Keep It Real: Have any of you ever practiced COLORISM?

[murksiderock]

We were watching Insecure and I said some shyt about Issa Ray

Issa is a good looking woman, muhfukkas shyt on her on here, but that's a good looking woman. Molly fine ass too...

I don’t see how. I have a preference for men who are literally my color. The fukk lol. All my girls love dark skin men. That’s their preference. No one will accuse them of being colorist.


I’m always getting told I’m light skinned by my dark skinned friends. Even though I’m more on the light brown spectrum. My experience has always been when im around dark skin women and men, they bring up color. They tell me I’m light skinned. They make comments about their dark skin color and experiences. They’re more sensitive and aware of things that I’m not. It’s how I became more aware and sensitive to the experiences that dark skin people have.



Oh shyt lol. That’s who people used to say I looked like when I was in high school.


Are you dark skin or light skin? I don’t see how it’s necessarily colorism if it’s someone from your own shade group that your attracted to…

@Booksnrain what are your thoughts?

I commented upthread about how no one throws the colorist label at people who prefer dark skinned blacks, it's only if you date lighter lol...

That's an old picture of me in my avi. I never heard I was dark-skinned until I moved to New York at 21---->fukking king state of colorism in my experience. They really habe issues with complexion up there...

Most of my life though, I was regarded as solid brown-skinned when color came up. I have a natural skin gradient across my chest though my whole life, I have spots of really light skin. I don't look like a dalmation though, it's not an even pattern of brown and light, but you can notice it if you're looking at my chest and sternum/upper stomach areas...

I always thought that was weird, then I took a couple of those DNA tests that said genetically I was a quarter white, so I assume that's where the gradient comes from...

My mom told me years back that the insides of your wrists, and the complexion of your body on parts that are always clothed, are what your natural color is, because we all get darker in the sun or on the parts of our bodies that are exposed. So by that standard, I'd agree that I'm brown...

But like you in your friend group, I've been referred to a dark-skinned on occasion, depending on who is doing the talking. In my experience I can't really tell if darker or lighter blacks are more obsessed with color, because I've heard it from both. So every once in awhile I get called dark-skinned by light and dark people---->but dark skin dudes have made jokes calling ne lightskin before ...

Ashanti is the finest woman of all time to me, I love that woman. If you favor her you definitely ain't lightskinned, your friends tripping lmao...

 

[The Gentleman]

lol. I’m not a light brite-I’m Sanaa Lathan complexion.



I’ve dated dark skin men. And I prefer dark skin women. This is his second time accusing me of that though lol.

I don’t see why he cares anyway. He dates WW.

Why your hypocrisy though? I notice you always in threads about white women and you don’t think it’s deal with a snow is wise. However on the other hand you allowed to have a “type”. Why is that?

I don’t ‘date’ women into traditional sense by the way. But That’s another subject.

 

[The Gentleman]

People hate hearing shyt that makes them uncomfortable

That's why people get defensive. People can't handle the truth because it's hard to deal with so they rather downplay it

It's sad, because they lack the self awareness to realize that they wouldn't like it if someone did it to them

Have you ever been robbed or know someone that was robbed?

What did you tell that person? Get over it right? He didn’t feel good but life isn’t fair. You can’t keep tripping on what’s behind you. Same thing with moaning and groaning on and on about how someone of your own Reese said you were funny looking because you’re too dark. Get over it!

 

[CarmelBarbie]

Why your hypocrisy though? I notice you always in threads about white women and you don’t think it’s deal with a snow is wise. However on the other hand you allowed to have a “type”. Why is that?

I don’t ‘date’ women into traditional sense by the way. But That’s another subject.

What ww thread are you talking about? I’ve encouraged Brehs to pawg on here many times so they can stfu talking shyt about bw. I don’t date white men and don’t mind WW but don’t see how Brehs hype them up the way they do. I see it as c00n shyt. But at the end of the day, I would rather those Brehs date ww since that’s who they prefer anyway.

As far as the rest of your post. My preference looks like me. Literally the same shade group. Do ww look like you? lol.

why do you care about who
I prefer anyway? Focus on Becky.

