I'm not black myself, so maybe that's why I don't understand this as well as I'd like to, but every time I see one of the posts about "black (men/women) being (this/that)" all I can think of is that it is a more intense expression of problems that are running along gender lines of people of any race or ethnicity. If anyone else has noticed (pretty sure you have), tons and tons of white guys like Asian women because they're tired of white girls giving them the shyt that they do. Again, a result of gender conflict, in my humble opinion.
However, I have to also acknowledge that Sierra Mist had a really great post a while back about how the problems regarding gender in the black community were intensified an accentuated because in his words, "When the rest of society has a cold, the black community has pneumonia." I guess this would explain the youtube videos expressing angst over the situation, the aversion that I see on the message boards here, etc.
It's really disturbing, because what we're seeing now is the long-term results of second wave feminism making double-edged demands like us finding women sexy no matter what they look like (lolwut?) or demanding that we be breadwinners but still play second chair because in the family unit because we're just men (lolwut?). In addition, and this is something that I'm speaking from in regards to personal experience with some Mexican girls (I'm Mexican), sometimes you really do have to work much harder to achieve the amount of status that would be subconsciously granted to white men just for being white. Do you have any idea what it's like to be six months out from being an attorney, yet still being on the same subconscious status "level" as some car salesmen? It's embittering.
I dunno. I'm just sounding off now. I'll step off my soapbox.