If you scared to be lonely you’re a fakkit
LOL, this guy is setting a lot of ya'll up for a lonely ass life down the road
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HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
Yeah, that was me.
Has it been working well?
Also yes. A lot of dudes are actually looking at one girl and trying to learn how to get that one girl. Look up the term "oneitis"
I don't know this generation doesn't have the mindset for marriage it's alot of give an take from both genders but usually in most cases one wants to take more than give and look at things as me me me. I think the spiritual element is lost in marriage today and most people look ar marriage as a way to fix there misery and end up choosing the wrong partners. Women look at marriage as a means to get there kids and to secure the bag. They don't give a fukk about the man after they attain this.
BaldingSoHard
Banned
i am ALPHA... and want a wife..
no one is FORCING me to do shyt..
but heres the thing.. about failed relationships..
if you DO WHAT YOU SUPPOSED TOO.. not cheat, be abusive, be a good dude.. how many end in sadness? real question... its not likely she wake up and be like...this nikka aint shyt.. im out
All of them.
The best case scenario for a relationship is that one of you gets to watch the other one die, then you die of heartbreak.
Gmb doesn’t mean you won’t have kids.
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
Very. It's been about 15 yrs. Having distinct roles makes it easier to concentrate on your own. There's more stress on him financially, naturally, but he makes good money and I'm always happy and willing to help him... relax. Leading the household made it easier for him to lead a team at work. He started getting promoted rapidly. We maintain a certain spark between us long after most people would have gotten bored. It works well enough that people who know us are like, '
Huh, that relationship model is still functional.'I'm not down trodden. We don't cheat, no outside kids. I'm a better version of myself, and so is he (in his own words). It's hard to convey the feeling of peace.
Sorry if this reply is disjointed, but people rarely ask me these kinda questions without already knowing something about us.
That sounds good. Would you recommend it for other couples? What would you say were the easiest and hardest things to do? I might try this once I get a few raises. My girl would have to adjust though.Very. It's been about 15 yrs. Having distinct roles makes it easier to concentrate on your own. There's more stress on him financially, naturally, but he makes good money and I'm always happy and willing to help him... relax. Leading the household made it easier for him to lead a team at work. He started getting promoted rapidly. We maintain a certain spark between us long after most people would have gotten bored. It works well enough that people who know us are like, '
I'm not down trodden. We don't cheat, no outside kids. I'm a better version of myself, and so is he (in his own words). It's hard to convey the feeling of peace.
Sorry if this reply is disjointed, but people rarely ask me these kinda questions without already knowing something about us.
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
Respect @HarlemHottie . It’s not a surprise you make mostly level headed posts when it comes to relationships. You and your husband both respect and understand each other’s roles. And most importantly, from what I’ve read from your previous posts... you work with your man and don’t try and compete against him.
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
It requires maturity, trust, and communication. She can't feel like you'll leave her out there, financially or emotionally. A leader gages the mood of his troops. You can't feel like she's taking advantage. Just like any other relationship model, you both have to operate in good faith.
I bought books, read blogs, and so did he. It was new to us and we didn't have any real life examples. You'll have some awkward, potentially difficult, conversations as you both lay out your parameters. (They'll shift over time, but you have to start on the same page.)
If your girl is the type to want certain bags, or certain vacations, it probably won't work unless you make a convincing case as you why she should follow you in the opposite direction.
The financial weight should not rest solely on you, even if she's not bringing in 'new' money. This is a team effort. When things have gotten tight around here in the past, I learned new skills and cut costs.
I would recommend it, I think, but only with social support. Women especially need the guidance and moral support of other women already in the life.
Oh, easiest and hardest things to do for me or him?
Ya' Cousin Cleon
OG COUCH CORNER HUSTLA
shoot yourself if you take this dude seriously
Hungerpain
Banned
AMS>>
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
Compete for what? What's the prize? Being (possibly) right and alone?
We big up each other all day. That's the homie right there. 
ThrobbingHood
“I’m Sorry for 2025”
What you said was profound because a lot of women in my generation have this mentality.Compete for what? What's the prize? Being (possibly) right and alone?
I had to learn quickly that being “right” in an argument may win the battle but not the war. I’ve learned a piece of mind is better than claiming I was right. But it takes maturity to understand not all battles are meant to be won. Learning restraint and biting my tongue was the biggest development in my character.
The amount of divorces I’ve seen happen due to pride and a lack of respect is staggering. If more couples learned how to communicate with each other without feeling they got “one up” over the other, disagreements would be resolved easily.
And yes, you’re right. It’s about supporting each other and not trying outdo each other.