 

[KidJSoul]

Have you ever been robbed or know someone that was robbed?

What did you tell that person? Get over it right? He didn’t feel good but life isn’t fair. You can’t keep tripping on what’s behind you. Same thing with moaning and groaning on and on about how someone of your own Reese said you were funny looking because you’re too dark. Get over it!

Okay see, this is the thing

You can still encourage someone to move on, while still having empathy.

Telling someone to shut up and get over it isn't you helping them, it's you actively not wanting to care about the issue. It's an easy way to not have to be empathetic

 

[Micky Mikey]

lol. I’m not a light brite-I’m Sanaa Lathan complexion.



I’ve dated dark skin men. And I prefer dark skin women. This is his second time accusing me of that though lol.

I don’t see why he cares anyway. He dates WW.

I agree. That chocolate goes good with everything

 

[Tair]

My second BM makes comments about her two sons' complexions on occasion---->they are dark because she had them with a dark skinned brother. It's comments like, when they out in the sun playing, she's like "wow you're really black today all in that sun", or "yall are getting blacker"...

gotta nip that in the bud early on:

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[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

I don’t see how. I have a preference for men who are literally my color. The fukk lol. All my girls love dark skin men. That’s their preference. No one will accuse them of being colorist.


I’m always getting told I’m light skinned by my dark skinned friends. Even though I’m more on the light brown spectrum. My experience has always been when im around dark skin women and men, they bring up color. They tell me I’m light skinned. They make comments about their dark skin color and experiences. They’re more sensitive and aware of things that I’m not. It’s how I became more aware and sensitive to the experiences that dark skin people have.



Oh shyt lol. That’s who people used to say I looked like when I was in high school.


Are you dark skin or light skin? I don’t see how it’s necessarily colorism if it’s someone from your own shade group that your attracted to…

@Booksnrain what are your thoughts?

Personally I don’t think anybody being attracted to anyone is colorism…unless it is. Lol!

I’ve known men who are light and won’t date anything lite skinned themselves. I’ve known darker men who adore light-skinned women but don’t attribute anything negative to darker women. I’ve known light skinned chicks who only date darker men, and darker women who LOVE light skinned men. I think there are some people who just like the color contrast of skin tones. I also know light and dark people like you who prefer their own skin tone.
I don’t think those people should be lumped into these conversations.
Im talking about a$$holes who go out of their way to literally degrade and insult others that look just like themselves, like that shyt ain’t goofy or psychologically embarrassing lol!

Personally, I just like fine men. My best friend mentioned the other day that she can’t find a pattern between any of my past boyfriends or husband, other than them being strong, fine and having pretty eyes. Some were dark, light, whatever. To me fine is fine.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

People hate hearing shyt that makes them uncomfortable

That's why people get defensive. People can't handle the truth because it's hard to deal with so they rather downplay it

It's sad, because they lack the self awareness to realize that they wouldn't like it if someone did it to them

Yeah it’s ridiculous but oh well

 

[Da Bull Ace]

Yes as a kid. I went to elementary school with a lot of mixed girls and white girls. Christina Milian and Lauren london had me hooked on lightskin girls like heroin as kid

And now most girls that catch my attention are brown/dark skin. Slim thick african girls with pretty faces

 

[Sleepy Floyd]

No, never. Our family taught us to love all shades

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

c00n confession ass thread

 

[The Gentleman]

What ww thread are you talking about? I’ve encouraged Brehs to pawg on here many times so they can stfu talking shyt about bw. I don’t date white men and don’t mind WW but don’t see how Brehs hype them up the way they do. I see it as c00n shyt. But at the end of the day, I would rather those Brehs date ww since that’s who they prefer anyway.

As far as the rest of your post. My preference looks like me. Literally the same shade group. Do ww look like you? lol.

why do you care about who
I prefer anyway? Focus on Becky.

Ha ha. Shade group huh? Why getting so defensive though?

And you tellin’ me that would never date a white boy? Stop Lyin’