is life bigger than beef?
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Make a rap video dissing his brother.
Literally choked on air reading this. What is wrong with you
desjardins
Veteran
If you cut someone off and someone in their family died, you ain't obligated to say nothing more than "that's crazy" in your head and go on with your life
They probably not even wondering about you if it's been years since yall spoke
It sound like you trying use this grieving period as an opportunity to mend the friendship, which is something different.
They probably not even wondering about you if it's been years since yall spoke
It sound like you trying use this grieving period as an opportunity to mend the friendship, which is something different.
Literally choked on air reading this. What is wrong with you
Literally the first thing that popped into my head.
OP..
Yes, there is more to life that holding on to past beefs.
Also, remember that people who enter your life have their specific roles. Some friendships will be temporary while others will be for a lifetime.
I have learned that one will be
to have a few lifelong friends, if that? The rest will come & go at various stages of your life.
If you can learn to forgive and let bygones be bygones, then that would be good for your overall mental and emotional well-being.
However, letting go of past conflicts and forgiving doesn't necessarily mean that you and those you may have had conflicts with will rekindle the friendship.
Pay your respects &, extend your condolences to your ex homie and his family, even if done so from a distance and go on with your life.
If it is meant for y'all to become homies again, then cool. If not, then cool.
Yes, there is more to life that holding on to past beefs.
Also, remember that people who enter your life have their specific roles. Some friendships will be temporary while others will be for a lifetime.
I have learned that one will be
to have a few lifelong friends, if that? The rest will come & go at various stages of your life.If you can learn to forgive and let bygones be bygones, then that would be good for your overall mental and emotional well-being.
However, letting go of past conflicts and forgiving doesn't necessarily mean that you and those you may have had conflicts with will rekindle the friendship.
Pay your respects &, extend your condolences to your ex homie and his family, even if done so from a distance and go on with your life.
If it is meant for y'all to become homies again, then cool. If not, then cool.
I had something similar happen when I would go back to Baltimore during summer and Christmas breaks. I would get joked about not having money, joked about no-one knowing anything about the school I was going to (silly joke, because everyone knew who looked at colleges beyond just sports). Jokes about me not hanging with them when they went off to do somethings.
My response to it all was to just laugh with them, because I knew I would have the last laugh in the end. I got the main one back after I graduated when his girlfriend asked me how much I made. I told her, her eyes lit up, his head went down. That was enough get back for me. I then took them out to eat at a waterside restaurant and talked about old times.
So yea, contact your old friend. You both may have gone your separate ways and live different lives, but you can still give him your condolences about his brother whom I assume you also at least knew in passing.
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Complexion
ʇdᴉɹɔsǝɥʇdᴉlɟ
You can either look at the pieces on the floor wondering "What happened?" or you can leave em where they are and move on.
Not everyone who started the journey with you is destined to walk it alongside you till the end. Things happen, either small or dramatic. If you cut someone off for good reasons (ie not acting like an emotional little bish) then it is what it is.
The fact you made this thread means you need to do some soul searching, breh. Process the past to unwrap the gift of the present.
Not everyone who started the journey with you is destined to walk it alongside you till the end. Things happen, either small or dramatic. If you cut someone off for good reasons (ie not acting like an emotional little bish) then it is what it is.
The fact you made this thread means you need to do some soul searching, breh. Process the past to unwrap the gift of the present.
africngiant
All Star
doesn’t God say to forgive though? especially in a time like this. i knew the person personally too and he got killed
Complexion
ʇdᴉɹɔsǝɥʇdᴉlɟ
What does your heart say? What are your reasons for cutting off and now wanting to reconnect now that someone is dead? 72 hours ago your mind was different. What flipped? What do you hope to gain? Are your motives pure or selfish? Are you looking for some kind of redemption arc? Tying up lose ends? Putting things back to the way they were like a form of emotional time travel? Being a nice guy? Seeming supportive?
These are the kind of questions you should be asking yourself to ascertain your motive, not posting on the Coli. Also note that emotions are manipulative things and you yourself said you're holding onto resentment. That is simply residual energy which had the label hate a couple of days ago and now has been shifted to guilt which can then just as easily end up as regret as you think "Why the hell did I let this fool back in my life? I knew I cut him off for a reason". Process it via introspection to release and then you'll see from an even keel without the tint you're obviously feeling in the present that is manifesting as indecision and confusion.
This isn't about whoever is getting embalmed at this moment. Its about you, your inner realm, your history and narrative.
africngiant
All Star
i still shed a tear so fukk it
Complexion
ʇdᴉɹɔsǝɥʇdᴉlɟ
Thats good, I'm not saying you should stifle your emotions, far from it, I urge you to explore them in order to free yourself from their grip.
The way I see it if someone is cut off with a cool head its for the best because they line stepped and were dealt with. Whatever happens after is on them. Go grab a pad and pen and write out your narrative that deals with the dude who is still living then another one about the one who is dead. Read them back and use the points raised to reflect as this will allow you to generate perspective and make the correct decision.
The way I see it if someone is cut off with a cool head its for the best because they line stepped and were dealt with. Whatever happens after is on them. Go grab a pad and pen and write out your narrative that deals with the dude who is still living then another one about the one who is dead. Read them back and use the points raised to reflect as this will allow you to generate perspective and make the correct decision.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
Bruh, it’s always a “time like this.” Niccas be dying all day every day.
I’ll say this doe: if you cut somebody off because they said some wild chit,
it REALLY ain’t the time to speak to them when they’ve had a loss - because that’s when
we tend to say the most wild stuff.
If you really got it on your mind like that, you can just send a quick text about his brother
but keep it on topic