Ladies, what does it mean when you tell a breh he is "quiet"?

[Cake]

Not socially awkward. Introverted maybe, but not socially awkward.

And, the bolded is subjective. I don't talk a lot according to who? The extroverts who run their fukking mouths all the time?

you don't run the conversation. Call it what you want but your not socially dominant which is why bytches make comments.

They say the same shyt to me.

 

[Henry Orbit]

I've heard this all throughout my life from women, and people in general. But, today I heard it again from a young lady in one of my classes and it has a breh confuzzled.

I've literally had conversations with women who have told me things like

"I was always scared to talk to you because you're so quiet."

"You're a cool guy, you should speak more often."

"When I first saw you, I wanted to speak to you, but I didn't because I thought you would be an a$$hole because you're so quiet."

Even my own parents used to (and still do sometimes) constantly ask me "What's wrong? " and "What are you so quiet for all of a sudden?" because apparently I looked like I was unhappy or tense.

I was even talking to one of my homies the other day at a party. I (jokingly) asked him why he didn't say "what's up" and he told me it's because I looked pissed off when I showed up at the spot.

Brehettes (and brehs too I guess ), what does it mean when you tell a dude he is "quiet" or "too quiet"?

The story of my life. It's even worse when you don't smile, people always think you're angry when you could be just deep in thought. The other side to that is, when you're smiling/in a good mood, everyone is like, "Okay, what happened?"

 

[agpxknt]

It means your lame and boring. She needs excitment

 

[aXiom]

Breh asked the ladies..17 replies in... all men

 

[The Burger King]

It means your lame and boring. She needs excitment

But my question is, why would she speak to me in the first place if I'm lame and boring?

My whole point is this. Women don't even acknowledge dudes who are "lame and boring" (from what I can tell). I don't think women really give a shyt about lame and boring dudes who don't speak to them.

Whereas, in my case, people act as if I am SUPPOSED to be speaking to them, when in reality I may not be speaking to them for a number of reasons.

The girl who told me this today, I didn't initiate a conversation with her. She initiated it with me and asked me why I'm so quiet.

 

[Neuromancer]

These muffukkas think they know...
...but they don't really know.

#introvertgang

 

[Verbal Kint]

It's a nice way of everyone saying they think you're crazy and they don't want you alone with your thoughts too much.

 

[Lithe]

Any time I've ever said that to a guy, it's because he was intriguing to me and I wanted to know more about him, but I wasn't sure how to approach him. Then I also would think "if he wanted to talk to me, he would. So...?!" and what could actually be a great meeting of minds turns out to be silence. I also have somewhat of a traditional mindset that a man should do the approaching, but there is no harm at all in starting a conversation!

As an introvert, I'm very respectful of other people's space, I value silence and I'm also very observant and curious about people in general. I tend to "feel" people out so I know how to talk to them. I'm not (that) shy, but I am introverted and quiet. So unless there's a common thread or I find that opening to engage in conversation, a person I'm interested in will always remain a mystery to me.

If I sense something is wrong, though, I'll just ask "you good?" or something to show interest, but nothing too personal.

I wish people understood introverts more! I am a woman, but the many times I've been called "stuck up" is appalling. I feel no need to broadcast my every thought or emotion, though. Most of the time I'm not talking, I'm thinking and watching what's going on around me. I had to do a MBTI assessment for one of my classes and I was not at all surprised to find out I'm ISFJ. Myers Briggs is worth a look, if you (or anyone reading this) haven't yet taken an assessment!

 

[The BasedFather]

@VFib in the cut dapping

 

[The Burger King]

It's a nice way of everyone saying they think you're crazy and they don't want you alone with your thoughts too much.

Any time I've ever said that to a guy, it's because he was intriguing to me and I wanted to know more about, but I wasn't sure how to approach him. Then I also would think "if he wanted to talk to me, he would. So...?!" and what could actually be a great meeting of minds turns out to be silence. I also have somewhat of a traditional mindset that a man should do the approaching, but there is no harm at all in starting a conversation!

As an introvert, I'm very respectful of other people's space, I value silence and I'm also very observant and curious about people in general. I tend to "feel" people out so I know how to talk to them. I'm not (that) shy, but I am introverted and quiet. So unless there's a common thread or I find that opening to engage in conversation, a person I'm interested in will always remain a mystery to me.

If I sense something is wrong, though, I'll just ask "you good?" or something to show interest, but nothing too personal.

I wish people understood introverts more! I am a woman, but the many times I've been called "stuck up" is appalling. I feel no need to broadcast my every thought of emotion, though. Most of the time I'm not talking, I'm thinking and watching what's going on around me. I had to do a MBTI assessment for one of my classes and I was not at all surprised to find out I'm ISFJ. Myers Briggs is worth a look, if you (or anyone reading this) haven't yet taken an assessment!

2 pages later and a woman finally responds.

 

[agnosticlady]

If he is always quiet that is annoying. I'd like to be with a person that is outspoken (but knows when to be quite ). If he is always quiet then I would think that I am annoying him and just leave. As long as he is not nagging, a debbie downer, or insecure I like men that know how to carry a conversation and know when to shut up.

 

[acri1]

That introvert life.

Extroverts tend to feel like something is wrong when someone is being too quiet. And that's not a knock on extroverts (sometimes I wish I was one), it's just a difference in thinking.


Trying to explain that you just default to being quiet if you don't have anything to say is just something that won't really compute for a highly extroverted person because they'd react differently.

 

[Lithe]

2 pages later and a woman finally responds.

Haha I logged in just to reply to this! But don't worry, you're not alone! It's difficult being an introvert in an extrovert world.

My main thing is people asking me what's wrong, and when I tell them nothing, they insist on the truth. Because no one can ever just be quiet and feeling fine, right? Makes me want to say "okay, truth is there is nothing wrong except now you're getting disrespectful in my space and creating a problem." I'm quiet but very honest. Catches people off guard.

 

[TheArchitect]

I got a deep ass voice.

I'm talking about being told I'm "too quiet" before I've ever even spoken to the person.

This. That shyt is so irritating...

Not socially awkward. Introverted maybe, but not socially awkward.

And, the bolded is subjective. I don't talk a lot according to who? The extroverts who run their fukking mouths all the time?

Sheep/group think. When you're not doing what the herd is doing, something is the matter with you...

 

[agpxknt]

But my question is, why would she speak to me in the first place if I'm lame and boring?

My whole point is this. Women don't even acknowledge dudes who are "lame and boring" (from what I can tell). I don't think women really give a shyt about lame and boring dudes who don't speak to them.

Whereas, in my case, people act as if I am SUPPOSED to be speaking to them, when in reality I may not be speaking to them for a number of reasons.

The girl who told me this today, I didn't initiate a conversation with her. She initiated it with me and asked me why I'm so quiet.

Yea bruh im exactly the same way but im always like i know you not attracted to me so why does it matter if im quiet