Ladies, What Goes Through Women's Heads When Y'all Are Not Approached?

[mcdivit85]

@ dudes intentionally ignoring chicks on some "just because" tip. Like that's repaying all the chicks that didn't give them their number back in the day.

I think its wack for a female to clown a dude on some "just because" level and I think its just as wack for a dude to do that as well. Like the chicks who come to the club dressed naked knowing dudes are going to approach, but they just get off on having dudes sweat them just to they can reject them in a myriad of ways. Or chicks who are looking at a particular dude over and over, giving him smiles and then when dudes steps over and starts a conversation, the chick is acting like she doesn't know why he's there.

Extremely immature behavior. Why clown somebody for paying you a compliment? Even if you're not interested.

Peace

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

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[Raava]

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[FLYINHAWAIIAN]

I didn't say I only talk to men I know. I said I don't want a random dude who has no reason to talk to me approaching me.

You do understand that there are better ways to meet people than just randomly walking up to them right? I don't even recommend trying to meet random people. That's how you end up with a crazy. I usually met quality people though mutual acquaintances and events that interest me. It usually goes like this.

1. Go to an event/gathering/place of interest
2. Meet people at the event and possibly see/chat with a person(s) of interest
3.Go to another event. See person(s) of interest again and chat more
4. Go to another event. See person(s) of interest another time and exchange info.

Between all of this you do your research and see what type of person you are dealing with. I don't exchange contact info the first time I meet a person.

It's a lot easier than dealing with randoms, you probably already have a lot in commended, you have similar interests and you have people who can vouch for you them.

So if you meet a dude at Walmart, how in the world you expect to randomly meet him again at the mall?

 

[mamba]

Im saying.
Ladies, be more direct.
Atleast touch the dude or something.
Can't just stand over there cleaning your nails like "Im clearly cleaning my nails for no reason. he better approach me"
AIn't no dude thinking about all that shyt.

Add that to the fact that most of these bytches don't flash a smile throughout the process.

They're expecting a nikka to read their mind, while not smiling or anything.

fukk is wrong with these chicks, breh?

 

[bzb]

I didn't say I only talk to men I know. I said I don't want a random dude who has no reason to talk to me approaching me.

You do understand that there are better ways to meet people than just randomly walking up to them right? I don't even recommend trying to meet random people. That's how you end up with a crazy. I usually met quality people though mutual acquaintances and events that interest me. It usually goes like this.

1. Go to an event/gathering/place of interest
2. Meet people at the event and possibly see/chat with a person(s) of interest
3.Go to another event. See person(s) of interest again and chat more
4. Go to another event. See person(s) of interest another time and exchange info.

Between all of this you do your research and see what type of person you are dealing with. I don't exchange contact info the first time I meet a person.

It's a lot easier than dealing with randoms, you probably already have a lot in commended, you have similar interests and you have people who can vouch for you them.

take advice from stripper, brehs.



meeting random people is awesome. you don't have to give them your name, digits and address. doesn't even have to result in anything in particular, but telling folks to avoid meeting random people is just dumb. i've gone out in groups and by myself and have had some great times chatting it up with random people i didn't know.

was chillin at sports bar one night watching a bball game and this random chick at the bar by herself started a convo. she wasn't too much of a looker so at first i was like but she knew a little something about ball and wasn't aggressively trying to hit on a dude so we chatted. about 15 mins later her cousin and sister come through, turns out they were meeting her there to bounce to the next spot. both were fly as hell. shorty seasoned it up for the boy and cosigned me being a cool dude and the whole nine. a round of shots on her before they bounced turned into a quick pool game and then few more rounds, basically the whole night. even got a future rendezvous with the fly cousin out of the deal and all are still cool peoples till this day. i coulda been stuck up and a assh0le about it kicking it with random people, but turned out to be a win.


admittedly rules for women are slightly different, but telling people not to talk to "randoms" is some stuck up bs imo.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Is it childish just because you don't like it?

Grown folks do this method all the time. I know some mature women that prefer to be approached in non-social settings. And I prefer approaching women in non-social settings.

Of course, attending events where the men you like are more likely to be will skew the type of men you meet. But I'm confused about conversations having a different effect just because they're spread out over several events. You could exchange info and get to know someone just as well.

And I doubt many friends would give anything but praise about someone interested in you. Are dudes really telling you their boys ain't shyt?

No it's childish b/c that is what teenagers do. Just b/c adults do something doesn't make immature. Look at this website. As an adult if you are approaching dating/relationships the way you did when you were a teenage then you have a serious problems. Hence why these "mature women" are still needing to be approached.

Why would you not want to skew your results though? Why mess with randoms when you can go for exactly what you want?

Honesty, as a man (assuming you are) this is a wonderful strategy for you. Conversations over a period of time will:

1. Allows you get to know this person (to an extent) without losing time or money. Free face time! That means no waiting 2 dates to find out you don't even like this chick or that she doesn't like you. By the time you actually meet up you are more familiar and comfortable and you will KNOW she/he is into you.
2. Gives you the opportunity to do your research about a person BEFORE you decide to take time out of your life to get to know them. Your time is valuable and not everyone is worth the time it take to get to know them.
3. It makes you seem cool like you are not thirsty. It makes you seem more interesting when you have a good conversation and then walk away. Trust me it will surprise her/him. Chick/dude will be like . Then the next time you see her she will be even more interested.
4. If give her/him a chance to see you working the room. Let's him/her know that you have options so that when you do decide to give him/her the time of day she will take it seriously.


Honey you don't ask the dudes! You ask the women (for me, you would ask the dudes) who associate with him. They don't need to be the best friends. People love to gossip. You'd be surprised how much info people will give out if you just bring up a name. You don't tell the person you are asking about your interest. Just causally bring up the person of interests name. Don't underestimate the power of shade. People give it away like candy.


