Is therapy really beneficial ?

[K1ngScorp]

I guess it all depends on if your issues seem out of your control and you want to fix them versus you embracing your issues and don't want to change.

Do you want therapy or do you just want to vent?

There's always someone who vents to people just to humble brag about how this dysfunctional their life is as a badge of honor

Naw I dead ass need it. I’ve done all the self help stuff like meditation , journaling all that stuff you find on Google and while they “work” it seems only temporary. Hoping this therapist can help me hash out all these issues .

 

[Rawtid]

Depends on what you’re looking to get out it. I see it as sharing my problem with goal of gaining tools to deal with situations in my life. If I build the right set of tools, life should be a whole lot easier.

If you’re looking to get answers or solve problems, it may not be as effective.

 

[Commish]

This a bar. I’m def going into it optimistally

Good to hear! I applaud you for being proactive in seeking therapy! Says a lot about you handling business like a grown ass man!

I hope it goes well for you!

Salute to ya!

 

[Thegospel]

Before following any advice on here look at their post history and see if you're listening to a man that is at peace with themselves. You must not know your surroundings

 

[threattonature]

I've been doing it for a year and I don't feel like its done anything for me. I want to take responsibility for the way that my life is turning out and the therapist always finds a way to say that I'm being too hard on myself or that certain things are out of my control. Hearing that doesn't make me feel better and hasn't helped me to improve myself. Going to therapy has just made me feel that nobody can really help me except myself, so it's pointless to keep trying to find answers from other people.

I would find a new therapist. Just like every other industry there are good and bad ones. I personally believe too many therapists aren't confrontational enough and just act as a sounding board instead of forcing people to confront their role at the fukked up situations in their life.

I went to a therapist once for about five sessions. For one, it didn't help it was this thick ass cute white girl with the business skirt on that showed just enough leg. I wanted to smash so bad. But then also it was more conversational than I was expecting with a lot of back and forth.

What threw me off is her asking why I'm even in therapy. She basically told me therapy for a lot of clients is a platform for them to talk through and think through their problems in life and the causes of them. She said that I already do that and I self analyze enough and that I'm honest enough and self aware enough that she didn't think there was any point in me going to therapy. I told her it was nice to be able to bounce ideas off of someone else.

We made another appointment which went normal. Then she had to cancel our next appointment and then the one after that had an emergency that caused her to cancel last minute and was supposed to call me back to reschedule and I never heard back. I low key thought I had a chance to smash. Our sessions always went long as she'd want to keep the conversation going even after the time was up. Had me wait to walk out with her since I was the last appointment of the day and we talked at her car for a bit.

I need to find a new one but definitely want a black one as I feel a white therapist can't fully relate to a lot of the issues I was experiencing.

 

[Jcotton1]

Yep I'm an advocate for it. I assume you are a breh. Back outside of my Pops hometown they have a mental health gym.

 

[NSSVO]

My therapist found out some shyt I didn’t know about myself