"lower your standards" is not good advice to the the non-eating brehs

[AngryBaby]

What if your a model and you still havent had the best of luck with women, but you get attention/looks from hot girls? Should I-er i mean this person lower their standards? What if the girls giving you the most problems are not even dimes, yet you still are in an obvious position where girls and their friends consider you a "hot guy"? What then?

What if you actually get used by chicks for sex or validation, when you actually want a connection? What then?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Standards are a touchy subject because most people feel entitled to their own while being all too willing to police others.

I've heard COUNTLESS men telling women they are shallow and should date a nice dude but if you recommend they date a "nice" girl they are automatically concerned about whether she gets them hard. Same with women encouraging guys to date nice women while having ridiculous standards themselves.

TBH a lot of this comes from the fact that our generation is MUCH shallower by design than previous generations. We've been taught to chase after virtues that were appreciated in the past but did not interfere with reality as much. Sure men chased beauty in the past but most focused on skills that would make a good wife and mother. Sure women liked good-looking men in the past, but in the end they focused on factors that made good husbands.

However today, media consumption has made us equate average=ugly, or at the very least not good enough.

And many don't want to admit this but this pursuit for the perfect looking partner isn't even about what turns you on, because sometimes attraction works in mysterious ways and you can find urself sprung over someone that initially wasn't on ur radar. But this shallow ass generation never even gets to that point because we easily dismiss and dispose of people for ANY little thing.

But I digress. The pursuit for the perfect-looking mate isn't about merely being turned on. It's about hurt inflated egos. Somewhere along the way, we were told that we are amazing and people should want us no matter what. But when rejection comes and hurts our egos, we use unreasonable standards as a defense mechanism and chase the unattainable as an excuse for romantic failures. It's about showing the world that we are worthy of having the best looking mate because many of us even at this age still have something to prove to those who underestimated us in grade school or in society.

Until we're honest about those old wounds, we will keep making the same mistakes and overlooking people who might be good for us but aren't good enough to get the attention we crave.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

And where has that approach got Kent? Kent is just as dusty as dudes in his tax bracket fukking average chicks. The only difference is they are getting ass and he isn't.

I don't care about that clown, I'm not here to discuss him. If dudes want women they're attracted to then I'm just saying to put in work or be lazy and settle like a lot of other men.

 

[Here Comes the Pain]

 

[HandsomeBrute]

"lowering your standards" is mainly told to average brehs who think they deserve dimes.
The Internet is also apart of the problem. Dudes spend their days looking at photoshopped pics,amazon like bodies 24/7 on the web that it skews reality.

Here's a couple of pics from a PlayStation webcam app. These brehs seem to have no problem pulling everyday chicks.

 

[Larry Lambo]

I agree, if you aint getting no play at all, nothing wrong with lowering your standards. Its far better than fapping to porn

I agree for young cats 18-24, but after you have had some experiences I don't really agree with lowering your standards just to get some action.

I mean, if that's what you want to do, no prob. But I'm against pressuring grown men into sex with chicks they don't like for the sake of confidence.

A 30 year old man shouldn't feel the need to mess with mud ducks just to get his d**k wet. That's some hs/college stuff.

And to be honest, once you realize what you actually like, smashing what you don't like is gonna have zero effect on confidence. It works with young dudes because they've never done it and don't know what they want. But once you have a ton of experiences, even if you're going through an epic drought, getting sex from a chick you're not feeling isn't really going to help the cause.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I don't care about that clown, I'm not here to discuss him. If dudes want women they're attracted to then I'm just saying to put in work or be lazy and settle like a lot of other men.

Dudes don't want to put in the work though. They want to stay as they are and shame dimes into dating them for their "potential". They've been doing it your way and getting nothing but failure... time for a change in approach

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

Dudes don't want to put in the work though. They want to stay as they are and shame dimes into dating them for their "potential". They've been doing it your way and getting nothing but failure... time for a change in approach

My way promotes improving to get actual nice looking women, not settling for fat/ugly nerd chicks that lames and bitter females encourage average men to settle for. If they're not trying to improve themselves then they're not doing it my way.

