Is this a personality disorder or do ppl do this on purpose?

[Aceofspades404]

Let's say you go out of your way for this person when they are in need but when the situation is reversed that person is nowhere to be found. You decide to distant yourself and say no to them when they ask for anymore favors. They then turn around and play victim and turn people against you by claiming that they have done so much for you. It's like they have selective amnesia and only think about themselves in situations without regard to anyone else.
This person is so manipulative to the point that she will involve other people in her wrong doings just so she won't look bad. She doesn't see anything wrong with her behavior at all. If she does something wrong, she will twist it in a way that makes her innocent and will never apologize. I've made a thread about her before on here (she's dating her best friends ex boyfriend) She's just so toxic and I feel like she needs to hear about herself but I'm at the point where I just don't care anymore and leave her be to ruin other people's lives.

 

[Dirty_Jerz]

Both

 

[WeDemBoyz]

Call it what it is: bytchassness.

 

[Big Boda]

sounds like church folk i've run into before. Trill listen.. the best power you can have is when people know you can send them out of your life any moment they start doing fake funny style shyt like you described.

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

You sound weak.

I asked people who always ask others for "help". They say they pick those who seem the weakest.

 

[Aceofspades404]

You sound weak.

I asked people who always ask others for "help". They say they pick those who seem the weakest.

I wouldn't call myself weak, I just have a really big heart and was taken advantage of. But I've learned and grown from it

 

[Dwolf]

Let's say you go out of your way for this person when they are in need but when the situation is reversed that person is nowhere to be found. You decide to distant yourself and say no to them when they ask for anymore favors. They then turn around and play victim and turn people against you by claiming that they have done so much for you. It's like they have selective amnesia and only think about themselves in situations without regard to anyone else.
This person is so manipulative to the point that she will involve other people in her wrong doings just so she won't look bad. She doesn't see anything wrong with her behavior at all. If she does something wrong, she will twist it in a way that makes her innocent and will never apologize. I've made a thread about her before on here (she's dating her best friends ex boyfriend) She's just so toxic and I feel like she needs to hear about herself but I'm at the point where I just don't care anymore and leave her be to ruin other people's lives.

Its not a personality disorder. She was just taking advantage of you.

 

[ProfessionallyTrill]

Let the word "NO" be your friend.

You can always say yes later. Usually by the time you can "save the day" they've already found another sucker.

 

[Beerus]

shyt happens.
People will disappoint you.
You just have to make sure you are sheltered when it occurs.
Me? I except all to disappoint me.

 

[Wildin]

The first paragraph is not, the second paragraph could possibly be.

As an individual you dont want to not trust anybody because you dont feel that people are trustworthy. Trust others and let others trust you, once the trust is voided, dont trust again. Some people would say forgive but you already know, if you can be trusted then you need to trust others and they arent there then they are just going to continue to use you. Trust is a two way street, give and take.

 

[Ezus Jezus]

sounds like a sociopath to be honest.