Married brehs come in here I have a question

[posterchild336]

so I decided to straight up elope next week. ... I got engaged last year, people been asking for the big date but decided to just go somewhere and tie the knot and tell people later... How is married life? Regrets, pros, cons....

 

[CHILLL]

you really decided to come on the coli for marriage advice?
all these bytchless nikkas gonna tell you not to do it

 

[posterchild336]

you really decided to come on the coli for marriage advice?
all these bytchless nikkas gonna tell you not to do it

No that's why I said married brehs... Trust me fuk all these young fake militant.. Making a million a year, shyt on girls dudes I know about them, but I seen a few grounded married dudes on here post... I am just trying to get all perspectives so posted here also

 

[MadameMoreaux]

I eloped. No wedding, not even an engagement ring or wedding bands.
I would recommend having a serious conversation about finances before marriage. If you aren't on the same page about financial goals/spending habits things will go down hill. I also recommend waiting a couple years before having children.

 

[posterchild336]

I eloped. No wedding, not even an engagement ring or wedding bands.
I would recommend having a serious conversation about finances before marriage. If you aren't on the same page about financial goals/spending habits things will go down hill. I also recommend waiting a couple years before having children.

Thank you, we had the finances talk but women and men think differently especially when they have their own $

 

[2-Digit]

Marriage ain't that bad so long as it's something you both want to do. Them dudes getting pressured into that shyt are usually the ones that don't make it. I been married to the wife going on 10 years, and I ain't gon lie, most of it is , but there are times when it's

I can't give you a pros and cons list, because it's going to be different from chick to chick, just make sure you know your pros list is GOING to outweigh the cons.

 

[Dat Migo]

Same shyt, nothing really changed

 

[MadameMoreaux]

Thank you, we had the finances talk but women and men think differently especially when they have their own $

When you're married, all money is community property. There is no mine/hers/his. The two of you should sit down and form a budget together. Brother, you absolutely have to get this right from the beginning. Disagreements about finances can bring strong marriages to their knees. How much debt does she have? What's the credit score looking like? None of that really matters, because whatever financial mess she might have, I'm assuming that you love her enough to work through it together. The problem is when spouses are hiding bad spending habits. That's when trust starts to deteriorate and people feel disrespected. Do you mind me asking your age?

 

[ManxOfxThexYear]

iight straight up marriage is not for everyone, i repeat, marriage is not for everyone!

shyt changes, like you think its just another day in a dating relationship, but nah people view you different and you start seeing your relationship different.

1st year will be the absolute hardest fukking year and when it sucks, its fukking repeated ball shots with a fukking shotgun. but once you get pass that year, it gets better and better. You start learning more about each other.

Can you stand their bad habits, like really stand their habits, like you are having a fukked up day and she does some shyt or says some shyt that makes you want to liu kang the bytch? Can you control yourself and roll with the punches, not literally, but these bad habits every has them, its just up to you if you can live with them day in and day out.

money decisions is 50/50 and will be most of your fights. keep your accounts seperate or have one joint and each of your own. just trust me on this. divvy up chores and other things.

she gone want you to be romantic and listen and all that. im telling you this cause once life hits you too, its the small things like this your going to forget sometimes.

Your marrying, so dont treat her like a bytch round the hood, treat her like the queen if you want to be that king.

whatever you do, try not to go to bed angry and solve it. relationship is compromising, but by compromising, dont give up somehting you want either. thats just going to cause resentment like fukk. try to come up with a solution that EQUALLY satisfies both of you

different strokes, what works for my relationship, may not work for your and vice versa.

do not whatever you do, do not talk your personal business with family, friends. shyt is lose-lose situation. work it out with your wife and keep it moving

try to wait to have kids, but if shyt happens, then shyt happens, be there for her cause its about to get crazy up in there.

i can give your advice until im blue in the face breh, but its something that happens and you just gotta feel it out and work it out. at first i hated this shyt and really was a fukking a$$hole, but now we approaching 5 years im cool with it and it just becomes routine.

good luck breh, inlaws fukking suck, your own family fukking suck, when you fight, life fukking sucks, when you miss them, life fukking sucks again, when the sex is good, the sex is fukking good, just groove with each other and keep it simple, no need to complicate shyt. you dont need a extravagant wedding, just know chicks be planning this shyt til 5 and have this fairytale idea, good luck with that shyt

 

[Amy Traphouse]

you need to evaluate your pros and cons now.

Can you see yourself with her 10yrs from now?

What about if she gains 20lbs from stress?

The good and bad will happen...are you prepared to stick around?

If you're stuck with an instant results mind frame then marriage is not for you

 

[DaPresident]

Pretty cool.

Communicate, put the other first, have fun.

There's gonna be ups and downs, two people living together forever there's bound to be some tension...point is, talk it out, don't sweat the small things and let the past stay the past (esp when arguing). Tell each other you love each other, often. Share interests, talk!!!...

It's a wild ride, but with a good partner it's all worth it. Sometimes agree to disagree. Fight fair and clean...yall stars, trying to score for the same team. It's yall two, nobody else, hold each other down

 

[Suicide King]

A marriage with no compromise, might as well be platonic.

Finances, agree on how much to save every month for long term goals like children and emergency fund. Can even lock down the account, no with-drawls without 2 signatures.

 

[posterchild336]

When you're married, all money is community property. There is no mine/hers/his. The two of you should sit down and form a budget together. Brother, you absolutely have to get this right from the beginning. Disagreements about finances can bring strong marriages to their knees. How much debt does she have? What's the credit score looking like? None of that really matters, because whatever financial mess she might have, I'm assuming that you love her enough to work through it together. The problem is when spouses are hiding bad spending habits. That's when trust starts to deteriorate and people feel disrespected. Do you mind me asking your age?

Thanks... I'm 33

 

[Claudex]

Marriage ain't that bad so long as it's something you both want to do. Them dudes getting pressured into that shyt are usually the ones that don't make it. I been married to the wife going on 10 years, and I ain't gon lie, most of it is , but there are times when it's

I can't give you a pros and cons list, because it's going to be different from chick to chick, just make sure you know your pros list is GOING to outweigh the cons.

10 years? Congrats breh!
Now we know you've got stories about the times marriage is . So just open up a stories-thread for the brehs because laughter is good for soul and it's a slow sunday.

 

[KravenMorehead™]

Not married but good luck