By
Future_Attorney
Format:Kindle Edition|Amazon Verified Purchase
As a woman who dates interracially, I am very interested in reading books that will help me to seek out men of all races, tips on dating, and how to react if a family member or friend is against my relationship. I've read Mrs. Folan's book, Don't Bring Home a White: And Other Notions that Keep Black Women From Dating Out and Christelyn Karazin's book, Swirling (I highly recommend you all to read those books). But it was something about Lisa Marble's book that was a true eye opener.
I have noticed quiet few of my Asian American friend who have dating and married outside of their races in HIGH numbers, especially to white males. I've wondered how they can attract themselves to these professionals? I'm college educated and getting my JD, financially stable, and childless, but I was having difficulty in finding the right men to "swirl". Like Lisa Marble's roommate, my friend gently told me I have to make adjustments to my personal life, as long as I don't fundamentally change my morals or beliefs. In other words, I just can't sit here and wait for Mr. Right to come in; I have to do my work.
The book really shows how to perfect the techniques that Asian women have used to attract mostly white males, such as keeping up your appearance, especially on weight.
We as black women are being told that being overweight or obese is normal, and it's NOT. It's okay to have curves, but not be unhealthy. Lisa Marble makes a valid point that non blacks believe obesity in black women is a sign of laziness and a lack of self-respect. Some also think it's a sign of being part of the lower to working income bracket. It's unfair, but we have to stop saying that 260 lbs on a 5'4" woman is healthy. With exercising and eating right, of course our confidence grows and more attraction will come for you. She also discuss where to live, and diversify your friends.
Now I know there are going to be some who are offended by the title and the advice giving. And there are going to be some who ask why should I change in order to get a man. She didn't say that; she only asking you to observe the techniques and to step up the game if you want to be "irresistible". Overall, a very good book.
the way they switch it up for cacs, right down to the tone of their voice is definitely amazing.
race track pls. This shyt has been done to death. Feeling like Groundhog Day on the Coli lately
