Is it me or do a lot of married men just don’t like their families?

[ThrobbingHood]

nikkas in here telling on themselves

Mans really said getting married helps you get invited to more play dates

Yeah that had me-

When you get invited to family events, believe it or not, children will be around. Are y’all serious or just trolling?

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

Miss the point completely. Promotions are all done informally: family BBQs, day trips, camping etc. Unless the boss really really really likes you and trusts you, it’s highly unlikely you will get an invite if you’re still a bachelor.

ESPECIALLY IF THEY HAVE A SINGLE DAUGHTER.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

ESPECIALLY IF THEY HAVE A SINGLE DAUGHTER.

Breh, I sometimes can’t tell if some people on here are trolling me sometimes. These things are common sense.

 

[Jazzy B.]

I can only say do what’s best for you but having played the field and getting close to marrying soon, the bachelor life gets played out.

I’m not trying to scare brehs into relationships/marriage. You should play the field and get it out of your system in your 20s.

But once you get older, the value of having a quality woman is priceless. Dual income aside, a good woman is a positive reflection of yourself. It definitely opens more doors and whether you like it or not, married men garner a lot more respect. It may not be explicit but it’s definitely implied.

People are more willing to trust a married man around their children, invite them to social events and make sure they’re given more opportunities. When you’re single, people are a lot more on the fence with you.

“I’m not sure about him. Can we really trust him around our family? He may try and smash my wife/cousin/sister. This event is for families only.”

As opposed to:

“Oh invite the radiant one and his lovely wife/girlfriend. She’s such a delight. Last time she came her Mac and cheese was delicious. And the children love her.”

You definitely get excluded from alot more higher level events when you’re single. If Jay-Z was still being a bachelor since 2003, do you think he would’ve got to the level he’s at now? Or has being married made him more legitimate in the corporate world?

This is going to change with young Millennials and Gen Z.

They do NOT CARE about any of that.

You’re already seeing it with the Boomer vs Millennials/Gen Z WFH Cold War that is currently taking place.

 

[Sterling Archer]

Breh, I sometimes can’t tell if some people on here are trolling me sometimes. These things are common sense.

You trying too hard. Just speak for your particular circumstances and experiences because thats not everyone's, not even most. You want to liken it to upward mobility and trustworthiness in the workplace. I can tell you now, Ive worked for 2 different industry leaders, F500 companies. One of which was a role that gave me C level access but mostly regional VP and dept head access. I can tell you now, that shyt you were saying was NOT my experience nor anyone that was around me. Ive never NOT been a bachelor and it not only HASNT hindered me, its worked more in favor in these similar scenarios your presented. Ive made money and gotten accounts off being a bachelor among these men said were side-eyeing you. I had one basically try to get me to date her daughter.

They dont give a fukk about you or your wife. You not talking about small business owners or family owned businesses. Cause if you cant get a promotion in those work environments, it for damn sure isnt because of your marital status. So youre talking about big companies. I got that experience, they dont give a fukk. Accept that people dont agree with you instead of trying to make like you dropping dimes that no one else is privy to. Nixon not in office anymore. That dynamic you talking been dead or dying for decades.

 

[Roger king]

Alot of men can't see past the vanity all they care is about thier wives having big t*ts and a nice big butt the rest they don't care about. Marriage is serious buisness

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

most men are with women that dont make their dikk hard until they're having sex. so u go on vacation and see bad bytches wearing lingerie outside and making hard eye contact and its over. if u had a baddie at home you'd be good.

Bullshyt... Ask any dead gorgeous woman, rich, famous or regular... They'll all talk of multiple stories of being cheated on

As Chris Rock said, "Getting a man to stop chasing p*ssy gonna take some therapy... If you offer it to him for free, he's gonna take it."

 

[The ADD]

When you get invited to family events, believe it or not, children will be around. Are y’all serious or just trolling?

My family isn’t not inviting me to events because I’m single and they have concerns about me being around children.

 

[The ADD]

Miss the point completely. Promotions are all done informally: family BBQs, day trips, camping etc. Unless the boss really really really likes you and trusts you, it’s highly unlikely you will get an invite if you’re still a bachelor.

