I've noticed a trend with black women.

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It's a new generation. New ways of thinking. Not everyone is looking to be a housewife. Doesn't mean men caused them to be that way, some of us just have bigger things to worry about than finding love and settling down. You've got your entire life to find love, can't say the same for finding your dream job. (Depending on your field of course.) I'll take the stability over love, any day. What good is love, and building a future with someone when you have nothing to bring to the table? lol
 
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I also don't like how we insult people who aren't bitter, scary a$$holes about love. Some people carry so much hurt that they try their best to make sure everybody else is hurt too.

I've had nikkas tell me I'm living in a gumdrop forest in Lala land because I believe in treating people well and doing good.

Like romance, love, ? You a simp, a sucka.

It's like we shame people for being decent human beings.


Jesus :snoop:
 

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What constituted as "giving something in return" to you that he wasn't willing to do?

Everything you would expect from a relationship. Listening, kindness, respect, compromise and reciprocation mostly. His first instinct when given kindness/submission was to take advantage. He basically was self motivated and instead of relationship motivated. Basically selfish.
 

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Everything you would expect from a relationship. Listening, kindness, respect, compromise and reciprocation mostly. His first instinct when given kindness/submission was to take advantage. He basically was self motivated and instead of relationship motivated. Basically selfish.

How soon did you give up the ass tho
 

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This trend is not gender specific. Men, especially the men on here, are afraid of being "played" or of putting in more effort to pursue a woman than the man who came before him. Many men consider it some type of loss if the previous dude took her to mcdonald's and fukked on the second date, while he may take her to a five star restaurant and get no sex. Both groups are too worried about potential competition. That is lame.

Women and men both should only worry about themselves and the person they r pursuing. Whoever comes before or after u isn't ur concern. Obviously u don't want to ignore blatant warning signs , but overall just I think it's best to just focus on the 2 of u

It is :manny:

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I date a lot. Lately I've been hearing girls say they gave up on wanting a family or a normal relationship because of the people they're around.

This explains so much of why women don't crave romance anymore. They're basically men now. They want money and good jobs. They're learning to wear a poker face, it's kind of funny, and very sad. Women used be unrealistically beautiful. Now it's like 1 out 3 doesn't remind me of a dude. And maybe 2 out of 8 are gorgeous. Most girls are attractive so that's average.

I met this girl and I took her out on the spot. We walked and talked for two hours. It was lit. Anyway, she's a keeper. As many black women are. They are the best group of women to make mom's out of. That's another thread though.

I've noticed that women are so frightened of being played again, or winding up with nothing they take no risks. That's lame as fukk. Love is a fukking risk. If you want to play it safe you deserve to be as lonely as you are.

If you're not willing to potentially have your heart broken then you don't deserve it. If you're not willing to forgive, grow, and love some more you don't deserve it.

Love isn't practical. Marriage isn't practical. Having kids in this hateful world isn't practical. fukk money. The absence of love and passion in the world is what turns me off from having kids.

Im scared man. Men are not romantic. Men are also followers. Few men are leaders. They do whatever women are into and whatever other men are doing.

Women should inspire and encourage romance. Men will not. Sometimes I'll say to a girl you haven't had anyone love you. I'm talking really love you. They damn near cry sometimes.

Gentleman, please, let's date more and dog less. Girls are frightened of us at this point in the game and they're trying to play like we play and now nobody wants anything real, so we're all just lying to each other.

Give me a fukking break. Who gives a fukk. The dating situation is this way based on their own doing. Take that simp bullshyt elsewhere. You fukking white knight women enablers piss me off more than the women themselves.
 

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How soon did you give up the ass tho
I gave it up 10 years ago breh. :deadmanny: We had dated before and he contacted me telling he wanted to a be together. When he contacted me he was ready for full on commitment. He actually got upset that I wanted to take the time to get to know one another again. I see what you're trying to do but it's not that type of party. I waited awhile before we had sex 10 years ago if that makes you feel better though.
 

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I gave it up 10 years ago breh. :deadmanny: We had dated before and he contacted me telling he wanted to a be together. When he contacted me he was ready for full on commitment. He actually got upset that I wanted to take the time to get to know one another again. I see what you're trying to do but it's not that type of party. I waited awhile before we had sex 10 years ago if that makes you feel better though.
 
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