is it me or after u turn 25 life gets real, I feel like Im losing my mind

[patscorpio]

its funny the year i turned 25, in 2007, was a difficult year for me...had to adjust to the real life after grad school, a bad and subsequent failed relationship, money situation tight, weight not coming off as easy as it did when i worked out, working a job i hated with a shift that i hated..the next year though everything improved like 200% barring the relationship part

 

[Elle Driver]

@Elle Driver There are suicide blogs out there where suiciders would blog until they died. Read them to gain perspective on what you really want. One girl was obsessed with dying, and as she came closer to her decision, she felt a tremendous sense of relief. She wasn't unhappy in her last entry, she had reached clarity and a sense of calm. All the comments were by people who didn't understand why she did it, they seemed pretty dumb compared to her.

Same with a guy from SF who blogged till the end. He was fed up with life and wasn't bout to deal with its potential bullshyt. He jumped off the GG bridge, with a defiant, relieved pose as he fell off.

They say that suicide is the same as telling God "You can't fire me... I quit."

You do realize this is like basically giving me ammo? If I read that shyt, I'll be obsessed, don't tempt me I've already gotten to a place where it's not occupying my thoughts 24/7. I'll be clear, I only developed suicide ideation because I lost the most important male figure in my life to suicide, and as a child that shyt is really devastating and hard to deal (I wanted to do the same and meet him, I guess) with especially if you're a woman. Plus, I have no brothers. My family has a history of mental illness, and since I'm not showing the same signs they are as of right now, as I grow older it probably will. That's the thing, and I'd rather just die before that even happens. I've witnessed it happening to my own dad, and I come from a somewhat Extremist Christian family so they don't take too lightly to that and they don't suggest therapy, they suggest finding Jesus.

 

[jfkennedy]

I'm 25 and I can attest to this.

It all really does seem bleak the more I think about it. And for me it isn't a money thing so much as it's a happiness thing. When I was younger I wanted millions (and I still do) but now it's more of a 'I want to live comfortably doing what I love'.

 

[Pinyapplesuckas]

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[TrapHouse Rock]

Bruh, thanks for this post. I'm 25 and been thinking about applying to Pharm School, but just felt like my time has passed me by. But fukk it I'ma go for it. I'll PM you one day to say I've been accepted.

do it if you want, for a lot of graduate schools the average age for members of the class are increasing


people are starting medical school in their 30s and 40s, who's stopping you at 25

 

[Liquid]

its funny the year i turned 25, in 2007, was a difficult year for me...had to adjust to the real life after grad school, a bad and subsequent failed relationship, money situation tight, weight not coming off as easy as it did when i worked out, working a job i hated with a shift that i hated..the next year though everything improved like 200% barring the relationship part

Yeah I've tried to explain to cats that 24-30 is going to be a time of great reflection for most. Relationships is probably the toughest one to figure out since you are going through growth and so is the other individual in your age group.

All those girls that might have looked over you during college? Many of them will contact you again in one way or another so the relationship aspect is something you just have to roll with. Inevitably the clock for women starts to tick, not as many guys are after them like they were in high school/college and if you have any meaningful impact on them earlier they will try to run back to you in one way or another. The other day I got a Facebook friend request from someone I barely remembered in college, I accepted because of all the mutuals, then she proceeded to thanking me just because I added her

I knew her intentions though. Turns out, she now has 2 kids, hates her job, is single and lonely. This has happened so many times to me already that I have lost count. I give a simple and clear answer, some say hurtful, but I think necessary. I am in a relationship and if I was single I don't date/see women who I met without children in the past, but now have them. Simple and straight to the point, I've been unfriended a few times and others have said they respect that about me.

As far as the job situation is concerned...we are all going through it now. I recently took a position in where I have to interact with many people during the day and see the faces of everyone coming through the door all depressed/angry that this is what they do 5 days a week. It really is a miserable way to live life. A whole lot of it has to do with planning, I'd rather work a minimum wage job than something that pays me double if it makes me happier. Obviously you need to plan before letting the better paying job go, save up at least a year outside of your savings...take a lower paying job that you will enjoy more/quit and rethink of other ways to make up that lost income. I think working 60 hours on things you love to do > working 40 hours in a place that you absolutely despise and think about not going back during all your off time.

