Ladies: How Important is Sexual Chemistry in a Relationship?

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On the glorious Friday afternoon in Starbucks, I’m curious as to where you ladies rank sexual chemistry in terms of important factors in relationships.
I feel like sometimes, we get encouraged to overlook or minimize the importance of physical desires to look for stability. However, I personally don’t think it’s sustainable. In my own experiences, a strong sexual bond is a marker of a healthy relationship and a physical signal of the quality of love in it.

You can meet someone who is cool but without that attraction and sexual connection, it won’t work, depending on what you want from the relationship.

Ladies, what say you?

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Undeniable sexual chemistry is the root of my relationship with beloved

Ineffable is the only word I can think of to describe it.

We took a break once and equally struggled to find that bond with somebody else.

If we broke up I’d admittedly fantasise about him when I’m with another man

Sexual chemistry is wild because it makes you realise how much you genuinely WANT someone. I mean that, got-to-have-you-now-JESUS-CHRIST-you-drive-me-crazy type of desire.

It’s like fire that settles into a warm hug over time.

 

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Undeniable sexual chemistry is the root of my relationship with beloved

Ineffable is the only word I can think of to describe it.

We took a break once and equally struggled to find that bond with somebody else.

If we broke up I’d admittedly fantasise about him when I’m with another man

Sexual chemistry is wild because it makes you realise how much you genuinely WANT someone. I mean that, got-to-have-you-now-JESUS-CHRIST-you-drive-me-crazy type of desire.

It’s like fire that settles into a warm hug over time.

This was just perfect! It’s hard to get anything! Anything else onboard without this type of connection realistically. I believe it also gets you through rough patches because you have more intrinsic motivation to try and work it out instead of hitting the “oh well” when you feel just meh about somebody.

 

[Speaking Womanese]

This was just perfect! It’s hard to get anything! Anything else onboard without this type of connection realistically. I believe it also gets you through rough patches because you have more intrinsic motivation to try and work it out instead of hitting the “oh well” when you feel just meh about somebody.

And you know what?

I used to feel shallow about it back in the day like, “am I reeeeaaallyyyy gonna be one of those chicks who puts sex on a pedestal like that?” Ugh. Glad I stopped fighting it lmao.

What’s the best sexual compatibility you’ve ever had with a man?

 

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And you know what?

I used to feel shallow about it back in the day like, “am I reeeeaaallyyyy gonna be one of those chicks who puts sex on a pedestal like that?” Ugh. Glad I stopped fighting it lmao.

What’s the best sexual compatibility you’ve ever had with a man?

A guy I was just dealing with a while back. He was a freak on some different shyt. Not only was he fine but it was the mental connection too. That’s what takes it beyond for me. He was willing to be vulnerable emotionally. Confident enough to not have to lie and be anyone but himself. Could laugh with you and was a master conversationalist in spite of being pretty introverted.
We just clicked. 7 hr long conversations.

And the sex wasn’t quick or unsatisfying or rushed. Every time was like we were savoring each other.That fukkin intensity. During mediocre sex my mind can start wandering…
But with intensely pleasurable sexual encounters you can’t be thinking about getting an oil change. He was just a master of sensuality and you could just tell he was into me.
But he had some issues and his job took him far and it wouldn’t have been viable for me to follow with my own responsibilities. But I thank God for that experience because it lets ms know that type of passion and sexual satisfaction exists.

It’s a whole nother type of glow….GURL! Ma’am!

 

[BigMan]

Lot of women be straight capping to yourself about how important this is to y’all
Setting yourself up for failure

 

[Selena]

I completely agree with you. For me, personally, it's very important as I'm a very sexual person. I don't put it on the top of my list as far as priority, but it's an important factor for me to have in a serious (potential) mate.

 

[13473]

it's not really important.

 

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I completely agree with you. For me, personally, it's very important as I'm a very sexual person. I don't put it on the top of my list as far as priority, but it's an important factor for me to have in a serious (potential) mate.

Yeah it’s high up there on my priorities b/c I don’t fukk many, so when I do…
Gotta be equally yoked. Need those rounds.
It can’t be the center of a relationship but it can be the barometer of the relationship. If the sex and intimacy ain’t on point, to me that’s a big indicator of deeper issues.

But I try to control myself early on b/c sexual intensity earlier on can blind you to a lotta red flags if you aren’t careful.

 

[Taadow]

I feel like sometimes, we get encouraged to overlook or minimize the importance of physical desires to look for stability.

LOL

 

[mson]

Isn't this the driving point of that netflix show Sex/Life?

 

[old pig]

honest responses in here too

 

[old pig]

Lot of women be straight capping to yourself about how important this is to y’all
Setting yourself up for failure

nope…quite literally the opposite…a lot of women be straight capping to men about how “unimportant” it is to them…setting them up for failure

 

[old pig]

it's not really important.

see?

don’t trust her one bit.

 

[13473]

see?

don’t trust her one bit.

i've dated men i had no sexual attraction or chemistry with (during college)

i didn't have sex with those dudes but i enjoyed their company