 

[Larry Lambo]

My way promotes improving to get actual nice looking women, not settling for fat/ugly nerd chicks that lames and bitter females encourage average men to settle for. If they're not trying to improve themselves then they're not doing it my way.

I feel you bruh.

Instead of telling a fat sloppy dude with no style to settle for a fat sloppy chick with no style, encourage him to lose weight and dress better.

The confidence that comes with self improvement is much stronger and long lasting than the confidence of smashing some wildebeast.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

I feel you bruh.

Instead of telling a fat sloppy dude with no style to settle for a fat sloppy chick with no style, encourage him to lose weight and dress better.

The confidence that comes with self improvement is much stronger and long lasting than the confidence of smashing some wildebeast.

Exactly. It's easier for a lot of men to settle for whatever ugly or fat chick is interested in them than actually improving their life for the better though. I think that's where some of the resistance to opinions like mine come from. People would rather just take the easy way out.

 

[Music Fiend]

Lower your standards isn't advice for the regular dude.

But it's great advice for the non eating breh who is likely delusional, negative, lazy, and or gameless.

Lots of brehs use she ain't cute to me, she ain't this or that. Or don't bother approaching dines cuz they're nervous that they wouldn't give em time of day.

When I struggled, lowering my standards helped me realize my place on this world. And helped me see beauty in the 6-8 range of the world. I realized I don't NEED a bad bytch. Give me a solid cute 6-8, with a decent body and I'm happy breh. Once that came, I realized I could pull a dime occasionally, but it wasn't as satisfying as I thought it's be

 

[Dameon Farrow]

I think you should be yourself, for yourself. Going about changing your personality for female attention is not in my DNA at all. I'd rather be weird

Yep. Confidence gonna be lacking as long as someone else dictates your behavior. Fronting is for high school kids. Corny but true.

 

[MalikX]

Most dudes aren't choosy, just want a girl that's pretty. Most girls want a guy that earns six figures which is 10% of all earners in America. Then on top of that, they want him to be fly, handsome, for body, over 6 foot and the biggest life of the party. He also has to have a Master's degree. There's some overlap with most of these qualities but, maybe 5% of all men fit all those qualities. And those men aren't checking for no average broad. These hoes want spectacular men while they themselves are average.

 

[MalikX]

You're right on the above her level, but being at her level means nothing.

And that's a major problem, when the majority of women are willing to bust it open for a man above her level, but completely ignores men at her level.

Women are biologically programmed to sleep with the highest value male possible, but up until 50 years ago, she would be punished for acting on those impulses (risking pregnancy, absentee father, no child support, and limited income potential).So you had the courting process for a man to show that he was truly in for the long haul, and women looked for a man on their level that willing to wife them

Now society has changed and she can only sleep with men above her level with little to no repercussion (at least in the short term). It's still considered a better situation for a woman to find a permanent mate, but a large portion of women can now play the game of only dating the highest value men that show minimal interest and hope that one is so enamored by the p**sy that, he locks her down. Then they play the victim role when they get pumped and dumped.

In today's dating world it's easier than ever for a man to sleep with a woman beneath him. Easy pu**y is obtainable within hours by swiping left or right on your phone. But finding an equivalent partner is becoming increasingly difficult. I'd argue that if we continue to head in this direction, the entire institution of marriage will eventually become extinct.

No, If anything the entire institution of family and marriage will have broken down and our descendants will go right back to how things were pre-Sexual Revolution. Similar things happened in Ancient Rome with the entire society falling into decadence and no guy wanted to get married. That was one of the reasons Rome fell, as a decrease in marriage led to a decrease in Male Roman Soldiers so they had to get all the ranks in their armies filled by mercenaries and people from other countries occupied by Rome and eventually since these people weren't true born Roman citizens, they turned on Rome and destroyed it. It has nothing to so with this thread but, that's the history of things like this

 

[Stone]

Are men and women really choosy though?