Let's have a conversation about domestic violence...

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Women are grown children, society bends over for them at every whim. As a man, no matter what you do in the situation, it's always your fault. Whereas a woman's words alone can convict you, a man needs hardcore evidence to prove otherwise. Once you truly realize that and move accordingly, life is sweet

 

[Womb Raider]

OP, I’m not gonna judge you like the rest of these people in here. I remember I DMed you about a situation and you told me to look at myself first. I’ll give you what I think about your situation: I really think you need to be careful about the situations and women you get yourself involved in. I saw you admitted your faults and mentioned the specific events that you reacted to. I can’t stress the importance of recognizing red flags and leaving those alone. While I do think that you have some work to do on yourself, I think that was bad situation that wouldn’t have had a good outcome no matter what. As a man, you gotta understand that the law will always take their side, they don’t give a fukk about us. Add kids and violence into the mix and you could get yourself into some serious shyt...the only time I put my hands on a bytch was while I was kicking her out for a whole bunch of shyt, but especially having me drive a stolen car without my knowledge. The cops pulled up to my house the next day but left before I answered. Essentially I got lucky she kept her distance after that. The moral of the story is she did a whole bunch of shyt before it even got to that point and I should’ve known better...once shyt gets toxic you gotta remove yourself bro, it really ain’t no rap for black men out here.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Get treated like a roach brehs

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

yeah.. he said himself in his post he a manipulator. abusers and manipulative tend to tell a completely different reality in terms of situations to get support.

for example: so my ex ordered a new pair of glasses, i agreed i’d bring him to pick them up the next day when i got out of work, when i got out i wanted to rest for 30 minutes after waking up at 3:30 am and being on my feet..he acted like it was fine. i go to pick him up, the entire car ride he ignores me.. we get there, he walks ahead of me and acts like i didn’t exist. we end up getting into a huge argument.. he walks away and says he’ll find a ride home

the women he was cheating on me with told me he called her asking for a ride and told her i was being a bytch and left him at the mall

why doesnt your ex have his own mode of transportation? he has a lot of nerve to be mad at someone doing him a favor

if he had an issue with you resting for 30 mins, why didn’t his passive aggressive ass just ask the chick he cheated on u with for a ride from the jump? or better yet order an uber? actually, I know the answer to this one; he wanted you to see him mad. goofy ass

why do y’all women pick these feminine ass nikkas ? imagine the type of bs you would’ve been in for 18 years if youd gotten pregnant by this diva ass nikka

 

[KneeGrow.]

nah, the conversation we need to have is being able to walk away from a situation like this, including the kids, if you're not going to have the proper amount of control over the situation.

the kids will understand when they grow up. but having to watch her do dusty hoe shyt is just going to get you frustrated, or get you in predicaments like this. while she continues to do dusty hoe shyt.

if she wants you back in the kids' life, she can get with the program and conduct herself, with your kids, in a manner you approve of

Would a mother ever be encouraged to walk away from their children?

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Easier said than done but walk away, walk away walk away.

Long post warning.

Couple years ago one of my brehs hit me with a text to come to his crib and his ex who had been Living there for like 3 years AFTER they broke up was spazzing out. They split the rent and he could easily afford the apt himself and made up his own bullshyt reasons to have her there. They both moved on in their personal lives but she’s an angry Boriqua with serious issues, daddy issues, is washed up and bitter.

So any evidence of him doing him would set her off. Few months leading into their final exchange he was asking when she could move out. Mind you she had a new man but they were both too broke for a crib. She wanted my breh to basically “pay” her to leave. I told him to give her a few bucks and whatever furniture and even pay for the movers. He has $ and can afford it.

The day he texted me to come over, she was wilding out and throwing shyt everywhere. She knows me and calmed the fukk down when I pulled up. bytch even had a meat cleaver in her hand and I had to pry her fingers open and reason with her. Meanwhile the cops were coming. I told her when 12 comes, everyone getting locked her.

I made her pack some shyt for a couple of days because staying there wasn’t an option. Meanwhile her new man comes to the apt (she called him) and was screaming her name. Dude had to be 5’4” and stopped all the yelling when i opened the door. By that time I told my breh to leave and he did. I watched has that crazy bytch packed her clothes and I walked her out of the crib.

we got outside, cops were there and the shyt got diffused peacefully. Legally she was considered a “tenant” even if she wasn’t paying rent or wasn’t on the least. They told her that but I convinced her to just leave.

Now I’m my breh didn’t call that shyt would’ve been a DV charge for him or worse.

She eventually moved out and to this day is very angry/bitter based on what people have shown me on social media.

