It's fukked up to have kids, and then go and start another family and focus on them more

[FaTaL]

Happened to my cousins

That’s when the mothers realize they were just a nutt, nothing more

 

[kevm3]

The reality is that the man is going to focus more on whatever he comes home to. He can only be at one place at one time. However, he should still make every effort to financially support and to see his kids that he had with the other woman. This is why having kids inside the confines of marriage and avoiding divorce is so important. You're going to end up creating these households that can become very difficult for the kids to prosper in. Another point that isn't really brought up is a lot of times the man wants to support the child but the woman is making it very difficult, especially if she sees he's prospering with his new woman.

 

[Ain't That Something]

Take care of your original kids and get them out the house first
Whether you with the mom or not
It's accepted in today's society, same as moving in a new siginifact other/spouse

I think there are instances where it's done properly but there are a lot where it's not

Question: is the breh supposed to wait and stay single even if the woman found her a new man too and start a family

 

[concise]

You're essentially putting your own happiness before the kids that already exist

Yea, because sometimes the relationship between the parents is unbearable and a ticking time bomb. Aren't we all about prioritizing our mental health these days?

 

[Kasgoinjail]

So it's not OK for a man to start a family with another woman if it didn't work out with his first partner but women are allowed to have multiple children from different men because ultimately the children stay in the house with her?


Got it

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

The reality is that the man is going to focus more on whatever he comes home to. He can only be at one place at one time. However, he should still make every effort to financially support and to see his kids that he had with the other woman. This is why having kids inside the confines of marriage and avoiding divorce is so important. You're going to end up creating these households that can become very difficult for the kids to prosper in. Another point that isn't really brought up is a lot of times the man wants to support the child but the woman is making it very difficult, especially if she sees he's prospering with his new woman.

Kids should be the main focus over everything
Problem is ppl are on the "I gotta have a life too."

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

That would be me if I was unhappy. Hence I'll not have kids.

Lil nikkaz disappoint me and I'm gone. Press stop, eject tape... Toss out the window.

Joking but not really. I come from a family line of polygamists. My dad was born of his father's second family. My grandpa never made better children before or after him and his siblings. We the ones that took care of him and buried him regardless. I can knock him but truth is I'm just as cold as that man. So I'm #GMB

 

[Taadow]

Most women at least have all their kids in the same house

Oh, is that all it takes for it to be less “fukked up”?? LOL

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

So it's not OK for a man to start a family with another woman if it didn't work out with his first partner but women are allowed to have multiple children from different men because ultimately the children stay in the house with her?


Got it

I think both are fukked up but I think one is worse than the other

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

Oh, is that all it takes for it to be less “fukked up”?? LOL

Having a kid is more than financials...it's spending time
Who's going to spend more time...the parent in the house or the parent whose not?

Yall want it to be fair, when it's not

 

[Kasgoinjail]

Oh, is that all it takes for it to be less “fukked up”?? LOL

Different fathers visiting on different days

 

[Taadow]

Having a kid is more than financials...it's spending time
Who's going to spend more time...the parent in the house or the parent whose not?

Yall want it to be fair, when it's not

There are billions of parents who live in the same house with their children and still don’t hardly spend any time with them...and I didn’t say a damn thing about financials.

I don’t have a dog in this fight because I have no children, and part of the reason for that is
(as you allude to,) I know I can be the best Father and things can still go left because it ain’t “fair”.
Now if you can readily admit “it’s not fair”, what do you hope to accomplish by making a thread
talking about how folks should be more fair while in an unfair situation?

 

[MoveForward]

So it's not OK for a man to start a family with another woman if it didn't work out with his first partner but women are allowed to have multiple children from different men because ultimately the children stay in the house with her?


Got it

Yeah, this thread is confusing as hell.

Are we solely talking about pieces of sh*t that have a kid that he has nothing to do with, only to become family man of the year with another woman and their kids?

 

[Formerly Black Trash]

There are billions of parents who live in the same house with their children and still don’t hardly spend any time with them...and I didn’t say a damn thing about financials.

I don’t have a dog in this fight because I have no children, and part of the reason for that is
(as you allude to,) I know I can be the best Father and things can still go left because it ain’t “fair”.
Now if you can readily admit “it’s not fair”, what do you hope to accomplish by making a thread
talking about how folks should be more fair while in an unfair situation?

We can agree to disagree
I'm posting shyt on a forum
I'm not really hoping to accomplish anything

 

[kevm3]

Once the mother and father break up and if the mother gets custody of the kids, the father will only have limited visitation depending on what they hashed out in court. It's not like he can stop in and see the kids whenever he want. He has to abide by the court orders as well as deal with the mother of the kid. He should be there for the kid/kids as much as possible, but the reality of the situation is he can never be there for those kids as much as he's there for the kids in his own current household who he comes home to everyday.