Just because you're a single mom doesn't mean you can't raise a decent son.
- Thread starter LA Fisher
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not saying you don't need a man but god damn it makes no sense how poor of a job these women are doing with boys. You telling me you can't check lil homies homework every night or help him study? You can't put him in sport so he'll be around masculine energy? mama gotta have a life too tho I guess
To be honest, I don't agree with this mentality. My cousin (I grew up with her so I tend to call her my sis) got married young and had a child a few years into her marriage. Before you knew it, they got divorced and she was a single mother in her early/mid-twenties no longer having the financial dependance of her ex-husband (which was definitely a mistake she shouldn't have made from the get go). It ended up being a situation where he was essentially a douche bag and refused to provide support for their child. He doesn't even show up on birthdays, etc. and he's now re-married so his focus is redirected. She fell into hardcore depression after that.
She's now in a great situation - she graduated from school and is a nurse, making pretty great pay in the west coast. She has the ability to do everything she can for her son now. But while she was still a student, she was living in government housing and couldn't afford to provide him a lot of the support she can now.
She was lucky because she had our family and my brother plays a great role in my nephew's life - the closest thing he has to a father. There were times where he moved in or I moved in to be live-in babysitters/supporters. But seeing her in that environment and a lot of other women in her building in similar positions... it's hard out here for young moms.
LA Fisher
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See that's the old saying "it takes a village". I hate when mothers just let there sons suffer because his father isn't around. You still have uncles, cousins, grand dads. I'm glad your siscousin is doing well.
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Nah that shyt really is hard as hell if you already working full-time; not saying it's right but it happens.not saying you don't need a man but god damn it makes no sense how poor of a job these women are doing with boys. You telling me you can't check lil homies homework every night or help him study? You can't put him in sport so he'll be around masculine energy? mama gotta have a life too tho I guess
And it's likely if someone is a single mother they already aren't the best when it comes to responsibility and impulse control.
Every child should ideally be in a two parent home, that has been scientifically proven, but the two parent home has been obliterated in black america.
That an exception and bet you, 9/10, they had some sort of help.
They didn't do it, on there own.
My virtue of being human animals the more positive, authoritative people in our everyday lives, the better.
LA Fisher
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That's when you should rely on big momma to watch them kids. But big momma is in her 40s and searching for dikk these days.
Thanks LA.
True but it really depends on your situation and if you even have that village around you who has the capacity to support in whatever way possible. She doesn't have siblings in this country and was lucky she had a couple of first cousins who had the ability to help out.
My brother was a GOAT in that situation. He even moved to the west coast to continue supporting them both.
LA Fisher
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He a better man than me
I would of just western union some money every monthHe a better man than me
He's exploring his own opportunities out there for himself, but he's just trying to make sure the kid has a positive male influence.
He's going to be a good father himself one day. I'm proud.
How many effeminate threads are you going to make?
LA Fisher
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As many as I need
Dirty_Jerz
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Name a single parent child who is healthy emotionally and physically