For these brehs out there about to get up in some bullshyt, just walk away. Make sure you have your own crib that you only have the keys too. It ain’t worth it to be arguing with thee bytches. When 12 shows up they don’t give a fukk who is right or wrong. YOU going to jail.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

why doesnt your ex have his own mode of transportation? he has a lot of nerve to be mad at someone doing him a favor

if he had an issue with you resting for 30 mins, why didn’t his passive aggressive ass just ask the chick he cheated on u with for a ride from the jump? or better yet order an uber? actually, I know the answer to this one; he wanted you to see him mad. goofy ass

why do y’all women pick these feminine ass nikkas ? imagine the type of bs you would’ve been in for 18 years if youd gotten pregnant by this diva ass nikka

She did get pregnant by him

Got rid of the baby and she still went back to him. He wasn’t that much older than 18. The irony.

 

[YoungMoneyCashMoneyBoy]

In June 2016, we had been broken up for about 3 weeks, and I was in Atlanta with a casual fling from Vegas I used to move shyt to Atlanta with. I get a surprise text from the "ex" telling me she coming to Atlanta to see me and expect me the next day, where was I gonna be? So i thought it was just a last jumpoff, I'd get to knock it down one more time...

She gets there the next day, runs into the bathroom instead of actually greeting me, and sends me a text saying "I'm pregnant". I started laughing, she comes out the bathroom all mad and long story short, I didn't believe her because we hadn't had sex in a month or so. I left her and went out and when I got back she was still there mad and shyt. Going forward got some confirmation, but that one was unexpected as we hadn't even talked or texted in like three weeks...

In January 2018 I was working in Vermont and got a text of an ultrasound from her after she'd been telling me she was on the pill for like three months. She didn't admit it then, but months later admitted to me that she was lying and only took birth control like twice...

This chick basically trapped me with me with two pregnancies, and let me be clear---->I love my daughters to death and just had them both the last 8 days and had a blast. I don't regret being a father, best thing ever. But she definitely trapped me...
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Breh, i don't even get your explanation of how you had your second child with this chick. You skipped a whole lotta shyt from 2016 to 2018. Were you with her that whole time? She wasn't violent or crazy towards you in those 2 years?

Aint no way in hell I'm dealing with a crazy, violent chick for 2 years and on top of that, nutting in her again and having a second child with her. Smh @ believing she's on birth control and taking that risk. Breh, you too old to move like this.

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

She did get pregnant by him

Got rid of the baby and she still went back to him. He wasn’t that much older than 18. The irony.

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[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

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This is her:
No position to be giving out life goals - she even has a thread in here about letting dude smash other women talking about it will make their relationship stronger and calling the police on dude. 30 yr old white girl getting pregnant by barely legal age teenagers. Her shyt makes OP sound light. That’s biscuitsnbangers- she changed her name after all this:

bandb

• Nicole0416_718_929_646212
• Jan 24, 2020

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

This is her:
No position to be giving out life goals - she even has a thread in here about letting dude smash other women talking about it will make their relationship stronger and calling the police on dude. 30 yr old white girl getting pregnant by barely legal age teenagers. Her shyt makes OP sound light. That’s biscuitsnbangers- she changed her name after all this:

bandb

• Nicole0416_718_929_646212
• Jan 24, 2020

 

[Humble (Not) Mike Tyson]

Took a deal today for two years intensive/supervised probation and an assload of restitution for some shyt that was a 50/50 thing and if I'm being honest, was more 75/25 (with me being the 25%). I'll be able to get in more detail throughout the thread but for the purposes of starting off the thread I'm going light...

Let me start by saying, I don't at all condone violence against women. I don't hit women (this situation I'm convicted of strangling by kids mom), don't approve of it, but I also don't approve of violence against men or children from women, either, and there has to be some real accountability for the sisters out here who perpetuate violence...

Just too many times that accountability ain't coming from the court of law. I basically got convicted today for my past criminal record, not a single thing on my record is domestic violence, and I got backed in a corner I couldn't win. And this is after spending roughly $6000 on representation the last three months, imagine what woulda happened to me if I couldn't afford representation...

So I'm going to have to take parenting and batterer's classes going forward here. I won't deny that I could have responded differently in this situation, I ain't perfect at all, but I'm not a gotdamn batterer and I spent roughly 5 hours in court today, and here's some of the shyt I heard. Whether these guys were guilty or not, i don't know the extent of guilt but here's some of the shyt i heard and guys sentenced to programs with me...

And this is an open invitation for ALL women of The Coli to jump in here, as well as the brothers, but i really need to talk to women about this shyt....

Most think it's 90/10, but, it's damn near 50/50.

Not to mention the emotional abuse that's ignored.

 

[Tryna Makit]

To the OP

I have a question, do you have a lot of women in your family?

And i ask that because ive noticed cats that didnt grow up with sisters cousins etc that were close and in the same house...get bushwacked by a woman because they dont know how abusive women can be when they have leverage on you

I dont know your background so im honestly just asking because im noticing a trend with cats i know that's going thru something similar for fighting emotion vs emotion...........vs a woman

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

So basically u a nikka that can't control his emotions and let a bytch get u jammed ua bytch u was stupid enough to get preg

 

[Stir Fry]

Might have to take ol biscuithead off ignore for this one lol