Losing a parent?

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Doesn't end....transforms maybe but it's gonna be there for you to think about for years to come. It may not seem like it but it will be a catalyst in your growth.

Best thing for you to do RIGHT NOW is GRIEVE, please grieve...don't be a tough guy or think you are somehow standing tall by not letting it affect you, please don't numb yourself or block this out. Feel it fully NOW....don't ended up 4 or 5 years down the line with unexpressed feelings.

Once you do that....take what your mom as given you through birth and in deed and give it back to the world. I didn't know her but whatever it is she came to do, whatever function she came to serve, you are an extension of it. Pick up where she left off where applicable and let her live again through you.

Much love to you and yours at this time fam, hold ya head.
 

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Lost my father two years ago this coming January (he passed the day after my birthday, was right at his side as he passed away) and like most said, it gets slightly easier but it'll never go away. The smallest things will spark a memory or just a subtle reminder that you'll never hear, see, feel that person again. I'll never forget seeing my dad's wallet a few days after he passed and in my previous 34 years, it was just a wallet but ever since then, sparked an immediate breakdown.

Just try to realize that they'll always be there, photos, memories, stories you can tell and pass on. I still tell him what I have lined up for my days and all that in the morning, we always did that up until the end and it's comforting to keep it going.
 

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Sorry for your loss breh. Losing a loved one isn't something you can prepare for no matter how much time you're allowed to prepare for it. shyt hits you like a fukking freight train. As for the pain, it's just the beginning. I won't say it gets easier, you just find ways to cope with it better as time goes on. Don't try and keep it all bottled up though, grieve as much as you need to. Cry like a fukking baby if you feel like. It's always better to get out as much as possible.


Oh.. and fukk CANCER!!!
 

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Sorry to hear, bruh. The pain will last forever, but it will eventually get easier. Make sure you take the time to mourn though...because if you don't, it will eat at you and potentially destroy you.
 

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lifes a bytch


the only way to prepare for a parents death is to be emotionally detached from all human beings including them, then their death will be easier to accept


however if ur a normal human being with emotions and feelings its pretty much going to be one of the worst things you'll probably ever have to deal with.


I choose to be emotionally detached


:manny:



Sorry for ur lost breh, hope ur straight (obviously ur not but I honestly don't know what else to say in these situations, it sucks)


I haven't gone through a close death but I always assumed that as well.
 

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i mean people deal wit stress/pain differently bro, i know the coli, gaming and music is my go to's when i need a stress reliever man, sometimes people have nobody they feel comfortable wit enough to speak to about these things, i mean if my grams died i feel i wouldnt have anybody in life to talk to about it on a personal level
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lost my pops over 10 years ago. think about him everyday. prolly brings me to tears maybe once a year.

as time goes on, the pain gets easier. but it will never go away.

also she will always be in your dreams/nightmares. the worse is when you are dreaming....and they are in your dream...but you know its just a dream...and you know you will wake up soon...and you know when you wake up, they will be dead again. :mjcry:

:to: @ that. I can't imagine living life like that. :wow:

I love my moms and pops. I just hope they live a long life and I spent more than enough time with them before they go. I can't let them leave with regrets.
 
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