Ladies...what's the best way to break up with you ?

[OfTheCross]

I was considering fading into Bolivia but I'm a stand up guy.

My last couple break-ups were:

Face to face in the bedroom.

Texted her since we weren't official.

Face to face in the bedroom (her with me cause I ain't shyt)

I want this next one to be so smooth that we remain friends. We might still be seeing a lot of each other socially.

 

[Ello_Vee]

How long have you been together? (How much has she invested in you so far.)

Do you think she feels it coming/wants it too? (You ok with her telling you bye first? And what if she wants a clean break with no friendship afterward?)

Any idea how she acted after her last break up?

Advice depends on answers to some of the above.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Just tell me. Over the phone/text is probably best because if you make me come out my house just to tell me its over Imma feel like

Honestly, if you wanna go bye-bye, I can't make you stay either way. Just know I don't go backwards. Once I'm gone, I'm gone forever.

 

[ellessij]

You should probably do it in person. If it were me, I'd be hurt because I'd feel like you dealt with it callously if you just sent me a text.

 

[Paradise]

Just do it in person. Most people these days don't want to have to deal with the emotional part of breaking up... so they just text the person. Hell I've been broken up with through email...

 

[Ezigbo Nwanyi]

Over the phone, I wish a nikka would do it in person on some foul shyt, I probably will go HAM unless it was mutual.

 

[OfTheCross]

How long have you been together? (How much has she invested in you so far.)

Do you think she feels it coming/wants it too? (You ok with her telling you bye first? And what if she wants a clean break with no friendship afterward?)

Any idea how she acted after her last break up?

Advice depends on answers to some of the above.

a year. (invested? )

hell naw she doesn't want it to. I don't know if she feels it coming.

I'm ok saying bye. If she wants a clean break that's her prerogative.

last break up she got drunk and admitted she loved me

Just tell me. Over the phone/text is probably best because if you make me come out my house just to tell me its over Imma feel like

Honestly, if you wanna go bye-bye, I can't make you stay either way. Just know I don't go backwards. Once I'm gone, I'm gone forever.

Eh...you're not in love with me.

Spoiler

or are you

Just do it in person. Most people these don't want to have to deal with the emotional part of breaking up... so they just text the person. Hell I've been broken up with through email...

you ain't shyt for that

 

[OfTheCross]

Over the phone, I wish a nikka would do it in person on some foul shyt, I probably will go HAM unless it was mutual.

How is it foul if it's in person ?

At least in person I can console you

 

[Ezigbo Nwanyi]

How is it foul if it's in person ?

At least in person I can console you

I'm not the type of person who handles rejection well and I dont like to hurt people. All of my breakups have been me calling a ghost and that person figuring it out. Only time I ever broke it off with someone in person is when the feelings were mutual. I never had a dude break up with me in person because I will never let it happen, I knew what time it was when shyt started being different and folks start acting funny.

 

[Paradise]

a year. (invested? )

hell naw she doesn't want it to. I don't know if she feels it coming.

I'm ok saying bye. If she wants a clean break that's her prerogative.

last break up she got drunk and admitted she loved me



Eh...you're not in love with me.

Spoiler

or are you

you ain't shyt for that

I'm dead serious. He was at my house he went back to work and sent me an email talking about he can't do this anymore. A month later he had a "new girlfriend."

 

[OfTheCross]

I'm dead serious. He was at my house he went back to work and sent me an email talking about he can't do this anymore. A month later he had a "new girlfriend."

Ooh. I read that wrong. I thought you did the breaking up.

That dude ain't shyt

 

[Ezigbo Nwanyi]

I'm dead serious. He was at my house he went back to work and sent me an email talking about he can't do this anymore. A month later he had a "new girlfriend."

Classic shyt

 

[Ezigbo Nwanyi]

I was considering fading into Bolivia but I'm a stand up guy.

My last couple break-ups were:

Face to face in the bedroom.

Texted her since we weren't official.

Face to face in the bedroom (her with me cause I ain't shyt)

I want this next one to be so smooth that we remain friends. We might still be seeing a lot of each other socially.

So I briefly read ur other thread. I hope you not breaking up with her because your ex in town?

 

[Ello_Vee]

a year. (invested? )

back at you. Three months is different than a year versus three years. If you were together 2-3 years, she might have different reaction because she had put more time into you/your relationship.

last break up she got drunk and admitted she loved me

You saying you broke up with her before? Or the last dude she broke up with is when she came to confess feelings to you? Because what I really wanted to know is if she is a calm, cool, collected kind of lady, or if she went ham on her last ex-bf.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Eh...you're not in love with me.

Spoiler

or are you

Lol nah.
That's how I talk. I always put myself in people's shoes or situation and so I tend to speak in first person (use the words "I", "you" and "me") rather than speaking about a hypothetical third person.

*Honestly, I just now read the OP. I was just answering the title.