Is running away an option for my cousin? EDIT *Talked to my cousin to wait a little while longer*

[DreadBrown]

Nah its not the right thing he sound ungrateful as fukk.

One if the reasons west indians are fukked up economically is the 'get out and get a job as soon asap' mentality. We spend our early adult lives just trying to keep our heads above the water.
You're uncle is try to support his son through his education and his solution is to run away? No offence but your cousin sound like he still needs to be at home.

 

[plushcarpet]

Nah its not the right thing he sound ungrateful as fukk.

One if the reasons west indians are fukked up economically is the 'get out and get a job as soon asap' mentality. We spend our early adult lives just trying to keep our heads above the water.
You're uncle is try to support his son through his education and his solution is to run away? No offence but your cousin sound like he still needs to be at home.

you can still be a douchebag even if your intentions are good

 

[Fun Sized Psycho]

Does your cousin have a plan? Who is get going to stay with? How long can he stay there? Is going to work? If so, where is he going to work?
He can't just leave without a backup plan.

 

[DreadBrown]

you can still be a douchebag even if your intentions are good

Sometimes you have to be, thats that tough love.

 

[plushcarpet]

Sometimes you have to be, thats that tough love.

there's a limit to that though
you still have to raise a kid to be mentally ready for the real world

OPs cousin does not sound like he's capable of functioning on his own at 24, that's not a good sign

 

[ZoeGod]

Does your cousin have a plan? Who is get going to stay with? How long can he stay there? Is going to work? If so, where is he going to work?
He can't just leave without a backup plan.

He says he gonna move with a cousin of ours who has his own place in queens. I told him to get a job fast cuz no one will make u stay for free. He plans to work, study to get into graduate school by takin the GREs. I dont think he knows what he is getting himself into tho. I support him but i told him his life will change dramatically for better and worse.

 

[ZoeGod]

Does your cousin have a plan? Who is get going to stay with? How long can he stay there? Is going to work? If so, where is he going to work?
He can't just leave without a backup plan.

He said if worst comes to worst he would join the airforce.

 

[360dagod]

He has to do him.

If his man is a man, he will eventually get over it. If not, I have a very similar family situation. I struck out on my own and did me, and it all worked out for the best.

What I think is happening is your uncle is a control freak, and he is fearful of all the things going on in this new country he doesn't know anything about. Education is the only sure bet. I know EXACTLY where he is coming from. Ultimately though education doesn't mean much if you can't get employment. Your cousin needs to start his life.

Is this a caribbean thing??

My friend from Antigua is going thru the same thing

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Is this a caribbean thing??

My friend from Antigua is going thru the same thing

It's a black immigrant thing. My family is Ghanaian. Education is important, but so is the man of the household's status and control over everyone in his family, whether or not he is right or wrong. It's a real problem.

 

[360dagod]

19 with a 6pm Curfew

He was warming the p*ssy up for the nikka in the bullpen

 

[ZoeGod]

Nah its not the right thing he sound ungrateful as fukk.

One if the reasons west indians are fukked up economically is the 'get out and get a job as soon asap' mentality. We spend our early adult lives just trying to keep our heads above the water.
You're uncle is try to support his son through his education and his solution is to run away? No offence but your cousin sound like he still needs to be at home.

The way i see things his pops has his best intentions at heart but is very scared of what the outside world holds for his sons. But this is way too extreme. My pops was strict but he learned to get less strict as i got older. I worked since i was 17 and at least have a social life. At least i have a drivers license and work experience. And i have had broads(although this winter my roster fell off ). He is a 24 yea r old virgin that never kissed a broad nor work experience. That is way too extreme. I am for tough love but damn that is crazy extreme.

 

[ZoeGod]

19 with a 6pm Curfew

He was warming the p*ssy up for the nikka in the bullpen

 

[360dagod]

The way i see things his pops has his best intentions at heart but is very scared of what the outside world holds for his sons. But this is way too extreme. My pops was strict but he learned to get less strict as i got older. I worked since i was 17 and at least have a social life. At least i have a drivers license and work experience. And i have had broads(although this winter my roster fell off ). He is a 24 yea r old virgin that never kissed a broad nor work experience. That is way too extreme. I am for tough love but damn that is crazy extreme.

24 years old...

its still a chance to save him...

take him under your wing

 

[25YOUTHS!!]

Coming from an immigrant family I the struggle breh.
Real talk tho tell your cousin to confront his dad like a man and be prepared for the consequences, which at this point don't seem as bad as the consequences tbh. What's his dad gon do, kick him out and disown him? Mission accomplished!
@24 I don't think it can be called "running away" tho, maybe time for him to finally move out.
If he already got his bachelors degree why move back home if he knew shyt was gon be like this?

TBH your uncle sounds mad insecure and controlling. At 24 he should be treating his son like a man and plotting how to come up as a family, not controlling him like an adolescent. Why's he worried about his mom and lil bro? Does his dad have a history of beating on em and your cousin is the one who regulates, or does he think the dad will take it out on them if he leaves?

 

[agnosticlady]

First thing's first....Your cousin NEEDS to get a form of employment and have money coming in......He can run away if he wants to, but if he has no money then he is stuck.Children who were raised around extreme control freaks often suffer because they still want to please their parents due to come psychological abuse.

@ZoeGod believe me when I say this. Your father does not want him gaining his own money, because it means the end of his control and the beginning of his sons independence. Money = independence to a large extent. Make sure he get's direct deposit.