Married at first sight. Is Jasmine right or entitled?

[Malcolmxxx_23]

She single and going to be that way based on that clip........

Shes also going to be single cause her BMI is higher than big baby
Fred

 

[DropTopDoc]

That's how I feel.

I don't mind taking care of most of the bills, but if she works, she should be investing and saving for "us".

I'm not with the her money is her money, to go clothes shopping and spending care free...

This part, which it essentially i think most women seem to want, when they talk that men pay all, so while the man robs Peter to pay Paul she living her best life

1. If you cant afford to pay all of the household expenses, dont get married.

2. If she's not worth paying all of the household expenses, then don't get married.

3. What difference does it make? If she has a fulltime job making good money, that's your money too. Definately trust issues.

4. If you 100% expect your wife to split the expenses, that's not your wife, that's your roommate and eventually there will be issues over money. Dont get married.

That 50/50 shyt a lot of times leads to financial tragedy.

Why?

Couples eventually live beyond their means.

Why?

Both can afford a $1200 apartment by themselves. So they decide to get a $2400 mortgage.

They take on too many expenses especially credit cards. If one spouse loses their job, the other one is fukked so their both fukked.

Take one of my friends for example. Her boyfriend lives with his mother. She got a divorce a few years ago and because the mortgage was in her name it all fell on her when her ex husband left. Now she cant afford on her own. So her son has to help out.

I've seen couples over the years lose houses because of that 50/50.

Your view is flawed and your follow up rebuttal is even more flawed, if you can cover all the bills, which most men can do, what’s the point or benefit of them being in their life, furthermore you should save income to help in lean times, and to do more things like vacation

 

[Egomaniacal1]

My bad. In the clip, when she first brings up the topic of gender roles, she asks what he thought first. He says he didn’t really believe in gender roles. Then she brings up that she actually is into that so he counters by asking her if she knew how to cook. She said no and he says “there goes your answer”.

I think Jasmine’s problem is she’s focused on the man being equipped to provide her fantasy married life and not focused enough on what SHE would have to be equipped with or provide.

I think we watched two different clips lol

I saw he asked about her cooking everyday and she said Mhmm(yes).

 

[BlaqkSpliffin]

I have no issue with what shorty said


I also have no problem with dude not wanting a traditional marriage. It's clear he don't got it like that and thats cool too.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Question: Do you expect to get married? If so, what’s the point of getting married if you plan on keeping your finances separate? Like why even get married if you’re worried about access to money?

Marriage is about a lot more than combining bank accounts. That’s why I’d get married

And a lot of couples keep separate accounts, some put part of their money in a joint account and some do a full joint account. What doesn’t it matter? Furthermore both my parents have always instilled in me to have my own shyt, separate from anyone I’m married to. They both kept their money separate and handled their share of the bills. They will have been married for 47 years this April, so I’ll follow a blueprint that seems to have worked vs. what random people think I should do.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

1. That's bullshyt. If that's a top 5 reason to get married, then what's the point.

2. - 4. You proved my point.

If you dont trust someone 100%, why even bother.

Most people settle when it comes to relationships anyway so being married shouldn't even be an option.

If you don’t believe increased economic power is a top reason for marriage you’re being naive. A lot more goes into the decision to marry someone besides being in love, if legally married, marriage is just as much a business arrangement as it is about finding your happily ever after.

 

[Kaypain]

You'd be able to own a house sooner if your wife paid some of the bills.

She' pays water and phone bill. We both got our own car payments that's one of the main setbacks. And they been garnishing my check now so shyt is tight as fukk

 

[feelosofer]

These experts go out of their way to pick mismatched Black couples. The only successful Black couple was Shaunice and Jephte and to honest, Shaunice was not going to fail under any circumstances.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

These experts go out of their way to pick mismatched Black couples. The only successful Black couple was Shaunice and Jephte and to honest, Shaunice was not going to fail under any circumstances.

This dude is wack as fukk tho. He doesn't have any facial expressions or anything interesting about him. He's just a bump on a log. He should be thrilled that a woman, any woman, is showing him some interest.

Jasmine can do better.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

These experts go out of their way to pick mismatched Black couples. The only successful Black couple was Shaunice and Jephte and to honest, Shaunice was not going to fail under any circumstances.

the other black couple on the show seem to be doing well

i feel bad for the white chick with the red head dude, this dude is legit breaking her spirit, i feel for her.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Damn women have no finesse. You gotta think about how your gonna answer these questions before you get asked. lol