I’ve been with my girl for a year now and I’m tired of smashing the same coochie.

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The only way to save your relationship is to cheat on her. No amount of 'spicing things up', changing positions, role playing will work, because you are fukking the same p*ssy.

I think it is time as humanity to have this wider discussion about sexual and social monogamy.

If we as males are inclined to have sex with different females but pair bond with one female, then sexual monogamy is unnatural.

I wouldn't ever advocate cheating. Its better to just breakup.
But this new wave idea of sexual monogamy being unnatural is a bit out there.
Studies have shown that couples that were virgins before they were married have the most fulfilling sex lives than those that had multiple sexual partners before marriage.
And the more sexual partners one has, the less likely for one to be sexually fulfilled in marriage and the more likely for it to end in divorce.
It's like sugar, the more you consume, the more you want.
Limiting sugar intake, makes you enjoy it more when you have it.
The issue is not sexual monogamy being unnatural.
The issue is too many sex partners.
People need to slow down and show restraint because it yields better results in long-term relationships.
 

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OP, I'd either try to spice it up or end it. All that cheating/keeping a roster ain't worth it.

If you end it and choose to get back out there, I'd actually advise getting to know your next partner well before knocking boots. I think most "relationships" of today are really just elevated FWB situations. People have sex for a bit and then say "we should be a couple" only for down the line they find out there not all that compatible when the sex in the honeymoon phase dries up.

i read a recent study that says ppl who have only been with one person tend to be happier than those who have been with multiple people

Because there are no other experiences to compare with.

Jane may be a 10/10 in bed but a bad wife/partner.

Jill may be a 6/10 in bed but a 10/10 wife. However, since Jane was once your partner, you'll always compare Jill's sex to Jane. If Jill was the only experience you had, then there's nothing to compare it to.

I wouldn't ever advocate cheating. Its better to just breakup.
But this new wave idea of sexual monogamy being unnatural is a bit out there.
Studies have shown that couples that were virgins before they were married have the most fulfilling sex life than those that had multiple sexual partners before marriage.
And the more sexual partners one has, the less likely for them to be sexually fulfilled in marriage and the more likely for it to end in divorce.
The issue is not sexual monogamy being unnatural.
The issue is too many sex partners.
People need to slow down and show restraint because it yields better results in long-term relationships.

All of this.

Bolded is really true. That "get it out of your system" thing is actually counter productive. You're just building up your "sexual appetite" which may be hard to satisfy if/when you choose to settle down.
 
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All of this.

Bolded is really true. That "get it out of your system" thing is actually counter productive. You're just building up your "sexual appetite" which may be hard to satisfy if/when you choose to settle down.

It is. There is nothing in my mind that can believe that a man or woman that has had many sexual partners can ever have a truly fulfilling long-term relationship.
It's just selfish to even get in one at that point.
It will be better to just remain single because one partner is not going to ever be able to scratch that itch for you.
 

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thats just what happens. set some life goals together and build something. too many people put sex as the foundation, when that is gone or gets old ( AND IT WILL, FAST) then you got nothing else.
too many dudes cuffin up chicks that should just be fukk buddies but ya'll got no game so you simp into a relationship
 

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She would have to better in some way to be worth it. Whether it be a better body, personality etc. I'm not hitting no ugly chick just because it's easy. That's hustling backwards.

Right...

Cheat w/someone you don't even want should you get caught...AND lose your partner. Pitiful.
Form of hypergamy in effect...yeah?

#Cheaters never win.
 
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The problem with this is what ever dude the girl gets with after OP will also get tired of her p*ssy. All dudes have a wandering eye. I assume women do too especially since most of y’all complain about the quality of sex y’all have
The answer isn’t just to leave because you get bored with someone but to communicate to address the underlying issue why they are bored and what can be done to improve the sex and overall relationship





Try telling the average woman how she can improve and let me know how that works out for you :stopitslime:
 
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