It isn't worth it. You have to look at this as the fault of yourself, more than their own. That is the result of not doing enough collectively as black men for the black. I'm excluding women because most are looking to men to build the house.
I don't blame black women who are tired of waiting for us to build, I also don't blame brothers who are looking out for themselves and the safety of their own family only. We were truly in a state of disarray when we became dependant on confirmed enemies. Actually feeling happy about our collective futures as a people these days tho, as I see more and more of us waking up to the horror that is the fact that we have not done enough.