PS You should be surprised how many men/women will rat out their homie inorder to make themselves look better.

The more you know...

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I think it's always like this til you meet a guy you're attracted to. I met a lovely young lady in a grocery store because she almost ran me over with her cart. There was very strong attraction though... I'm sure if there wasn't I would've been labelled as some creep.

I didn't say you couldn't find someone by randomly approaching others but there are better ways than just trying to sort through all the random people in the world. Plus, a lot of women HATE being approached out of no where. I know I do. Maybe if he was gorgeous I wouldn't mind but 99% I would rather be left alone.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You miss the shots you don't take

I guess babe. I rather spend my time sorting though the the good options rather than just trying to find a good option. But maybe you have free time like that.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

take advice from stripper, brehs.



meeting random people is awesome. you don't have to give them your name, digits and address. doesn't even have to result in anything in particular, but telling folks to avoid meeting random people is just dumb. i've gone out in groups and by myself and have had some great times chatting it up with random people i didn't know.

was chillin at sports bar one night watching a bball game and this random chick at the bar by herself started a convo. she wasn't too much of a looker so at first i was like but she knew a little something about ball and wasn't aggressively trying to hit on a dude so we chatted. about 15 mins later her cousin and sister come through, turns out they were meeting her there to bounce to the next spot. both were fly as hell. shorty seasoned it up for the boy and cosigned me being a cool dude and the whole nine. a round of shots on her before they bounced turned into a quick pool game and then few more rounds, basically the whole night. even got a future rendezvous with the fly cousin out of the deal and all are still cool peoples till this day. i coulda been stuck up and a assh0le about it kicking it with random people, but turned out to be a win.


admittedly rules for women are slightly different, but telling people not to talk to "randoms" is some stuck up bs imo.

You are taking what I said out of context. We are talking about randomly approaching a chick for the sole purpose of getting her number, info, whatever. That has nothing to do what you are talking about.

Nothing wrong with striking up conversations with random people or making friends. I do it all the time but I would not date anyone or dedicated time out of my life until he was vetted. But again maybe you have free time to do all that. I'm not interested in finding a diamond in the ruff. I just wanna sort through the diamonds.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

What nikka is gonna dish dirt on his boy to a chick? Ole boy could have a harem of chicks but his boy aint gonna tell you!

You'd be surprised how thirsty dudes can be. But you don't ask directly. You bring up the name. shyt, half the time you don't even need to speak. Just listen.

Case and point, last month I went out with a big group of people. I was sitting next to my date and on the other side was his female friend. As we are all sitting there another one of their guy friends approaches with a woman and they sit down at the other end of the table. Within ear shot of the woman who just approached the female friend sitting next to me says "Oh okay. I think I remember her. Should I remember her name? He goes through so many. At this point there is no point in trying to keep them straight." I am pretty sure the woman heard her. Now, if I was that woman I would have made a mental note that homie is a hoe. People say dumb shyt like that all the time. Just keep your ears open and the truth will find you.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So if you meet a dude at Walmart, how in the world you expect to randomly meet him again at the mall?

I don't meet men at Walmart honey. That is the point. I only get to know men I already have some affiliation. I did the random guy thing when I was a teen and the results are very disappointing. My method now is solid gold.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I didn't say I only talk to men I know. I said I don't want a random dude who has no reason to talk to me approaching me.

You do understand that there are better ways to meet people than just randomly walking up to them right? I don't even recommend trying to meet random people. That's how you end up with a crazy. I usually met quality people though mutual acquaintances and events that interest me. It usually goes like this.

1. Go to an event/gathering/place of interest
2. Meet people at the event and possibly see/chat with a person(s) of interest
3.Go to another event. See person(s) of interest again and chat more
4. Go to another event. See person(s) of interest another time and exchange info.

Between all of this you do your research and see what type of person you are dealing with. I don't exchange contact info the first time I meet a person.

It's a lot easier than dealing with randoms, you probably already have a lot in commended, you have similar interests and you have people who can vouch for you them.

I usually like your commentary but this is utterly BS. Maybe in a small town but a big city naw. Secondly, at gatherings you meet people's representatives and not who they are. I am talkative but at a function I am quiet. Seeing a person of interest equates to an opportunity that one may never get again. It matters in approach and not circumstances. That's why these things called dates came to existence because one may meet someone at a place that is not ideal to converse in-depth but offer a set time and place to do such.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I usually like your commentary but this is utterly BS. Maybe in a small town but a big city naw. Secondly, at gatherings you meet people's representatives and not who they are. I am talkative but at a function I am quiet. Seeing a person of interest equates to an opportunity that one may never get again. It matters in approach and not circumstances. That's why these things called dates came to existence because one may meet someone at a place that is not ideal to converse in-depth but offer a set time and place to do such.

If traditional dating worked so well then so many people wouldn't fail at it. Think about that. I am guessing you have been dating for awhile yes? How effective do you think randomly approaching women is? Out of all the women who you have ever approached randomly how many have been worth your time? I am guessing very few.

You may think it's BS b/c you haven't tried it. How many BW do you hear complain about finding decent men? And how many time have you heard me complain about it? NEVER. Why? B/c I have no problem finding good dudes. Why? It's b/c I do my homework, I am selective and I look in the right places.

I live in DC. If you get out and about in a major city you will learn that it's not as big as it seems. People tend to travel in the same circles to the same type of events. If you meet someone who runs with a particular group then you will see them again if you continue to run with that group. You don't have to be pressed to get someone's number. They will come back to you and appreciate you more for it.

Date smarter not harder fellas.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

You all are about the now now now. If you all only knew how much further you would get with a little patience and mystery. The art of seduction is so lost on ya'll.