It's official, I'm single again!!!

[Sonic Boom of the South]

You want to marry her after all this. She can't even tell her family she lied. What kind of drama will you run into after you marry her?

Also, based on your other postS, you could have gotten both your ex and the jump off pregnant? How irresponsible is that on your part? Pregnancy should not be your only concern...you should go get tested for all STDs (including Herpes since they don't test for that unless you specifically ask).

My ex a tad imature and dramatic so I kinda wasn't surprised about her doing that
Plus her parents know how she is
And her mom's talked to me after the break up and told me she knows how her daughter is

I got tested
I always do

My ex got a fertility issue so it is hard for her to get pregnant and have to take medication for it

But I would actually want a kid with her

The jumpoff
about to grad nursing school so she not trying to mess up her paper

I had a very vulnerable moment and nutted in her on some sad shyt
I asked God to forgive me and kill any possible baby

 

[Dad]

* update
This break up got me reckless

Smashed an old jump-off that I can't stand
About a month ago
Nutted in her


*Met this former NBA & NFL cheerleader
Really cool
Sexy
Wifey material
Been on a few dates
Smashed for the first time
Sunday
She stayed over till this morning
That wasn't the plan tho



Smashed my ex last week


Still have love for her
I am thinking about proposing




I'm conflicted

Me n my ex had issues but I can't get over the love


This new chick banging
And so easy to deal with

But I was thinking about my ex when we was fukking



*Also went on a date with a chick from a dating site and got catfished

I been there, breh.

But you’re living in a fantasy world that you gotta let go of. What you think you’re missing is the relationship that you thought you could have had if things had just been different with your girl. But the truth is, that relationship didn’t and doesn’t exist .

Your mind is trying to heal your heart, the memories got shifted to the background and now youre finding yourself remembering and longing for the good times. You’re forgetting who the person she really was and idealizing who you wanted her to be. The point is to remember the full truth of why the relationship ended.

Eventually, letting go of these memories will help the forgiveness and healing process, but in order to let go of something you gotta acknowledge and accept that it happened.

You set a healthy boundary that was beneficial for you and now you’re struggling with feelings of selfishness. If getting married is not something that you’re ready for, you’re making the right decision but y’all need to keep your distance because ultimately you’re going to get back together and that same issue of marriage is going to come back 10 times and you’ll either fukk it or be miserable.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

I been there, breh.

But you’re living in a fantasy world that you gotta let go of. What you think you’re missing is the relationship that you thought you could have had if things had just been different with your girl. But the truth is, that relationship didn’t and doesn’t exist .

Your mind is trying to heal your heart, the memories got shifted to the background and now youre finding yourself remembering and longing for the good times. You’re forgetting who the person she really was and idealizing who you wanted her to be. The point is to remember the full truth of why the relationship ended.

Eventually, letting go of these memories will help the forgiveness and healing process, but in order to let go of something you gotta acknowledge and accept that it happened.

You set a healthy boundary that was beneficial for you and now you’re struggling with feelings of selfishness. If getting married is not something that you’re ready for, you’re making the right decision but y’all need to keep your distance because ultimately you’re going to get back together and that same issue of marriage is going to come back 10 times and you’ll either fukk it or be miserable.

Gah Damm that's some real shyt

 

[Nikki_04]

My ex a tad imature and dramatic so I kinda wasn't surprised about her doing that
Plus her parents know how she is
And her mom's talked to me after the break up and told me she knows how her daughter is

I got tested
I always do

My ex got a fertility issue so it is hard for her to get pregnant and have to take medication for it

But I would actually want a kid with her

The jumpoff
about to grad nursing school so she not trying to mess up her paper

I had a very vulnerable moment and nutted in her on some sad shyt
I asked God to forgive me and kill any possible baby

As long as you are okay with her immaturity, what is it about her that you like about her that offset that??

I also understand the vulnerable moment, but please in the future be wiser.
I work in health care and I see so many people ruin their lives over "vulnerable moments" that were preventable. You said you were tested...how long ago? It takes up to 3 months (even 6 months in some cases) for HIV to show up on a blood test. Doctors don't even test for Herpes, you have to specifically ask and it takes months for Herpes to show up on a blood test and sometimes it never does. You can be asymptomatic and not have an outbreak and still be infected with the herpes virus and spread it to others. I take every opportunity to point this out because black people make up the highest incidences of new HIV and Herpes infections. 80% of people don't even know they have genital herpes.

I apologize for putting a damper on your thread, it's just a soap box of mine. I may delete this later.

 

[010101]

I asked God to forgive me and kill any possible baby

mercy*

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

As long as you are okay with her immaturity, what is it about her that you like about her that offset that??

