Is this how most women deal with a break up?
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Sadly, poor thing.
They find a new "boyfriend" for the comfort factor, but still fukk other dudes to show aggression toward ex, so in turn, she gets "revenge" at the expense of a good guy's feelings
Women are insane.
I remember this one chick I broke up with who had a similarly confusing response.
I knew very early on it wasn't gonna be a meaningful, lasting relationship, but I continued to see her in hopes that maybe I would change my mind because she was a nice girl, very different from the ratchet hoes I was used to at the time. But I began to see that I had to navigate a way out without hurting her, as she had some abandonment issues from previous relationship as well as family stuff.
One day she texts me saying that we need to talk. My reply "you wanna stop seeing each other?". She asked why I thought that, and then said she wanted to talk in person about this. I said a phone call will suffice.
Her: So I don't wanna hurt you, but I just don't...
Me: Lemme stop you there. I agree. This just isn't it. There's no real spark. It's cool. I think this is the best thing.
Her: Oh. Ok. That's good.
Me: Yeah, no worries, we're cool, just wasn't a good match.
Her: I see. So how long have you felt this way?
Me:
Her: Well have you already started talking to other women.
Me: Nah nothing like that. Anyway, sorry to cut this short, but I gotta go, I'm meeting my friends.
Her: Well have fun. Maybe you'll meet the woman of your dreams tonight
Me:
She then proceeds to text me throughout the night asking the same questions. When I ignored her and took her off my FB friends list (but didn't block - I just don't keep exs on there), she sent an angry text asking why I did that, and that I must have been really hurt by her.
All I said back was "LOL, I'm good, don't worry".
Moral is, even when a woman breaks up with you, they want to be desired.
I remember this one chick I broke up with who had a similarly confusing response.
I knew very early on it wasn't gonna be a meaningful, lasting relationship, but I continued to see her in hopes that maybe I would change my mind because she was a nice girl, very different from the ratchet hoes I was used to at the time. But I began to see that I had to navigate a way out without hurting her, as she had some abandonment issues from previous relationship as well as family stuff.
One day she texts me saying that we need to talk. My reply "you wanna stop seeing each other?". She asked why I thought that, and then said she wanted to talk in person about this. I said a phone call will suffice.
Her: So I don't wanna hurt you, but I just don't...
Me: Lemme stop you there. I agree. This just isn't it. There's no real spark. It's cool. I think this is the best thing.
Her: Oh. Ok. That's good.
Me: Yeah, no worries, we're cool, just wasn't a good match.
Her: I see. So how long have you felt this way?
Me:
Her: Well have you already started talking to other women.
Me: Nah nothing like that. Anyway, sorry to cut this short, but I gotta go, I'm meeting my friends.
Her: Well have fun. Maybe you'll meet the woman of your dreams tonight
Me:
She then proceeds to text me throughout the night asking the same questions. When I ignored her and took her off my FB friends list (but didn't block - I just don't keep exs on there), she sent an angry text asking why I did that, and that I must have been really hurt by her.
All I said back was "LOL, I'm good, don't worry".
Moral is, even when a woman breaks up with you, they want to be desired.
I did the exact same thing at one time. But in retrospect i was just sitting around waiting for her to leave, the relationship had been over for like six months. I felt nothing so i said nothing when she left. More than 18 months in, not one word but "alright...take care" and i left. Foul, looking back.
You have to learn from experience, you're never going to handle everything the best way first time you do it. That goes for men and women, in my opinion though women repeat the same cycle more often. Same range of emotions/attitude. A man has his heart broken once and after that he realizes the world doesn't end with any one person leaving.
You have to learn from experience, you're never going to handle everything the best way first time you do it. That goes for men and women, in my opinion though women repeat the same cycle more often. Same range of emotions/attitude. A man has his heart broken once and after that he realizes the world doesn't end with any one person leaving.
MadameMoreaux
Pro
Agreed. If you're emotionally involved with someone it can be devastating. Let me guess, no one on here has had a broken heart
Doobie Doo
Veteran
This is why I tell nikkas, the worst thing u can do to a female is ignore them. Any type of attention even negative attention is better than being ignored.
The whole "Know your worth" thing has a lot of women with low self-esteem WAAAAY in over their heads as far as significance in a relationship goes. They don't consider themselves expendable or take their L's as a chance for self-improvement. If someone doesn't want them, it's everyone's fault but their own. Instead of getting bitter & sobbing about it, more should just focus on getting better. 
Someone said it best in the "Quick gems" thread: There are as many women willing to buckle down for love & a stable relationship with a man as there are men out here willing to give a woman the dikk.
Can't be surprised if you're going to test a guy's allegiance and he's not groveling at your feet because if you're a solid-enough dude, there's always going to be a chick out there willing to conform to your needs because happy to have someone interested in them...and just them for however long.
Someone said it best in the "Quick gems" thread: There are as many women willing to buckle down for love & a stable relationship with a man as there are men out here willing to give a woman the dikk.
Can't be surprised if you're going to test a guy's allegiance and he's not groveling at your feet because if you're a solid-enough dude, there's always going to be a chick out there willing to conform to your needs because happy to have someone interested in them...and just them for however long.
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
I don't think anyone does.
I don't think anyone does.
As a guy, you're criticized throughout a relationship. You have to call enough, text enough, initiate dates, stay in shape, keep your car on point, have a job, show that you're thinking about her, be charming, sensitive, and witty enough to keep her entertained and interested. If not (and this isn't all cases...but more often than not), you're going to hear about it.
...as a chick, you basically just have to look good, be available, and be agreeable/non-confrontational in order for it to work. It's not TOO often that a guy's going to hit you up like "Hey...you don't seem like you spend enough time with me. You seem distant. Is something wrong? We need to talk about us." :yikesvince:
A lot of women (attractive and not-so-attractive) can fill the role of someone that's genuinely interested in you as a guy. A lot of women just tend to love hard. Nothing wrong with that...that's just emotions for ya.
Finding an attractive guy that's genuinely down for you and willing to put up with everything to be with you? A guy that gets super emotionally-invested without being creepy, on the other hand?
Ashley Banks
All I ever wanted was the world
As a guy, you're criticized throughout a relationship. You have to call enough, text enough, initiate dates, stay in shape, keep your car on point, have a job, show that you're thinking about her, be charming, sensitive, and witty enough to keep her entertained and interested. If not (and this isn't all cases...but more often than not), you're going to hear about it.
...as a chick, you basically just have to look good, be available, and be agreeable/non-confrontational in order for it to work. It's not TOO often that a guy's going to hit you up like "Hey...you don't seem like you spend enough time with me. You seem distant. Is something wrong? We need to talk about us." :yikesvince:
A lot of women can fill the role of someone that's genuinely interested in you as a guy. A lot of women just tend to love hard. Nothing wrong with that...that's just emotions for ya.
Finding a guy that's genuinely down for you and willing to put up with everything to be with you? A guy that gets super emotionally-invested without being creepy, on the other hand?
So, a woman should feel like she's expendable when she's in a relationship?