, and want to build a good life with someone who you love and trust, hopefully achieving financial security and some wealth to pass to your children and build a better Black community, marriage is it.
Says the man who fell for his future wife 3 years after that song was released.Me give my heart to a woman?
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Before marriage:
Find yourself and understand want you truly want out of life (career, lifestyle, location, etc.)
Get stable with a career and/or business. Money is the number one cause of divorce for a reason. It partially destroyed my relationship with my ex.
As a man, understand you're taking up being held responsible for another person's livelihood. So, if you're truly a selfish person then do not get married.
Find yourself and understand want you truly want out of life (career, lifestyle, location, etc.)
Get stable with a career and/or business. Money is the number one cause of divorce for a reason. It partially destroyed my relationship with my ex.
As a man, understand you're taking up being held responsible for another person's livelihood. So, if you're truly a selfish person then do not get married.
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