Let’s Talk About Older People With Estranged Children….

[ThrobbingHood]

The reality is a lot of people have absolutely nothing in common with their parents other than blood.

Really. That's it.

Some cats won't admit but if their brother or sister, mom or dad was just another person who they went to work with or school with or passed by on the street, they wouldn't talk with them, they wouldn't hang out with them or be friends with them.

Some people know this and they use the biological connection to obligate a relationship.

I swear to god if I didn’t see your username, I would’ve thought this was my post verbatim.

 

[richaveli83]

Based on a lot of posters who always crying & complaining, some parents get tired of hearing that pathetic stuff from adults

 

[WaveGang]

My mother is the sweetest and is Bella nice and respectful to me. My Lil sister wants nothing to do with her cuz she said she is EVIL...

I was in disbelief until lil sis pulled up them screenshots and voicemails...

My mama treats my Lil sister like a Hoe on the street!

U don't feel no way towards ur mum?

 

[MikeyK]

I think some parents fukk up and make mistakes with their kids. The kids grow up angry and resentful and tell their parents whats up. There's a small group of parents that for whatever reason cannot deal with that. They deny, deflect and dismiss all claims and issues from their children. It's like their ego cannot handle the simple idea of them making mistakes. The kids end up saying deal with it or I'm out and of course they can't deal with it lol.

The parents that do this would never see it this way though. You gotta be pretty deep in denial to let your kids walk out on your over your own feelings. There's no compromise or reconciliation without acceptance and they'll never do it. They'll tell stories that are obviously missing context. They'll act confused about why their kids left but will slip out a time when their kid told them exactly why they did. They just wont tell you what was said.

 

[get these nets]

OP

If people start discussing personal business, and all you hear about is what the OTHER person did wrong, you are being lied to.

 

[Sterling Archer]

As I always say, you have no clue what someone’s relationship is or has been from the outside. Doesn’t matter how they are with you, they can be an entirely different person to someone else.

 

[KingFreeman]

Plenty of parents who seem like normal, well-adjusted people in old age treated their kids like dogs in their younger years. Karmic justice

 

[Yaboysix]

U don't feel no way towards ur mum?

Nah, im the only one out the 4 without
"mommy issues". I snapped on her 1 good time and she knew not to Try me like the other ones, she do that to who she think she can play with.

Plus, im a dude. She try her daughter like she competition, and sis just want that mother daughter Bond and keep falling for the okie Doke...

I get tired of repeating myself so i stopped trying to tell her Give it up and be the best mom to her own kids..

 

[Carlton Banks]

The reality is a lot of people have absolutely nothing in common with their parents other than blood.

Really. That's it.

Some cats won't admit but if their brother or sister, mom or dad was just another person who they went to work with or school with or passed by on the street, they wouldn't talk with them, they wouldn't hang out with them or be friends with them.

Some people know this and they use the biological connection to obligate a relationship.

This

 

[Hacksaw Jim Thuggin]

oh...you mean people are human.....

 

[TEH]

Life gives most of these old folks in this situation substitute children. One or two younger people they get close to.

 

[Commish]

Yeah..

I know about situations like this...

But, families beef sometimes..

Sometimes, people disown/cut off family members including parents & children.

As much I believe it is very important to have close ties with your family, but I also understand that some family dynamics are very complicated.

I just hope people who have these types of situations understand that they may need the person or people they cut off one day...

Also, people also get cut off from inheritances, wills, trusts, etc..

Something else to consider...

 

[Ozymandeas]

Spoiler

Some kids are sh*tty. It’s not always the parents. One of my sisters is a habitual fukkup and she hasn’t spoken to my mom regularly in years. It was four of us originally. Me, my brother and two sisters. My older brother got killed in the streets and sister #2 I think went off the deep end in result because they were very close and now she’s nothing like I remember as a kid. Doing drugs, an alchy, isn’t stable etc. She’ll tell anyone who will listen that family doesn’t care about her and poisoned her son (my nephew) from bringing his kids around us because we’re evil. You’d think that would be the end of it and we’d never see her again but everytime she’s broke or in a financial bind, she calls the mom who was supposedly so horrible to her to ask for money I can’t stand her really. My other sister can’t stand her. And if my brother was still alive I know he’d feel the same way. Essentially she’s mad at my mom because she feels like I got better treatment growing up being the youngest but nobody told her to fukk her life up. Her bitterness about life was so messed up she blew up at me when I got a full scholarship to college talking about I wasn’t a real nikka like my brother Even still I gave her $800 a few months ago then $300 before that because I know she’s fukked up but honestly I wish she’d just go away and don’t come back until shes gotten help. Thankfully she moved across the country so we only hear from her when she needs money Now my other sister. That’s my best friend and she stays around my momma. My mom is always around her kids. So I don’t know why the other one can’t get along with anyone and to point out her frustrating behavior even more…..sister #2 doesn’t speak, doesn’t come around, moved across the country and her son doesn’t speak or come around with his kids but sister #2 still has a nerve to get upset because my mom dotes on the grandkids from sister #1 like you silly illogical bish you made it that way my mom hasn’t seen them grandkids in five years