I also understand the vulnerable moment, but please in the future be wiser.
I work in health care and I see so many people ruin their lives over "vulnerable moments" that were preventable. You said you were tested...how long ago? It takes up to 3 months (even 6 months in some cases) for HIV to show up on a blood test. Doctors don't even test for Herpes, you have to specifically ask and it takes months for Herpes to show up on a blood test and sometimes it never does. You can be asymptomatic and not have an outbreak and still be infected with the herpes virus and spread it to others. I take every opportunity to point this out because black people make up the highest incidences of new HIV and Herpes infections. 80% of people don't even know they have genital herpes.

I apologize for putting a damper on your thread, it's just a soap box of mine. I may delete this later.

Nah u def good


I understand all you stated
That jump-off is an old friend that I literally been smashing off n on since 2010

We both stayed tested up

I'm not worried

Just stressed over the heart ache




Besides the immaturity
My ex is a sweet and super affectionate person
She tall and lovely

 

[1thouwow]

* update
This break up got me reckless

Smashed an old jump-off that I can't stand
About a month ago
Nutted in her


*Met this former NBA & NFL cheerleader
Really cool
Sexy
Wifey material
Been on a few dates
Smashed for the first time
Sunday
She stayed over till this morning
That wasn't the plan tho



Smashed my ex last week


Still have love for her
I am thinking about proposing




I'm conflicted

Me n my ex had issues but I can't get over the love


This new chick banging
And so easy to deal with

But I was thinking about my ex when we was fukking



*Also went on a date with a chick from a dating site and got catfished

Love so hard to overcome

 

[GrindMode]

JANUARY

shyt is a catch 22


But I was comfortable being out the game


Now I'm bout to be back in the game


Back to wearing condoms


She wanted to get married
And in all honesty she wasn't no where close to wifey material

TODAY

* update
This break up got me reckless

Smashed an old jump-off that I can't stand
About a month ago
Nutted in her


*Met this former NBA & NFL cheerleader
Really cool
Sexy
Wifey material
Been on a few dates
Smashed for the first time
Sunday
She stayed over till this morning
That wasn't the plan tho



Smashed my ex last week


Still have love for her
I am thinking about proposing




I'm conflicted

Me n my ex had issues but I can't get over the love


This new chick banging
And so easy to deal with

But I was thinking about my ex when we was fukking



*Also went on a date with a chick from a dating site and got catfished

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

JANUARY



TODAY

You really had to do that to me brah

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

You want to marry her after all this. She can't even tell her family she lied. What kind of drama will you run into after you marry her?

Also, based on your other postS, you could have gotten both your ex and the jump off pregnant? How irresponsible is that on your part? Pregnancy should not be your only concern...you should go get tested for all STDs (including Herpes since they don't test for that unless you specifically ask

Let him find out the hard way. These types always do. The fact a couple of months back he was on some "fuk this bytch" type drama... 'I'm single"...fast forward til now. The makes an update that he nutted raw in some other chick, then had sex with his ex (again raw), possibility that both chicks could be preg or have std, (you know.. sex over safety, the possibility of unwanted pregnancy with other woman).within a span of a few weeks, ex cant tell her parents (which is a whole other issue). All these things (lack of stability, indecisiveness and unresolved issues) are always the basis of a healthy relationship/marriage.

 

[WesCrook]

* update
This break up got me reckless

Smashed an old jump-off that I can't stand
About a month ago
Nutted in her


*Met this former NBA & NFL cheerleader
Really cool
Sexy
Wifey material
Been on a few dates
Smashed for the first time
Sunday
She stayed over till this morning
That wasn't the plan tho



Smashed my ex last week


Still have love for her
I am thinking about proposing




I'm conflicted

Me n my ex had issues but I can't get over the love


This new chick banging
And so easy to deal with

But I was thinking about my ex when we was fukking



*Also went on a date with a chick from a dating site and got catfished

Has your appearance or demeanor changed, improved during the breakup? Once they see or find out (via mutual friend) that you have gotten all swagged out (clothes, muscles, outgoing personality), they try to come back into the picture.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Let him find out the hard way. These types always do. The fact a couple of months back he was on some "fuk this bytch" type drama... 'I'm single"...fast forward til now. The makes an update that he nutted raw in some other chick, then had sex with his ex (again raw), possibility that both chicks could be preg or have std, (you know.. sex over safety, the possibility of unwanted pregnancy with other woman).within a span of a few weeks, ex cant tell her parents (which is a whole other issue). All these things (lack of stability, indecisiveness and unresolved issues) are always the basis of a healthy relationship/marriage.

YOLO




But nah

I been in a vulnerable state

My heart in recovery

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

JANUARY



TODAY

Damnnnnnn ...ok... now I'm not the only one that thinks this shyt sounds dysfunctional as fuk....
(Not my prob tho... I'm out)

 

[GrindMode]

You really had to do that to me brah

She aint wifey material bruh
nah but fukk thecoli these nikkas cant give u advice go get ur girl bruh

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Has your appearance or demeanor changed, improved during the breakup? Once they see or find out (via mutual friend) that you have gotten all swagged out (clothes, muscles, outgoing personality), they try to come back into the picture.

I was on point before n after

She wants to get back together but she embarrassed cause of what she told her fam