Ladies, What causes you to friendzone a man?

[FTBS]

Sometimes you don't like a guy in a romantic way, is that a bad thing? Like just because a dude is nice to you doesn't mean you want to date him and you also shouldn't feel bad that you don't want to date him. It's ok to just be cordial to him aka be his friend as long as you're not leading him on. If he still wants to hang around and try to convince you to love him, that's on him.

I feel like men have two categories for women: The ones I want to fukk w/o commitment and the ones I want to fukk and be committed to.

You don't see how this is the same thing? It's up to a dude to be upfront and demand the same from you and not allow himself to be played but at the same time you can't front like you dont' know what it is. If you are accepting the gifts and time and favors then you are implicitly encouraging him to continue.

 

[QuintessentialBM]

Most guys in the friendzone...fukk it...all guys in the friendzone are in this boat. It's funny how women and frontin ass dudes try to intertwine dudes in the friendzone with dogs who are just trying to get p*ssy. If a guy is all about the p*ssy, he ain't gonna sit back dealing with the friendzone bullshyt. The guys that are all about the p*ssy are generally the guys getting the p*ssy. Steve isn't wrong, he just oversimplifies it. All guys do approach with "I wanna fukk" motives. For some that's all they wanna do. For others they would like to do that in addition to trying to build some sort of a relationship. But lets be clear no dude is gonna approach a chick if putting his dikk in her isn't a part of the plan. As far as "mindful obtuseness" goes, a lot of women, especially attractive women are so used to getting their ass kissed that they truly don't think anything of it and believe that is just how it is. They know they are taking advantage of a person but they convince themselves that it's all good under the guise of friendship. Like other people in positions of privilege women don't always recognize their privilege.

Right! That would be like saying "All women date date boys/thugs in their youth, then when they get older, they approach stable, productive men." This shyt is incendiary(especially to BW). They retort... Not all BW do that... Why do you lump all BW together?

So why do you lump all "good/nice guys" together?

 

[A Woman's Opinion]

This is where the disconnect starts, the dudes that really want to get to know a female have to walk that thin line between being a dork or coming off mad beta and being aggressive and respectful. And most women don't even know how to handle that, they assume its one or the other 100 percent of the time. Women put dudes that want to be friends before lovers in the friendzone and let the dudes that really only want to smash play with there emotions run shop.



A dude knows if he wants you to be his only one mad early, I knew right away with the woman I'm with now I let her know up front and she was let me know that she really liked me but had some ish going on and wasn't sure if she could find time to commit. Friends sure, but trying to be a friend 1st without even telling the other person you like them in more than a friendly manner is gonna get you screwed.

Same thing with women


We have to tip-toe lines to avoid being labeled. We have to walk a thin line between being too boring, or being a whore. Being assertive without being labeled a "black bish".

Then on top of that be black, and have to watch non-black women be successful or admired for the same thing you would be disgraced and dragged for.

Kim Kardashian can come up being an uneducated gold digger, but Robin Givens gets black balled and shamed for it for decades.

TAZ Angels (a bunch of non black or exotic women) can twerk their naked azzes on IG all day and escort, but if they were a bunch of brown and dark skinned girls in quick weaves they would be laughing stocks. A joke. Not desired sexually or otherwise.

We all got our cross to bear.

 

[Rawtid]

You don't see how this is the same thing? It's up to a dude to be upfront and demand the same from you and not allow himself to be played but at the same time you can't front like you dont' know what it is. If you are accepting the gifts and time and favors then you are implicitly encouraging him to continue.

This goes for both male and female but if someone tells you they aren't interested in you romantically and you behave in a way OPPOSITE of what you've been told, then take whatever L or W comes out of it. Are you not an adult? Were you not told what it was?

 

[FTBS]

Right! That would be like saying "All women date date boys/thugs in their youth, then when they get older, they approach stable, productive men." This shyt is incendiary(especially to BW). They retort... Not all BW do that... Why do you lump all BW together?

So why do you lump all "good/nice guys" together?

