I guess yall missed the fact that she's in charge and decides her own security detail. Shuri was never promoted to queen and didn't want it. Or the part where they were holding back Namor's soldiers and he was the only one who was able to slip past their defenses because he can fukking FLY. Or the fact that shuri did build flying suits for the Dora and okoye told her that shyts ugly and they ain't wearing it.
And she was clearly not feeling namor. She didn't want to give up a 19 year old to be killed and recognized hes trying to protect his own people too. Apparently having reservations about sacrificing a black child to a foreign people and recognizing their own humanity means you're in love?
I hope people aren't reading this shyt and thinking that's true. Everyone got their own take, anyone reading this should just watch in theaters or streaming and decide for themselves what they think.