ladies how would you feel if you were a good gf and your man broke up with you...

Huellz Santana

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Just curious, what 'freedoms' of being single do you miss that you can't get right now? Is she clingy or do you have other options lined up?

I'm a loner and i dont like making connections with people because I have to take on their worries and problems. its like my nikka blvdbrawler was saying. so it has nothing to do with her at all.​

:ehh: She must not be that "good" of a girlfriend if you acting like that in just 3 months.

But of course she is going to feel like shyt and you are gonna fukk it up for the next dude. I've done it myself and came back and talked to the females I did it to and I felt bad as shyt.. They are going to assume something is wrong with them, regardless of what you tell her.

she's a good gf for real. i dont dont wanna be bothered with her fears and daily issues. and I understand that this is the role of a mate... to be there for someone. i just dont feel like being that person.​

Why do you even have a girlfreind if you like being single?

i dont necessarily "like" being single, but the freedom to do whatever you want and make whatever decision you want without having to worry about another person is golden to me. it has nothing to do with sex or cheating either. if i wanna quit my job and go to south america... COOL. I can do that without having to discuss it with someone.

i have no pets, no kids, not really that close with my fam. lol. maybe im just fukked up. :manny:
 

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No offense AT ALL, but based on your last post, it sounds like you're a little on the awkward side.

I understand wanting to make decisions on your own and not being responsible for others- I'm the same way, and I get upset when I'm called out for it. But your post makes it sound like you have no meaningful or reciprocated relationships with anybody :usure:
 

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I'm a loner and i dont like making connections with people because I have to take on their worries and problems. its like my nikka blvdbrawler was saying. so it has nothing to do with her at all.



she's a good gf for real. i dont dont wanna be bothered with her fears and daily issues. and I understand that this is the role of a mate... to be there for someone. i just dont feel like being that person.



i dont necessarily "like" being single, but the freedom to do whatever you want and make whatever decision you want without having to worry about another person is golden to me. it has nothing to do with sex or cheating either. if i wanna quit my job and go to south america... COOL. I can do that without having to discuss it with someone.

i have no pets, no kids, not really that close with my fam. lol. maybe im just fukked up. :manny:

:ufdup: you shoulda never started the relationship in the first place. There's nothing wrong with not committing unless you pretend to commit
 

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No offense AT ALL, but based on your last post, it sounds like you're a little on the awkward side.

I understand wanting to make decisions on your own and not being responsible for others- I'm the same way, and I get upset when I'm called out for it. But your post makes it sound like you have no meaningful or reciprocated relationships with anybody :usure:

no offense taken. im not as extreme as it comes off when typed, but I wanted to drive the point home.

aight so lemme lay out a scenario for you

me: *comes back from 10 day business trip overseas*
Her: I missed you so much baby!
me: I missed you too! (I legitimately do)
Her: You can't leave me like that ever again! :(
me: *starts to feel the responsibility of this girl's feelings weigh heavy on my shoulders* Uh.. you know my job might have me take trips to China and India every now and then right?
Her: :sadcam:
Me: *starts to think "Ah fukk this shyt! This girl is good but I dont feel like dealing with another person's feelings" to himself*​
 

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no offense taken. im not as extreme as it comes off when typed, but I wanted to drive the point home.

aight so lemme lay out a scenario for you

me: *comes back from 10 day business trip overseas*
Her: I missed you so much baby!
me: I missed you too! (I legitimately do)
Her: You can't leave me like that ever again! :(
me: *starts to feel the responsibility of this girl's feelings weigh heavy on my shoulders* Uh.. you know my job might have me take trips to China and India every now and then right?
Her: :sadcam:
Me: *starts to think "Ah fukk this shyt! This girl is good but I dont feel like dealing with another person's feelings" to himself*​

I think you are taking her feelings too seriously. She is saying what people who miss you are supposed to be saying, you arent' devastating her life by going away for business. Just basic social interaction, it sounds like. Military is another thing though.

It's like a mom telling her kid at the store that he can only buy one toy, when he wants to buy 5, and gets emotional about it. You think she feels guilty that he doesn't have his ideals and all his little kid desires completely fulfilled at all times?
 

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I would feel hurt...a little. But at three months into a "relationship" chances are I haven't stopped dealing with the dude I was dealing with when I met you. So don't feel bad...you shared this girl.


:mindblown:
How are you a good girlfriend if you still talk to other men while your going into a 3month relationship?


EDIT: I see my other brehs have tackled this inquiry:ehh:
 
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