Ladies, What causes you to friendzone a man?

[QuintessentialBM]

It's funny because I generally assume posters a guys unless they they have a real feminine name or avi. I have called a couple brehettes, "breh" in my time

You can't do that on the Coli...These muthafukkas are slick... Some of these posters purposely post behind ambiguous identities to get people caught up.

 

[FTBS]

Well I don't do that as I feel it's a waste of time to hang out with someone you're not interested in. But again IF someone told you they were interested in you as only a friend, why would you ask them on a date? Why would you buy them things? Why would engage in conversation with them about other potential mates? Why would you let them sleep in your bed? You're playing yourself.


Yeah but men don't usually befriend chicks they don't want to fukk unless they have to.

Yes and I already acknowledged this multiple times. It's the Steve Urkel principle. A lot of guys think you can wear a girl down and convince her to like you if you simp hard enough. That's stupid and those guys are indeed playing themselves. My only point as been that women in these circumstances aren't necessarily innocent. Why would you go out on a date with a person you aren't interested in? It makes sense for a person to ask a person they are interested in out on a date. It doesn't make much sense to go out with someone you aren't interested in...unless of course you just wanna use them for a free night out . That's fine if you wanna play the game. You just have no place to get mad when the game is played on you.

 

[Rawtid]

Yes and I already acknowledged this multiple times. It's the Steve Urkel principle. A lot of guys think you can wear a girl down and convince her to like you if you simp hard enough. That's stupid and those guys are indeed playing themselves. My only point as been that women in these circumstances aren't necessarily innocent. Why would you go out on a date with a person you aren't interested in? It makes sense for a person to ask a person they are interested in out on a date. It doesn't make much sense to go out with someone you aren't interested in...unless of course you just wanna use them for a free night out . That's fine if you wanna play the game. You just have no place to get mad when the game is played on you.

I can't speak for all women, but if we say a dude is a friend he's going to get treated as such. We have dates with our homegirls so why not with your homeboy? You spend QT with your girlfriends, why not your guy friends? I do agree that some women do use "nice" guys and take advantage of them, but I feel for the most part there is no foul play involved...they just treating that nikka like the homie.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Same thing with women


We have to tip-toe lines to avoid being labeled. We have to walk a thin line between being too boring, or being a whore. Being assertive without being labeled a "black bish".

Then on top of that be black, and have to watch non-black women be successful or admired for the same thing you would be disgraced and dragged for.

Kim Kardashian can come up being an uneducated gold digger, but Robin Givens gets black balled and shamed for it for decades.

TAZ Angels (a bunch of non black or exotic women) can twerk their naked azzes on IG all day and escort, but if they were a bunch of brown and dark skinned girls in quick weaves they would be laughing stocks. A joke. Not desired sexually or otherwise.

We all got our cross to bear.

Black women have it pretty ruff with the sterotypes, I agree 110 percent, a black chick walking around in a bikini compared to any other race is going to be viewed totally different. Its not fair at all, but as far as just men vs women. I've literally never heard any dude that is ready to be in a relationship say a chick is too boring, Ive heard it from plenty of my homeboy's that's just out there having a good time, but from dudes thats actual husband material.... nah.

If a dude is looking for a good chick and is ready to settle down, believe me if she's cute and cool he's going to put up with just about anything she brings to the table....just about There wont be any friend zoning. I dont find that the case with women who are ready to settle down, When a woman is ready to settle down, its like trying to figure out what they want to eat when yall say yall hungry lol


Me: "so taco bell is good?"
Her: "Yeah"
*drives to taco bell*
Her: " I really dont want taco bell can we get something else"
Me:
Me: "what do you want?"
Her: " I dont know, I'm just hungry so I don't care. Just not taco bell"
Me: " So what do you want to eat?"
Me: " Ite we just getting chinese food then"
her: "really? I..."
Me: " "

Her: "whatever"

Me: *thinking to myself* I knew you didn't want taco bell in the 1st place, just had to get that 1 suggestion rejection out of your system

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Am I the only nikka that still tries to fukk from the friendzone?

Nothing wrong with that. About 30% of my kills have come from shots fired in the friendzone.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Figuring out women just too much work man... Just go on backpage, pay for some p*ssy and call it a day.

