Lets say you are actually able to get a girlfriend

[Aphrodite]

Are you really just talking about yourself?

No I'm simply curious.
Could you deal with someone private like that?

 

[Guile]

what do you mean by dealt with messy people in the past?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Men actually wanting a chatty patty, social media loving women who always got her friends around now?

I swear some of ya'll don't know wtf you want.

 

[Aphrodite]

Men actually wanting a chatty patty, social media loving women who always got her friends around now?

I swear some of ya'll don't know wtf you want.

 

[Mowgli]

what do you mean by dealt with messy people in the past?

Means her hoe phase was more exaggerated then most

 

[Aphrodite]

what do you mean by dealt with messy people in the past?

Probably family, where she grew up. Negative people.

 

[The M.I.C.]

I'm a woman and that sounds like the perfect woman to me. What's the problem exactly?

You're a woman saying that from a WOMAN'S perspective which is irrelevant when you're surveying men for an answer.

 

[Guile]

Probably family, where she grew up. Negative people.

okay then, sure.

 

[FukyourFort]

im good on that. my girl came to me on that shyt and she switched up when i bounced on er. I respect it but i dont need all those issues. sounds like home girl got too much going on and shes drama.

 

[The M.I.C.]

Yes that was shade.

She's a private woman and doesn't like to be in people's mouths regarding her relationships and personal life. She doesn't tell her friends or family when you two have issues. She tells people she is in a relationship. But she doesn't tell people that it's you (like directly link you). She doesn't bring you around her friends because she doesn't fully trust her friends. You like (love) everything about her. She may tell her parents and introduce you to her parents/siblings but you're not all over her social media. She never talks about her relationship with you to her friends. She has been surrounded by messy people most of her life and felt invaded. Let's say that even this might be a temporary thing until she is 100 percent certain about you being in her life, so one day she may go public with you. But she's in no rush to just put everyone into your relationship. She's a flirt but not a ho. Men try to talk to her all the time but you know that she's picky so it takes a lot to impress her. She's not going to cheat on you with just anybody, if you have an inkling that she would ever cheat or step out.

Could you deal with a woman like this?

Excluding the flirting, I'd be fine. However, you'll be hard pressed to find this in this current social environment.

 

[Fani Willis fan]

I dont see whats the big deal/ catch,
it sounds like an ideal situation for a young man not tryna be tied down.

 

[R.E.N. Spells Ren]

I'm cool with the private aspects, I actually prefer it.

The flirty nature does give me pause tho

 

[Reflected]

No I'm simply curious.
Could you deal with someone private like that?

I mean, it just seems like you are over complicating things. A relationship like that doesn't seem like a relationship that would last long. You can gather opinions from here that support the idea but it either will or won't play out like this in real life. It all depends on the individual.

 

[DarrynCobretti]

lol @ being a fully grown ass adult not being able to trust your "friends".

That sounds like junior high relationship dynamics.


Once you've reached a certain age, the whole point in labeling someone a friend (and not merely an acquaintance /associate) involves considering them trustworthy...and if you haven't outgrown or distance yourself from any childhood friends who you can't trust then you're likely a bum ass nikka b.

 

[PrnzHakeem]

lets say she's not a real celeb but internet famous.

Would that change your perception of it?

I probably wouldn't date her at all unless she's internet famous for having some kind of talent (musical, art, etc). Even then I'd probably lose interest cuz it seems like she'd be playing a role her fans and expecting me to stay in whatever character she built for me. Nah, I'm good on that