Joe Budden podcast debates how can you tell the difference between courting and "love bombing"

[Still Benefited]

They say its possible a guy just likes a woman alot. So is it fair to call him a love bomber just because he loses interest? How can a woman determine if a man was genuine or not,or just manipulating because it didnt work out.


Melyssa Ford says its lovebombing if the man focuses all of his attention on the woman,and acts like he doesnt have anything else in his life.



Tough time to be a romantic


As a romantic myself,I will say its possible to be genuinely infatuated with a woman for a short ammount of time. Showering her with love that sends the two of you on a whirlwind romance. And its also possible to suddenly lose interest,be turned off instantly by something she said or did. Or be scared away because you fear commitmemt,and its too much too fast

 

[Braman]

This isn’t a debate for men. We already know what it is.

The part that gets left out when women say ‘love bombing’ and ‘he fell off’ is: no bytch I wasn’t lying, I just got to know you and I no longer like you.

We’re expected to be engaging, dynamic, set up dates, be in a constant state of ‘impress’, while she just sit n look pretty no personality whatsoever. That dynamic has an expiration

 

[Still Benefited]

This isn’t a debate for men. We already know what it is.

The part that gets left out when women say ‘love bombing’ and ‘he fell off’ is: no bytch I wasn’t lying, I just got to know you and I no longer like you.

We’re expected to be engaging, dynamic, set up dates, be in a constant state of ‘impress’, while she just sit n look pretty no personality whatsoever. That dynamic has an expiration

But you have to admit there is a such thing as love bombing. And of course women cant tell for certain if a man was love bombing them. But you can use your discernment to get a pretty good idea.

Thats like saying I would never know if a woman was pretending to like me for my money. Well she dissapeared once I started telling her no. So the way I can tell is by my gut feeling and putting patterns and signs together. The issue is womens guts/intuition cant really be trusted these days.


I have "love bombed" but I would just consider that mouthpiece,applying pressure,game. Taking compliments as "love" is the first problem imo. Whenever I have actually shown LOVE in my opinion it was genuine. But I guess who am I to tell women that compliments and sex didnt mean love. Because it can and it can not be

 

[Carl Tethers]

OP can't even tell the difference between consensual and non-consensual sex, so he must really be over this

 

[Menna]

Love Bombing is a term given to personality disordered people mostly narcissists who target a person to enter into their cycle of love bombing devaluing and then discard

Courting is not an obsessive unhealthy act love bombing is when someone enters into a fantasy. Courting such as showing up with flowers, walking to her door, taking out to restaurants gifts but at the same time spending time working, with family and self care is just that courting when one sacrifices or puts on hold just about everything for 3 months… that’s the fantasy out side of society that is love bombing

 

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[Braman]

But you have to admit there is a such thing as love bombing. And of course women cant tell for certain if a man was love bombing them. But you can use your discernment to get a pretty good idea.

Thats like saying I would never know if a woman was pretending to like me for my money. Well she dissapeared once I started telling her no. So the way I can tell is by my gut feeling and putting patterns and signs together. The issue is womens guts/intuition cant really be trusted these days.


I have "love bombed" but I would just consider that mouthpiece,applying pressure,game. Taking compliments as "love" is the first problem imo. Whenever I have actually shown LOVE in my opinion it was genuine. But I guess who am I to tell women that compliments and sex didnt mean love. Because it can and it can not be

I can agree there. There’s definitely dude’s who knowingly put it on heavy with the intent of fukking chicks over

And contrary to popular belief it’s not new. Back in the day in college we used to call it ‘the white boy’. Them frat boys would legit tell chicks they love em and run thru em weeks later.

Years later you got gen z writing thinking pieces on it

 

[TNC]

Love Bombing is only a thing when the recipient already decided they liked the bomber. For everyone else, its called building attraction.


Its definitely shaming language women created to criticize lack of consistency but its irresponsible to use because it doesn't address the reality that feelings can change and life happens. If your efforts are not appreciated in the way you desire, you should NOT continue them. You should take your value elsewhere and that idea infuriates narcissistic people

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

i feel like you would be able to tell because of their lifestyle and history.

do they have bad relationships with family/exes/friends/jobs/society?

that mental shyt isn't just confined to sexual relationships.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

This isn’t a debate for men. We already know what it is.

The part that gets left out when women say ‘love bombing’ and ‘he fell off’ is: no bytch I wasn’t lying, I just got to know you and I no longer like you.

We’re expected to be engaging, dynamic, set up dates, be in a constant state of ‘impress’, while she just sit n look pretty no personality whatsoever. That dynamic has an expiration

The fact that you (general) are doing the most with someone before you (general) don't know them is what makes it "love bombing."

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Love bombing, which I have only really encountered once, is very specific. It's not just someone being nice. It's coupled with emotional withdrawal and manipulation.

I knew a guy who would do it to women EXTREMELY well. It was very abusive. He would literally make the women feel amazing and then find the tiniest thing and make it a huge deal and completely withdraw from her. The withdrawal then made the women chase him. He could literally keep women on this loop for years.

 

[Ain't That Something]

Love Bombing is what women call deluding themselves into thinking the attractive guy they wanted did not have other options. Often it takes very little for that dude to get the draws. Show her a good time and focus your attention only to her when going out because that's what mature people do. Give her some good dikk all the sudden ya'll were meant to be together despite telling her you weren't looking for anything serious from the get go.

An ugly nikka could have showed her the world and she would have curved them. Don't fall for it brehs

 

[chiefdogg]

Love Bombing is a term given to personality disordered people mostly narcissists who target a person to enter into their cycle of love bombing devaluing and then discard

Courting is not an obsessive unhealthy act love bombing is when someone enters into a fantasy. Courting such as showing up with flowers, walking to her door, taking out to restaurants gifts but at the same time spending time working, with family and self care is just that courting when one sacrifices or puts on hold just about everything for 3 months… that’s the fantasy out side of society that is love bombing

Thanks breh, flabby head was just about to ask WTH love bombing is.

 

[Braman]

The fact that you (general) are doing the most with someone before you (general) don't know them is what makes it "love bombing."

Depends on what ‘the most’ is. In some cases sure you’re right. But in many cases, maybe even most, women are blocking their blessing.

The concept of ‘Love bombing’ is a byproduct of therapy. Here’s the thing with therapy: its conditioned a whole generation of women to analyze (overthink) EVERYTHING. So there is no to room for…serendipity. Happenstance. Luck. Romance

Before, people would have the most random stories of how they met, or how they initially didn’t like each other, or how a guy/girl will say ‘as soon as I saw them I knew that would be my husband/wife’

Well therapy has killed all of that. Bc now women are robots and need to rationalize (overthink) everything. There is no room for serendipity, there is no room for romance. And in turn, men we hear the same things y’all do so now, well maybe I WONT get her flowers. Well maybe I WONT do this nice thing, etc. Bc I don’t want to ‘love bomb’. Y’all been tricked out of your position.

 

[colicolicoli]

The only guy that has legitimately love bombed me (spent mad $$$ then slow ghosted) still watches my stories from a fake profile. So weird.