Marriage first or kids first

[Yagirlcheatinonus]

Never be in a relationship out of necessity. Whether it’s for your children, until your living situation get better, or just because you don’t want to be alone. If you can’t find someone to enjoy life with stay single focus on you and attract the best situation.

 

[LadyJ2]

fukk them kids.

 

[Remote]

Redpill babble. Why are the marriage and the kids two separate entities? That's why the relationship failed. The kids are part of the marriage. It's not an either/or thing.

I don’t understand what makes this “red pill babble”.

 

[horizon]

No one’s providing examples because they’re too ashamed to admit they just want to eat before their kids

 

[Remote]

No one’s providing examples because they’re too ashamed to admit they just want to eat before their kids

Does a doctor need to take care of themselves before they can take care of others? Or nah

 

[Ohene]

it is not even a good question. it is stupid
the answer is clearly marriage first

 

[david yow's jeans]

Does a doctor need to take care of themselves before they can take care of others? Or nah

what about an abortion doctor?

 

[3rdWorld]

Kids first..
An uncle at my brothers wedding asked me if they had any kids, I said yeah..he said he likes it better that way when its confirmed she can birth healthy kids before a man commits to a marriage.

 

[Remote]

what about an abortion doctor?

 

[xXOGLEGENDXx]

Kids first..
An uncle at my brothers wedding asked me if they had any kids, I said yeah..he said he likes it better that way when its confirmed she can birth healthy kids before a man commits to a marriage.

The fact that you missed the entire premise of this discussion let's me know you and your uncle are probably both idiots

 

[TAYLONDO SAMSWORTHY]

Yourself > Marriage > Kids

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

Always marriage first.

fukking kids will eventually grow up and live their lives too.

 

[CopiousX]

Marriage first, kids never

Personally I wish there were more black women interested in DINK lifestyles. Its a life hack

Put God first and find a woman that does the same. This way you have the same foundation and have an understanding of what each other's roles will be. What sacrifice and submission looks like.

You have someone committed to learn you, which helps you learn yourself. You are also the light for her blindspots.

Then imagine your kids seeing how healthy conflict, compassion, and unconditional love looks to model after.

Quite the opposite.


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[Marlo Barksdale]

It’s the exact reason why getting with a single mom is treacherous.

They will put the child first in their life while you’re always 2nd place and “expendable.”

When they say stuff like “my child is my world,” RUN.

The natural order is for the parents to be in a committed relationship via marriage and THEN have kids. Do it outside of that and it’s all throwed off.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

Always marriage first.

fukking kids will eventually grow up and live their lives too.

And that’s why so many married couples divorce once the children are grown and fly from the nest. They spent all their time and energy solely on the children, they neglected their own marriage.

And once they’re left alone, they’ve become strangers to each other.