It's called rationalizing bullshyt. Do you know how dumb a female would look if she said, "He's such a great genuine thoughtful guy...I'm just not into him though because I would rather be run through the gauntlet by this a$$hole over here." So instead of doing that, they front like all guys are dogs so that its a matter of options to chose from rather than their own choices. No different from how guys say "bytches aint' shyt" or "These hoes ain't loyal" to rationalize their own poor behavior and choices. In short, most people, male and female are full of shyt .

 

[QuintessentialBM]

@Elle Driver

Would you like to join conversation instead of giving dash in the background? I would welcome it.

 

[Ohene]

The worst thing is a female friend is the worse type of friend for a man.

Notice how she sees them as friends by what he does for her. Bet money shes not gonna show her friendship by what she does for him.

been said this. most girls are too self-centered to their friends

Sometimes you don't like a guy in a romantic way, is that a bad thing? Like just because a dude is nice to you doesn't mean you want to date him and you also shouldn't feel bad that you don't want to date him. It's ok to just be cordial to him aka be his friend as long as you're not leading him on. If he still wants to hang around and try to convince you to love him, that's on him.

I feel like men have two categories for women: The ones I want to fukk w/o commitment and the ones I want to fukk and be committed to.

you forgot one....the girls we dont want to fukk

 

[QuintessentialBM]

It's called rationalizing bullshyt. Do you know how dumb a female would look if she said, "He's such a great genuine thoughtful guy...I'm just not into him though because I would rather be run through the gauntlet by this a$$hole over here." So instead of doing that, they front like all guys are dogs so that its a matter of options to chose from rather than their own choices. No different from how guys say "bytches aint' shyt" or "These hoes ain't loyal" to rationalize their own poor behavior and choices. In short, most people, male and female are full of shyt .

I already knew the answer to that question... I wanted a female poster to answer...

And I'm not familiar with you. Are you male or female?

 

[Elle Driver]

@Elle Driver

Would you like to join conversation instead of giving dash in the background? I would welcome it.

It's the man's fault as usual.

 

[FTBS]

This goes for both male and female but if someone tells you they aren't interested in you romantically and you behave in a way OPPOSITE of what you've been told, then take whatever L or W comes out of it. Are you not an adult? Were you not told what it was?

You don't see how this is the same thing? It's up to a dude to be upfront and demand the same from you and not allow himself to be played but at the same time you can't front like you dont' know what it is. If you are accepting the gifts and time and favors then you are implicitly encouraging him to continue.

What you say ain't shyt compared to what you do. You tell a guy that you aren't interested but stay going on dates and calling him when you need something and sleeping in his bed then that is gonna trump anything you say. Just like he's an adult that is responsible for his actions you are an adult that is responsible for yours.

 

[FTBS]

I already knew the answer to that question... I wanted a female poster to answer...

And I'm not familiar with you. Are you male or female?

That is the first time I have ever been asked that question. I am a grown ass man.

 

[QuintessentialBM]

It's the man's fault as usual.

Thank you for your eloquent commentary.

 

[QuintessentialBM]

That is the first time I have ever been asked that question. I am a grown ass man.

Ok, boss... Don't worry, I get it all the time. Poster still think the "BM" in my name means "baby momma."

 

[FTBS]

Ok, boss... Don't worry, I get it all the time. Poster still think the "BM" in my name means "baby momma."

It's funny because I generally assume posters a guys unless they they have a real feminine name or avi. I have called a couple brehettes, "breh" in my time

 

[Rawtid]

What you say ain't shyt compared to what you do. You tell a guy that you aren't interested but stay going on dates and calling him when you need something and sleeping in his bed then that is gonna trump anything you say. Just like he's an adult that is responsible for his actions you are an adult that is responsible for yours.

Well I don't do that as I feel it's a waste of time to hang out with someone you're not interested in. But again IF someone told you they were interested in you as only a friend, why would you ask them on a date? Why would you buy them things? Why would engage in conversation with them about other potential mates? Why would you let them sleep in your bed? You're playing yourself.

you forgot one....the girls we dont want to fukk

Yeah but men don't usually befriend chicks they don't want to fukk unless they have to.