Ladies, What causes you to friendzone a man?

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

This is where the disconnect starts, the dudes that really want to get to know a female have to walk that thin line between being a dork or coming off mad beta and being aggressive and respectful. And most women don't even know how to handle that, they assume its one or the other 100 percent of the time. Women put dudes that want to be friends before lovers in the friendzone and let the dudes that really only want to smash play with there emotions run shop.



A dude knows if he wants you to be his only one mad early, I knew right away with the woman I'm with now I let her know up front and she was let me know that she really liked me but had some ish going on and wasn't sure if she could find time to commit. Friends sure, but trying to be a friend 1st without even telling the other person you like them in more than a friendly manner is gonna get you screwed.

breh.... I feel like you're coming from the right place, but the conclusions you're drawing are incorrect.

I mean, ppl try to rationalize this stuff... I spent years trying to rationalize it.... back when I was trying to be all friendly and nice and all of that, but the woman didn't want to be with me...
and then when I just didn't give a care anymore and I developed an edge and was unapologetically cocky, close to arrogant.... women was ready to give me the bizness.

and breh, here's what ppl should realize: You can't make sense out of something that doesn't make sense.

emotions are the opposite of logic. Women (contrary to what many of the ones in this thread would have you believe) operate MORE OFTEN THAN NOT from an emotional perspective.

So why try to rationalize it? Make it work for you... that's what I learned to do.

I used to hate the game, till I learned the game....

to win with these women, take the irrationality and make it work for you. I read something in the gems with women thread and it's so true.... be irrationally confident in yourself.

You can be the ugliest brokest fattest negro out here, and if you walk around with the attitude that the world is your oyster and that ppl gotta play by your rules.... women flock to that stuff, mane.

I'm living proof of it, not that ya boy is ugly or nothing

but this thread is just bananas mane.



I don't understand why ppl are trying to rationalize what can't be rationalized.


all my life I've seen women get approached by brehs with good careers, making good money, dedicated and all types of good attributes... and she passes them up

why?

because all that's good on paper... that's what women claim they want.... but if they get a breh like that, and he ain't exciting them and piquing them emotions.... they'll do him like ol girl Jurnee Smollet did ole boy in that trash Tyler Perry Temptation movie.

breh was BORING, and so his chick got took by some ugly rich boy who was EXCITING.... yet demonic, and then ole girl wound up getting that virus and blah blah....




but anyway, that's the key. Ya'll getting friendzoned by these chicks for a reason. first of all, every woman ain't gon like every man.

So quit tripping. If she don't like you, it's not the end of the world, ole "if I can't have you I don't want nobody" nikkas...



get over it, mane. I agree with what some of the women in this thread are saying. You're not ENTITLED to her. If she don't want you, then she don't want you.


it's not the end of the world, you're not gonna die, wipe the tears away, breh



so again: first of all, every woman ain't gon like every man. I know women that crush hard on Shemar Moore... and then I know other women that think he looks like a fakkit.


but the reason why a lot of you boys is getting friendzoned in instances where you COULD be a viable option to her.... is cause y'all BORING these chicks mane.


You gotta pique them emotions, breh. Women are a massive ball of emotions... but if you know what you're doing, you can pique them emotions and have her fiending for you... mentally, physically, sexually....

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

There is nothing wrong with being JUST friends with a guy. If you've communicated that to him and he still chooses to behave differently that's on him.

It's like Chris Rock said, though. A lot of women do see their friendzone guys as a "dikk in the glass". They want these guys to stick around and they don't want these guys to find another girl. They get jealous and shyt. They will lead on these "friends" because they want to keep him around in case they need to break the glass.

So the whole thing is disingenuous. The guy might only want sex though I would argue if he's sticking around a long time he probably does want a relationship. The girl usually isn't being straight with the guy. They refuse to say "I only see you as a friend" ... because they know if they did they would risk losing the dikk in the glass (and the attention).

