Issues holding back the black community
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Field Marshall Bradley
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Field Marshall Bradley
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philmonroe
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Man you just have to realize everybody seems to have the same goal we see different paths of getting there. You gotta realize that and on here your view isn't popular. Somewhere else it maybe but that's just how it goes and I've come to realize that. Don't mean people shouldn't speak their mind but realize we all have had different experiences that influence how we think.
havoc
Superstar
Everything starts @ home. Growing up in Baltimore, I can count on 1 hand how many dudes fathers were around. It was always the "Mother" or "Grandma" taking care of them. Alot of yall pass over this issue on here and i assume its because nobody knows how to tackle the issue, so its easier to say "Practice Group Economics". When we bring up other cultures ( Indians, Asians ), we always talk about how they practice group economics, But we always overlook that they take marriage seriously, there's no such thing as a "baby mamma" or " single mother". Both parents are always in the home, I can see the disbelief on some of their faces when I tell them "my son doesn't live with me" , they truly do not understand the concept of the Father and Mother not being together.I also assume the reason why alot of yall skip over this subject is because you aren't a parent, so you don't see on a daily basis the influence you have over somebody ( Its truly nothing like it ).
To give an example, I have 2 female cousins. Both about the same age. One was raised by just her mother and the other one had both parents in the home. The single mother one was has a kid( she's like 21 - 24 ), out here having 3somes ,broke and really has no future. The other one just graduated from John Hopkins and has a job as some sort of Designer with an office over looking the Harbor, with a boyfriend whose a personal trainer.They don't even hang out with each other even though they live like 10 minutes from each other.
My other cousin passed away a few months back from a drug overdoes, him and his other 2 siblings were raised by my grandmother, who was really to old to be raising them. She had to raise them because my Aunt was a junkie and the father wasn't around.
My 18 yr old nephew Father has been in prison his whole life, So are you surprised to hear my nephew has been in and out of jail himself and currently on house arrest?
I don't mean to speak in absolutes, But you have to see the connection here. I grew up with both of my parents and still spend the night over there sometimes , I made about 90K this year w/ no college degree, while everybody else I know who grew up in my hood are either dead, In prison or working some bum ass job and I don't remember meeting any of their fathers.. No disrespect to females, But they can't raise a man by themselves. There view on the world is totally different and I'm reminded of that when dealing with my sons mother and how to raise him.
This issue is probably the #1 least talked about issue when we start talking about the black community and its because its easier to name the other solutions because how can you tell a man to take care of his kid? How can we tell nikkas to stop fukking random hoes and think its a trophy? How can we tell dudes to stop referring to our females as "bytches,hoes,thots"? Its a thousand times easier to say "Start a business" or only shop at black owned stores. But start saying lets get rid of degrading our females and start thinking about marriage ( like other cultures ) and nikkas will be likeand that same attiude is the reason our females are the leaders of the community.
The truth hurts
Another thing holding us back, this lightskin vs darkskin shyt 
I'm sick and tired of these color struck c00ns out here creating division in our race because of skin tone, nikka we all black
I'm sick and tired of these color struck c00ns out here creating division in our race because of skin tone, nikka we all black
InDePickWest
Im Not American
Having a baby instead of getting married...because marriage is serious 
philmonroe
Superstar
Do you or anybody think this is a real problem offline? I'm seriously asking cause I don't see this play out as often as some cats online make it seem. I said before silly dudes like in the light girls documentary I don't run into IRL that's why that shyt is weird to me.Another thing holding us back, this lightskin vs darkskin shyt
Yes I do run into this problem offline, I'm in the south and it's very prevalent down here
Nomad1
Tupac KONY and GOAT
# of births outside wedlock
Field Marshall Bradley
Veteran
Everything starts @ home. Growing up in Baltimore, I can count on 1 hand how many dudes fathers were around. It was always the "Mother" or "Grandma" taking care of them. Alot of yall pass over this issue on here and i assume its because nobody knows how to tackle the issue, so its easier to say "Practice Group Economics". When we bring up other cultures ( Indians, Asians ), we always talk about how they practice group economics, But we always overlook that they take marriage seriously, there's no such thing as a "baby mamma" or " single mother". Both parents are always in the home, I can see the disbelief on some of their faces when I tell them "my son doesn't live with me" , they truly do not understand the concept of the Father and Mother not being together.I also assume the reason why alot of yall skip over this subject is because you aren't a parent, so you don't see on a daily basis the influence you have over somebody ( Its truly nothing like it ).
To give an example, I have 2 female cousins. Both about the same age. One was raised by just her mother and the other one had both parents in the home. The single mother one was has a kid( she's like 21 - 24 ), out here having 3somes ,broke and really has no future. The other one just graduated from John Hopkins and has a job as some sort of Designer with an office over looking the Harbor, with a boyfriend whose a personal trainer.They don't even hang out with each other even though they live like 10 minutes from each other.
My other cousin passed away a few months back from a drug overdoes, him and his other 2 siblings were raised by my grandmother, who was really to old to be raising them. She had to raise them because my Aunt was a junkie and the father wasn't around.
My 18 yr old nephew Father has been in prison his whole life, So are you surprised to hear my nephew has been in and out of jail himself and currently on house arrest?
I don't mean to speak in absolutes, But you have to see the connection here. I grew up with both of my parents and still spend the night over there sometimes , I made about 90K this year w/ no college degree, while everybody else I know who grew up in my hood are either dead, In prison or working some bum ass job and I don't remember meeting any of their fathers.
This issue is probably the #1 least talked about issue when we start talking about the black community and its because its easier to name the other solutions because how can you tell a man to take care of his kid? How can we tell nikkas to stop fukking random hoes and think its a trophy? How can we tell dudes to stop referring to our females as "bytches,hoes,thots"? Its a thousand times easier to say "Start a business" or only shop at black owned stores. But start saying lets get rid of degrading our females and start thinking about marriage ( like other cultures ) and nikkas will be like
Nomad1
Tupac KONY and GOAT
i never said that
philmonroe
Superstar
Im not saying it don't happen up north but down south I did see it more often.