 

[LostOne]

Get them IT certs brehs breh, you'll be making 150k easy like so many coli nikkas claim

Are you speaking from experience? If so what jobs, I hear IT has high layoff and is being outsourced.

 

[YouMadd?]

Mid twenties is not the time to be feeling down or sorry for yourself

Its the time to go out and take risks, fukk up, reach your potential... This 42 year old family friend of mine, very successful, told me he would trade his success for YOUTH any day of the week and this dude has a boat, seaplane, and oceanfront property in two states... Your youth is precious breh

You better enjoy this while you have it nikka.... I partied way to hard in college and those years (19-23) floated the fukk by... I barely remember that shyt... Now I am more laid back trying to make life as slow as possible and take it all in, because it zips by as you get older...

26... Going to Spain/France in November... Living life

From 26-35 before I settle down... I Just want to experience all the food, music, people, culture that I can...

 

[The Mad Titan]

Mid twenties is not the time to be feeling down or sorry for yourself

Its the time to go out and take risks, fukk up, reach your potential... This 42 year old family friend of mine, very successful, told me he would trade his success for YOUTH any day of the week and this dude has a boat, seaplane, and oceanfront property in two states... Your youth is precious breh

You better enjoy this while you have it nikka.... I partied way to hard in college and those years (19-23) floated the fukk by... I barely remember that shyt... Now I am more laid back trying to make life as slow as possible and take it all in, because it zips by as you get older...

26... Going to Spain/France in November... Living life

From 26-35 before I settle down... I Just want to experience all the food, music, people, culture that I can...

My people tell me this alll the time I use to lok at them like about 10 years ago's now I'm like.....



Enjoy your youth, try and plan ahead somewhat....

 

[#BOTHSIDES]

I'm 25 and don't feel like life is at its end or crumbling. The older I get, the better, happier and wiser I've become. I have little to no responsibilities tho besides student loans. I've been living abroad and having the best time of my life. The USA traditional life style ain't for me. Ppl dont really make money if you gon work a basic job.

I believe in buying nothing I don't need or that isn't necessary. No plans for a mortgage, car, loans, anythang. I feel so free and happy that I'm like that. I ca easily move to wherever I want. Decent amount of savings. Abroad has been good plus you learn that America isn't as great as you thank it is.

 

[Human Torch]

Man I just turned 23 and on paper I'm doing great. Great Job with a industry leader in their market. New promotion, moving to Dallas to help open and run a brand new Distribution Center but for some reason I'm not happy, or maybe content is the right word. I contribute it to a few things but mainly the fact that my mom and my dad are mid 40's stuck in the rat race still. I want to get to the point where I can break them off every month so they dont gotta work as hard.

I identify with @bdizzle while I dont make nearly as much, that hunger for more consumes me and I feel like I'm not doing enough but at the same time, I dont know what to do. I feel like I'm on the right path but this shyt aint happening fast enough. You get to the point where you don't know if patience is the key or if you should push harder.

My goal now is to keep working and advancing in this company, eventually go back for my MBA but more importantly start to find avenues to generate income outside of my job, learn the stock market and investing(not too educated in this at all), but I also gotta find something I'm passionate about that's lucrative too. I'm hoping when I move I can get around some good people moving in the right direction, colleagues and mentors in that respect that I can learn from.

shyt skressful bruh

 

[Human Torch]

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[↓R↑LYB]

You making 200K but aint donated to the coli!

I get paid in coli cash, bk said he wouldn't accept it

 

[PhonZhi]

damn yall sum depressed folks at such an early age i jus turned 30 and im JUST NOW having sum of these thoughts yall are having. maybe its cuz u guys grew up on the internet and FB or sumthing. go outside and have fun yall