It's fukked up to have kids, and then go and start another family and focus on them more

[Formerly Black Trash]

You're essentially putting your own happiness before the kids that already exist
Because you found a new woman and want that family feeling with her instead

The kids you already have should be your responsibility before you make more

 

[old pig]

absolutely is…it’s disgusting and shameful imo

 

[eXodus]

You're essentially putting your own happiness before the kids that already exist
Because you found a new woman and want that family feeling with her instead

The kids you already have should be your responsibility before you make more

My grand pop did this (god rest his soul)

Can’t help to think at times if my mom and aunt would have been better positioned in life if he prioritised his initial nuclear family smh

 

[Estarossa]

Apparently my grandfather did this to my dad and his brother and sisters… left my grandma for a white bytch and took care of her kids.

I never met him, not that I care, and just found out his name last week.

 

[MoveForward]

So what is a man to do? As we know, women end the relationship/marriage an overwhelming majority of the time, so I’m supposed to just stay single and not move on with my life and cultivate whatever comes with moving on?

 

[Still Benefited]

The proccess of a bedbuck,I see it all too often

We already have the cycle of bedwenches,times to make one that shows a black man starting out with a black family.Abandoning them and suddenly being Mr Family man with his exotical/white woman and mulatto children.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

So what is a man to do? As we know, women end the relationship/marriage an overwhelming majority of the time, so I’m supposed to just stay single and not move on with my life and cultivate whatever comes with moving on?

Take care of your original kids and get them out the house first
Whether you with the mom or not
It's accepted in today's society, same as moving in a new siginifact other/spouse

I think there are instances where it's done properly but there are a lot where it's not

 

[old pig]

My grand pop did this (god rest his soul)

Can’t help to think at times if my mom and aunt would have been better positioned in life if he prioritised his initial nuclear family smh

same same same same same…fortunately my pops is a decent man…she’s always said in some ways he’s more than a husband and like a brother, father, confidante at times…but ya growing up I remember her lamenting about how she felt about her pops not being there when she was younger…they’re always in touch now…I’ve met him 3x…the 3 sons he did raise are extremely successful as is he but it’s still scumbag shyt bcuz he had my aunt who I grew up knowing (who also grew up w/o him) but he had at least 2 sons that he’s never met that my mom and her aunts were able to track down…one died without even knowing that dude was his father…

…I shouldn’t laugh but to show you how fukked up the shyt is my mother still refers to him occasionally as “uncle _______” bcuz she was raised by his sisters and grew up with his nieces and nephews…absolutely ridiculous shyt smh

 

[Taadow]

I absolutely agree.




...but let’s do an exercise:

You're essentially putting your own happiness before the kids that already exist
Because you found a new woman and want that family feeling with her instead

The kids you already have should be your responsibility before you make more

Change the words in bold to “man” and “him”, consecutively.

Do you still think it is as “fukked up”?

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

I absolutely agree.




...but let’s do an exercise:




Change the words in bold to “man” and “him”, consecutively.

Do you still think it is as “fukked up”?

Take care of your original kids and get them out the house first
Whether you with the mom or not
It's accepted in today's society, same as moving in a new siginifact other/spouse

I think there are instances where it's done properly but there are a lot where it's not

Let's be real tho...most women at least stay in the house with their kids
It's why we(or at least me) arewhen we see a woman that's not

 

[FaTaL]

It happens all the time

I know a lady who had a kid when she was 20 and the father ran away and started a family and ignores their child. Didn’t even acknowledge when the child graduated from school or even pay child support

 

[Thegospel]

The proccess of a bedbuck,I see it all too often

We already have the cycle of bedwenches,times to make one that shows a black man starting out with a black family.Abandoning them and suddenly being Mr Family man with his exotical/white woman and mulatto children.

See, now you dont want correction here but Ima give it anyway. Why is race the focus when you know good and well it happens more with same race people? If you think black men leave their childs black mother for a white woman more than they leave their childs black woman for another black woman.......you sir are a liar.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

It happens all the time

I know a lady who had a kid when she was 20 and the father ran away and started a family and ignores their child. Didn’t even acknowledge when the child graduated from school or even pay child support

Happened to my cousins

 

[Taadow]

Take care of your original kids and get them out the house first
Whether you with the mom or not
It's accepted in today's society, same as moving in a new siginifact other/spouse

I think there are instances where it's done properly but there are a lot where it's not

I don’t think it’s more “accepted in today’s society” - it just seems to happen more.

And even then, it’s more acceptable for women to do this than men.

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

I don’t think it’s more “accepted in today’s society” - it just seems to happen more.

And even then, it’s more acceptable for women to do this than men.

Most women at least have all their kids in the same house