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Khalil's_Black_Excellence

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We've been married for 2 years now since February and been together for 7 years come August. We're doing pretty decent with marriage and other things in general, perhaps even moreso than most our peers are and enjoy being married overall and we love each other dearly. That's not to say it's without its problems though.

Most of the woes we've experienced since being married had to do with our family members shacking up (or attempting to) in our house or causing us other grief moreso than things towards each other, but as one can imagine, such burdens can put an obvious strain on any union. We don't have any kids of our own yet:guilty:, but we are now the legal guardians of our 11-year old niece (her blood relative thru her older brother) as of 2 months ago.

There's also been the occasional financial hiccups, but they usually didn't last too long or get too serious, however, it has slighted our vacation times together unfortunately, as well as other big money things, like we didn't have an official wedding or honeymoon yet since we're very practical and put most of our money towards our house.

Sex is pretty good now, tho not quite mind-blowing yet. It typically goes up n down (no pun intended, lol). We did have some sexual issues at a point in the past for a while tho. There was a point where I was very much tempted to seek out other women to which she knows about. I don't have regrets to getting married or with whom I'm married too, though I do wish I would've played the field a bit more when I had the opportunity to (no slight to her really, just to soil the royal oats, I've only been with 10 chicks). We've communicated greatly amongst each other over the years about it all (and before marriage even thru couples/pre-marital counseling) and it's gotten mostly better now, albeit on a slight hiatus at this moment..
she's been sick a lot lately...queasy and mostly in the morning:leostare::manny::win::yeshrug: Keep that on the low tho.
 

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the key to sex imo is dont force it because you think you have to. just do that shyt when you get around to it. we've gone weeks without sex a couple times...its always like that ritz cracker...
 

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the key to sex imo is dont force it because you think you have to. just do that shyt when you get around to it. we've gone weeks without sex a couple times...its always like that ritz cracker...

I hear what you're trying to say, but weeks breh:to:....nah, you can have that. My drive has a bar minimum quota and it's definitely not on some weeks shyt. My wife would never keep me waiting that long either, not w/o good damn reason.
 

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only thing i hate is that i have to come home every night. i miss getting fukked up and just crashing at my brothers or cousins house. or just riding around looking for trouble all night.
i used to hate that the house was so noisy every morning but i sleep thru that now

I still crash places overnight after goin out, but I don't have kids tho
 

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man that shyt is right in the middle of the kitchen. its the only room in the whole house without a ceiling fan. what are you gonna do?? :yeshrug:
:dead::dead:
that's whats up tho.... get in where you fit in .... :lolbron:
nice at her being an instuctor....did she take lessons at Pole La Teaz on Richmond ave by any chance? i took lessons there.:guilty:
 

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Me and wifey will hit 14 years this September. Got two boys, 12 and 8. Everything is sweet. We've had some ups and downs, but no more than any other married couple. As was said, the key is communication. As we went along, we learned to communicate our likes and dislikes. For example, she grew up in a house where it wasn't no thing to have like 500 people in ya crib at the drop of a hat. I grew up in a family where everybody knew to give each other some space and not be all up in ya business.... So when we got married, I would come home from work and her moms, her sister, cousins and other females would be in the house just running they mouth, when I just want to come home and :ahh:.. So then I would have the :noah: face going when I would come home and see all these people. After a couple fights, we was able to figure it out. We live in NC now, after most of her family left NY and moved to FL, so it ain't even an issue now.
the whole story and your use of similes has me dying for some reason :dead:
one thing my mother was adamant about when i was younger was my dad coming home to a CLEAN and PEACEFUL house after working a long hard day.
so that has rubbed off on me bigtime and feel what you're saying one hundred percent. glad y'all were able to work that out...
 

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and when they do have kids they can practice being firemen :noah:

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that's whats up tho.... get in where you fit in .... :lolbron:
nice at her being an instuctor....did she take lessons at Pole La Teaz on Richmond ave by any chance? i took lessons there.:guilty:

nah, she learned while we were in philly. she's teaching at this place called secret in a bottle down near fuqua now.
 

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Congregate.

How long you been married? What do you like, what do you dislike? Kids? What's that sex/sexual adventure game lookin like :smugfavre:

I've been married goin on three, no kids, sex is fine, in a bit of a lull, bout to spice it up in a minute. Everything is lovely as long as I put my foot down when necessary and make time.

Let's build brehs :win:


4 years been with her for close to 7



I dont dislike shyt cus I knew ahead of time what it was and was going to be. I laid out the pace on the first go round that things would go a certain way or Im gone. that worked like a charm. the more you got to go to council with her, the less she is going to think youre capable.



best way to spice it up is to do different places and surprise her with that. literally grab her off the sofa, with no warning, if shes in the backyard or lil whatever, surprise her with the move and tell her youre taking her to a new spot, a lounge, a picnic, a park, a movie, a chuckie cheese who gives a fukk, dont even ask her or tell her ahead of time. have fun, play, and get her into it. later get touchy feely, some drinks, fukk her out the blue or in the car, just switch it up. look up a new restaurant and just go. be like - I got this new place to go get ready and we out. you gonna love it



marriage can be a democracy sometimes, but never expect her to come with the unpredictable. thats on you. I gotta take it on myself to be mr adventure man. fukking, buying new ice cream flavors, coats and shoes for her out the blue

:smugdraper:




when shes taken by surprise and sees you take things serious enough that you put a little thought into it, she'll be pleasing you and happy about ALL that shyt. took me three years to see it. when I did, I was like - DAMN this aint gonna get better until I step it up, and she followed me up


:win:
 

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oh I also criticize her just to keep her on her toes. dont want her getting sloppy and thinking Im okay with it




Im not even subtle. just out with that
 
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