Love is only a problem when you don’t know your position.
Two things…the first of which is to always know peoples love for you is very conditional. Outside of maybe your parents and sometimes children most people love you based on what you provide for them. Even then you have to watch the aforementioned sometimes. What you provide for people might be material in nature or it might just be an emotion or series of feelings but you providing something if they chose to stick with around with you long term.
The second thing to understand is other people’s capacity to love is not the same as yours. People look for love in people that really come from broken backgrounds and have never really been properly loved or taught to love. They have a different set of standards and ideas of what love looks like and that is usually where people get their feelings hurt. Yeah you love them but they beating your ass nightly, they cheating on you, they telling your business, they stealing from you, they not showing you affection, they not lending a helping hand, etc. None of that means they don’t necessarily love you, it’s just sometimes they are broken internally and their capacity to love is different from yours.
Most people don’t know their position though and go into situations thinking that shyt is going to be fairytale, but then when they have to start dealing with the shortcomings and character flaws of another person they want to be all stressed and heart broken.
Know what whom and what you dealing with at all times and not just looking at a person when things are going great, but you have to have the discernment to evaluate how people are treating you when they are mad, sad, disappointed in you, and a host of other moods over the course of time. That gives you a better idea of who a person really is when all the fluff is removed.