i gotta add: you will RARELY find a breh who REALLY puts in work at the gym who is doing it for women like that. sounds crazy, but hear me out...
think of the flabby nikka who is in there 3 -5x a week with the same physique. or the breh who pops up january 1st or two months before summer. this is usually the breh who is doing it for women and fails miserably in terms of aesthetic results or success with women.
serious weightlifters/powerlifters are about that life for reasons that have women toward the middle or even bottom of the list...