No, it's not.

Here's what they want...

They want something they haven't had before, or at least something they haven't had in a long time.
That's it.

Women under the age of 35 will choose excitement over stability 80% of the time, so give them that if you want to be desired. And excitement doesn't have to be some outlandish shyt, it's really just something they weren't expecting. Being unpredictable = God Mode.
You don't have to be tall, or handsome, or rich although these things don't hurt. All you have to do is be different than the last guy and just interesting enough to keep her wanting more, and have enough unpredictable swag to make it seem like you have options.

 

[FTBS]

I can't speak for all women, but if we say a dude is a friend he's going to get treated as such. We have dates with our homegirls so why not with your homeboy? You spend QT with your girlfriends, why not your guy friends? I do agree that some women do use "nice" guys and take advantage of them, but I feel for the most part there is no foul play involved...they just treating that nikka like the homie.

We will never put an end to bullshyt if we continue to propagate it for our "side". As a man I can acknowledge that man chasing a chick that doesn't want him is a sucker. Yet you as a woman are sitting here saying that that a chick who takes advantage of such a situation is just "treating him like a friend".

How you feel about a dude that fukks a chick and lets it be known that's all he wants but she stays trying to get with him and he stays just fukkin her. Is that just treating her like the fukk buddy with no foul play?

 

[Soundwave]

Those smileys though

 

[Rawtid]

We will never put an end to bullshyt if we continue to propagate it for our "side". As a man I can acknowledge that man chasing a chick that doesn't want him is a sucker. Yet you as a woman are sitting here saying that that a chick who takes advantage of such a situation is just "treating him like a friend".

How you feel about a dude that fukks a chick and lets it be known that's all he wants but she stays trying to get with him and he stays just fukkin her. Is that just treating her like the fukk buddy with no foul play?

If a guy says he wants to just have sex with a woman and she chooses to go along with it KNOWING she wants more than sex, then that's on her.

There is nothing wrong with being JUST friends with a guy. If you've communicated that to him and he still chooses to behave differently that's on him.

 

[LadySimone]

Is it raw, disrespectful attitude that goes against authority, or is it visual? If you can't figure out what you prefer from a man, you have every right to be criticized.

There is a huge myth that women don't like nice guys. A nice idris Elba will get more women than a dikk head flava flav. The only problem is good looking dudes can be dikk heads while ugly dudes have to be nice.

 

[Elle Driver]

Thank you for your eloquent commentary.

True story.

 

[FTBS]

If a guy says he wants to just have sex with a woman and she chooses to go along with it KNOWING she wants more than sex, then that's on her.

There is nothing wrong with being JUST friends with a guy. If you've communicated that to him and he still chooses to behave differently that's on him.

Who said there was? The issue here is that you aren't truly just friends if one of you wants more. You said yourself that leading someone on is wrong and that you wouldn't go out with a guy you aren't interested in yet you stay trying to defend a perspective that flies in the face of that.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Yo really what is considered universally ugly for women? Because I swear if you put a below average dude on stage and ask 10 chicks what you they think I dont think anyone would say he's unattractive. " He's ok, He's built, he's cute, he has good style, he has good hair, he has pretty teeth, he has a great smile, or he's not my type" I really never hear chicks say "that dude is ugly" unless "he's not cute" mean the same thing as ugly.

Are you a woman? Women say that to be nice because they are conditioned to be nice. Women most certainly discuss looks among themselves.

 

[bcrusaderw]

Some of you just aren't honest with yourselves. Every guy desires a 10/10 even if he looks like a 2/10. Men in the lower ranges need to be honest with themselves in that they are only going to attract a 10/10 if they have something else to offer. You need to bring SOMETHING to the table.

 

[Raava]

Not attracted to them like that
Don't see them or want them that way
Did something that was a turn off
Did something that I know I couldn't deal with in a relationship

I have male friends, been friends for years. Would they have sex with me if given the chance? Maybe one of them. Do they expect that, approach me like that, do things for me in order to get that? No. They respect me and I respect them. We respect the others relationship if we have them. I'm not going to treat them like a would a female either because they are men. They aren't waiting for some dude to get out the picture and they aren't my peen in a glass.