Lol so you think that is the standard across the board? I work at a global marketing firm and that isn’t not how it works there at all. Lol at promotion happening at little Timmy’s soccer game.

In a world of remote work in many industries you think upward mobility is still tied to that across the board? It’s not the 80’s any longer chief.

Either way you’ve lost the plot. Getting married to check a societal standards box is foolish and usually doesn’t end well.

 

[JLova]

If thry have young kids, I get it. You don’t really have any time to yourself to catch your breath. But over time it becomes your norm and you get used to it.

 

[hu3ypdadon]

A lot of men are not care givers so I don’t think marriages are the blame..Kids are ..when ppl have kids the relationship changes and a lot of women are ignorant to the fact men are not able to take care of a baby at the same level as females..and females get frustrated not understanding why they have to do everything for an infant..jealousy forms and before you know it partners start to hate each other..Men are good at being teachers and become better father the older the child gets(around 7 I would say ) and it’s funny because that’s around the time kids also start listening to thier father more than mother

 

[50CentStan]

Marry a woman not on her deen brehs i love going home to my fam

 

[The Radiant One]

You trying too hard. Just speak for your particular circumstances and experiences because thats not everyone's, not even most. You want to liken it to upward mobility and trustworthiness in the workplace. I can tell you now, Ive worked for 2 different industry leaders, F500 companies. One of which was a role that gave me C level access but mostly regional VP and dept head access. I can tell you now, that shyt you were saying was NOT my experience nor anyone that was around me. Ive never NOT been a bachelor and it not only HASNT hindered me, its worked more in favor in these similar scenarios your presented. Ive made money and gotten accounts off being a bachelor among these men said were side-eyeing you. I had one basically try to get me to date her daughter.

They dont give a fukk about you or your wife. You not talking about small business owners or family owned businesses. Cause if you cant get a promotion in those work environments, it for damn sure isnt because of your marital status. So youre talking about big companies. I got that experience, they dont give a fukk. Accept that people dont agree with you instead of trying to make like you dropping dimes that no one else is privy to. Nixon not in office anymore. That dynamic you talking been dead or dying for decades.

Facts you are expected to put in work and the thought of being promoted even if it’s true the data states transfering to a new job pays a lot more than most promotions

Getting married due to peer pressure lol. Again the fact that you support a family negates any money benefit for the promotions you would be better off on the tax return l

 

[Ziggiy]

All sounds good until divorce is part of the equation. I'm not saying you're wrong, but no fault divorce is a thing. If you get married in a state like California or somewhere else more "progressive" the judge will run your pockets in unimaginable ways. The more you look into divorce law, the scarier it is. To the point that I don't think I'd ever get married or divorced in a state like California.

You can be divorced and free or you can be married & miserable. I’m not saying its easy at ALL but what i’m saying is that as a man, life is going to be hard no matter what. At the very least you shod have a few nonnegotiable expectations that you are willing to stand on regardless of anything. Being stuck in a marriage where you aren’t loved or appreciated to the point where your wife won’t even have sex with you is crazy. A divorce that runs your pockets can still open you up to opportunities to start over. It’ll be hard but there is a pathway towards happiness

This is coming from someone who filed for a divorce and had to pay for that liberation. Trust me the freedom to start over and redefine my own happiness was preferable to being chained to an ungrateful woman

 

[The Radiant One]

You can be divorced and free or you can be married & miserable. I’m not saying its easy at ALL but what i’m saying is that as a man, life is going to be hard no matter what. At the very least you shod have a few nonnegotiable expectations that you are willing to stand on regardless of anything. Being stuck in a marriage where you aren’t loved or appreciated to the point where your wife won’t even have sex with you is crazy. A divorce that runs your pockets can still open you up to opportunities to start over. It’ll be hard but there is a pathway towards happiness

This is coming from someone who filed for a divorce and had to pay for that liberation. Trust me the freedom to start over and redefine my own happiness was preferable to being chained to an ungrateful woman

Or you can just have a girlfriend…