Speaking Womanese
All Star
The key component to surrender (submission robs us of agency) is trust and boundaries.
You can only trust your man to the capacity you trust yourself.
I trust myself to pick myself back up if this shyt hits the fan.
I trust beloved to show up in the healthiest way he sees fit pertaining us and he does.
To err is human and men grow into better men when they’re allowed to make mistakes and correct them.
We grow into better women allowing them.
My grandma used to say, “you either keep love and lose power or keep power and lose love but you can’t have both.”
You can only trust your man to the capacity you trust yourself.
I trust myself to pick myself back up if this shyt hits the fan.
I trust beloved to show up in the healthiest way he sees fit pertaining us and he does.
To err is human and men grow into better men when they’re allowed to make mistakes and correct them.
We grow into better women allowing them.
My grandma used to say, “you either keep love and lose power or keep power and lose love but you can’t have both.”
So he shows up and when he discovers he can't get into the house he calls me mad as hell. I tell him I'm around the corner and I will be there in a second so that he can get the rest of his things and he hangs up in my face. Ya girl is heated and ready to cuss his ass out when I get home. 
But I didn't go with it. Instead when I get there I open the door in silence and then offer to help him with the rest of his things. He accepts and by the time we are done moving the rest of his shyt he's like "I understand why you changed the locks
." Out smoothly with no drama
. I like.