 

[reserved_one]

To avoid getting thrown in the friendzone you can't be conservative and indecisive...You have to come at her aggressively (not in like your about to rape her or anything), but by showing her signs from the get go that you want her without being too thirsty. Its all about taking charge....taking that next step. If your not gonna take that next step then you'll be stuck as her friend while the next man steps up to the plate and sweep her off her feet. You have to put a bullseye on her emotions and fire away with urgency until she fires back even stronger with lust, attraction and desire for you. Attracting her sexually is a game changer that propels you forward.

Its cool to be nice, but you don't wanna be that guy all the time. You have to find a medium. Overall, I'll treat a woman right. At the sametime, I ain't gonna be sitting here giving her fukking compliments/sending her cute txt messages all day neither.

Once I cut down on the "niceness" and developed more of a cocky, arrogant, I don't care attitude.....I noticed dramatic improvements

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Nothing wrong with that. About 30% of my kills have come from shots fired in the friendzone.

I couldn't do it...

why would I want to be a chicks' friend with the hope that one day she breaks down and gets weak and gives me some?

In my opinion, it would make me look weak... would def make me FEEL weak

if I gotta do all that, then forget about it

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I couldn't do it...

why would I want to be a chicks' friend with the hope that one day she breaks down and gets weak and gives me some?

In my opinion, it would make me look weak... would def make me FEEL weak

if I gotta do all that, then forget about it

You're assuming they're the ones doing the friendzoning...

See, the old adage, "Men and women cannot be friends; one will always want more than the other." holds true.
The key is simply pretend to be the one who isn't interested. Then, nature takes it's course, you have her in your back pocket while you're "in the friend zone" and you're free to hit whenever you want.


Note: This is only useful for women who you don't want to date seriously. It's a strategy for cold winters, not building relationships.

 

[Tropical Fantasy]

If he's too nice. Nice dudes are like brothers makes me want to take care of them in a sisterly way.

That's why I'm #HOH til the death of me

 

[theflyest]

Beat them to the punch...

Friendzone these women first....They won't know what hit them...Something in them will trick them that they want you when they would've friendzoned you....It's funny...

Yeah it works, because your not allowing any control

The whole game is about not allowing them to have control. It's really sad. If it's a nice guy, they have too much control over the situation & know they can have them at anytime. There has to be some kind of uncertainty. They have to hope that you have interest. They have to hope you will stay around.

 

[joeychizzle]

I just dapped you for that ducktales smiley with hair

 

[Carlton Banks]

Mentally speaking. I have a lot of older female friends due to being friend zoned back in the days and shyt... And I know some of y'all like "this nikka..." But hey, only reason I keep em around and stay in touch is cuz being in the friend zone ain't really that bad. Con is you can't fukk em, pro is you get to leech off em. Can't tell you the amount of free meals I done got for being a good "friend."

But anyways, yeah so majority of the girls I talk with are in their late 30's and they all so lame. Meaning, they're in some of the dumbest relationships you can think of. One is 37 with 2 kids and is with a 23 year old. She's the HR manager at his job and he's like a customer service rep or some shyt. Apparently he's the stud in the workplace and all the girls love him. It's like high school basically. Some bytches just still in a high school state of mind. Wanting a nikka cuz all the other hoes want em. I read someone say "an older woman prefers excitement over stability at the end of the day" and that shyt is true. Nothing wrong with that, BUT we all normally assume they want stability cuz that's all they ever talk about. That's all they talk about but that's never what they end up with. Or they had it before and were bored. But it seems they go for lamer dudes as they get older. Cuz at one point these women have all gotten that exact dude they thought they wanted and got bored with em. So there's really no guide to this shyt. Women just want something different like men do. But fukk all that trying to figure out and appease women shyt. Just jump on backpage and get you something you just wanna fukk and be done with. Or just get a white girl and live that good life where you don't gotta worry about shyt like this.

 

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

From what I hear, if you have a "protective" presence, you can get in there.


All that nice guy/gentlemen shyt is cool, but they have to be able to envision you body'ing a muthafukka.


At times, they'll slip up and give the puss to a pretty boy muthafuka, but if you really wanna get em "so far gone", you gotta have a lil sociopath in you.Not too much but it's gotta be there