Is it ever too late, to search for the "one"?

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

My buddy been telling me of stories of chicks, with a checklist of what a guy should have before the girls would go on a date or get into a relationship.

I am sure dude also have a gist of what the chick should be.

Most of those chicks are often 30 years old, childless. Even some of those chicks have babies...

From, what I hear the girls some to be a good catch on paper. Is it ever too late, to search for the "one"?

 

[MikelArteta]

no such thing as "the one"

 

[Brofato]

no such thing as "the one"

Came to say this. People miss out on a lot of shyt searching for that one person that they think the universe owes them.

The universe and life doesn't owe you shyt and lots of people waste time on that fairy tale shyt.

 

[MikelArteta]

Came to say this. People miss out on a lot of shyt searching for that one person that they think the universe owes them.

The universe and life doesn't owe you shyt and lots of people waste time on that fairy tale shyt.

the funny thing is if you look around alot of people who are married for years say 40/50 and their spouse dies they will get married again in a short span

i thought there was only one

 

[UserNameless]

There's "the one" who's most suitable for you...but it's always a gamble/risk. A calculated, informed risk, however, can save you a lifetime of discomfort.

With that said, you're gonna have to bend on some of the checklist stuff if you really wanna get married. Especially as you age, and if your dating pool is

I had this debate ad nauseam with folks, especially women, and many of them -- upper 20s and 30s -- aren't willing to bend on that checklist...well, they probably won't get married!

Just figure out which checklist items you're willing to bend on. It's not a bad thing because I guarantee she'd be compromising some of her checklist for you.

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

There's "the one" who's most suitable for you...but it's always a gamble/risk. A calculated, informed risk, however, can save you a lifetime of discomfort.

With that said, you're gonna have to bend on some of the checklist stuff if you really wanna get married. Especially as you age, and if your dating pool is

I had this debate ad nauseam with folks, especially women, and many of them -- upper 20s and 30s -- aren't willing to bend on that checklist...well, they probably won't get married!

Just figure out which checklist items you're willing to bend on. It's not a bad thing because I guarantee she'd be compromising some of her checklist for you.

whats the gamble/risk?

 

[kermit da hustla]

@ the one. No such thing. True love does not exist. The sooner you grasp that, the happier you'll be.

 

[UserNameless]

whats the gamble/risk?

So many variables you can't control for when you're dealing with people, life and their responses to stressors, etc.

You just never know.

After you've informed yourself -- via time, personality observations, STD tests, Credit score and criminal background checks -- etc., it really is a leap of faith. It's always better when you at least have feeling of certainty about the person. But again, you never know, as with most things in this life that don't involve science (even science can be relative...another discussion, tho).

All told, is that person worth you dealing with their imperfections for a lifetime? Is that person worth the monkey-wrenches that will likely thrown? Are you willing to continue ride it out? Is it, the person, the budding relationship worth it to YOU?

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Eh there's someone for everyone, just have fun.

 

[UserNameless]

Eh there's someone for everyone, just have fun.

Yup... I believe there are multiple "ones" ... if the seeker remains willing and open to some degree.

However, life is still life, and things can get real, even with "the one" you believe is most suitable for you.

 

[Elle Driver]

@ the one. No such thing. True love does not exist. The sooner you grasp that, the happier you'll be.

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

you dont believe in true love?

 

[UserNameless]

you dont believe in true love?

 

[Elle Driver]

you dont believe in true love?

When it comes to finding the one and having a true love, no I don't believe in it.

 

[Poh SIti Dawn]

Yup... I believe there are multiple "ones" ... if the seeker remains willing and open to some degree.

However, life is still life, and things can get real, even with "the one" you believe is most suitable for you.

Yeah. Think there's more than 1, people don't usually meet the love of their life as their first love. I think you love, you lose love, and as you get older the universe still throws you a love or two to teach you a lesson