Pretty sure this has been talked about before in here but I thought I'd share a recent experience.
For those of you who know me, you know I've been a dentist for nearly 15 years. I don't have student loans or other ridiculous debt because of the GI Bill and Hazelwood Act. Outside of tax season, I don't owe Uncle Sam shyt.
Y'all also know that I'm divorce for a little over a year now. I've decided to step back out in the dating world. I've met all types of women. Young vibrant girls, who just want to have fun and be treated nicely to upscale professional women, shi want to treat me nicely.
The one thing I noticed in all of this dating is it doesn't matter if they're young or old, if they don't know how to take care of money or never had it, they don't understand it.
Here's an example:
One of the women I mess with is nearly 40 like me. We're on the phone yesterday discussing our date for Sunday night. We were going to go to an upscale restaurant but with all of this family shyt going on (Uncle had a stroke and found out he's HIV + ) I told her I didn't want to dress up and sit in a restaurant. I wanted to do something fun. So we're going to this adult miniature golf joint on the west side of town.
We were talking about what we're going to were and I jokingly brought up buying a $350 shirt from Gallery Dept. Then I said something like "I'm just playing. I ain't rich enough to do that". When I said that, her entire tone changed. It was almost like she's was disgusted because I wouldn't buy the shirt. This is how it came off:
You ain't got the money to buy a $350 shirt
I do have the money to buy a $350 shyt. I just think it's ridiculous.
A little background on her. She's my age. Two kids. Will buy every pair of Jordans that drop. Is getting ready to go to PR next week. But will complain about how she doesn't have money for food or something and how her son's father doesn't help her. I've front her a few hundred dollars for the sake of her kids a couple of times.
I know this is a long post, especially for me. But I realized in that moment that a lot of people stay broke, not because they have deadend jobs or can't get a promotion. But a lot of people make really stupid ass decisions with their money.
I say all that to say, if you're seriously dating and plan to take things to the next level with someone, doesn't matter if you're a man or women, make sure it's with someone who understands money.
For those of you who know me, you know I've been a dentist for nearly 15 years. I don't have student loans or other ridiculous debt because of the GI Bill and Hazelwood Act. Outside of tax season, I don't owe Uncle Sam shyt.
Y'all also know that I'm divorce for a little over a year now. I've decided to step back out in the dating world. I've met all types of women. Young vibrant girls, who just want to have fun and be treated nicely to upscale professional women, shi want to treat me nicely.
The one thing I noticed in all of this dating is it doesn't matter if they're young or old, if they don't know how to take care of money or never had it, they don't understand it.
Here's an example:
One of the women I mess with is nearly 40 like me. We're on the phone yesterday discussing our date for Sunday night. We were going to go to an upscale restaurant but with all of this family shyt going on (Uncle had a stroke and found out he's HIV + ) I told her I didn't want to dress up and sit in a restaurant. I wanted to do something fun. So we're going to this adult miniature golf joint on the west side of town.
We were talking about what we're going to were and I jokingly brought up buying a $350 shirt from Gallery Dept. Then I said something like "I'm just playing. I ain't rich enough to do that". When I said that, her entire tone changed. It was almost like she's was disgusted because I wouldn't buy the shirt. This is how it came off:
You ain't got the money to buy a $350 shirt
I do have the money to buy a $350 shyt. I just think it's ridiculous.
A little background on her. She's my age. Two kids. Will buy every pair of Jordans that drop. Is getting ready to go to PR next week. But will complain about how she doesn't have money for food or something and how her son's father doesn't help her. I've front her a few hundred dollars for the sake of her kids a couple of times.
I know this is a long post, especially for me. But I realized in that moment that a lot of people stay broke, not because they have deadend jobs or can't get a promotion. But a lot of people make really stupid ass decisions with their money.
I say all that to say, if you're seriously dating and plan to take things to the next level with someone, doesn't matter if you're a man or women, make sure it's with someone who understands money.
