Maybe I'm the problem?

[Gloxina]

Ol "im the problem its me" head ass

get that dirt off your shoulders breh and dont answer to anyone except yourself. You can be responsible for others your whole life and become a villian off of one bad interaction. just examine yourself and fix what YOU want to fix.

if any of my exes wanna talk tough they're doing it behind closed doors.

I feel this but the thing is, sometimes we can be the issue

Shyt they had an intervention at work for this chick because her mental issues (legit) are becoming more and more of a problem and they might fire her ass. Take everyone’s kindness for weakness. It’s wild.


On the other hand, OP could just be surrounded by ppl who take his kindness for weakness and shove him around because they think they can. If that’s the case, get a new circle

 

[Gloxina]

its what my dad did, he get mad and just stop talking.....

He cuts everybody off. i get it from him

YEEEEEEEEA, NO. You’re part of the problem. That’s unhealthy and not actual conflict resolution. I had an ex who did that and I picked it up from him and had to break that habit. Healthy ppl don’t go no contact like that. It’s emotional abuse.

 

[Heafcliffe]

To have the ability to self-evaluate and be introspective is something many don't have, OP.

You recognize things and believe things can change.

I wish you the best during this journey.

 

[Prynce]

YEEEEEEEEA, NO. You’re part of the problem. That’s unhealthy and not actual conflict resolution. I had an ex who did that and I picked it up from him and had to break that habit. Healthy ppl don’t go no contact like that. It’s emotional abuse.

i know. ive damaged a lot of relationships like that and it was never the same

 

[Fillerguy]

Yes

 

[Gloxina]

i know. ive damaged a lot of relationships like that and it was never the same

Ditto. At least you recognize it. It’s about making the effort to be and treat others better, and understanding that we are deserving of that, too.

 

[africngiant]

mannnnnn.... the way people be hating you while you helping is crazy

i just call them fans or dikksukkers. i don’t understand the psychology. they talk crazy behind your back but still wanna get around you and act friendly lmao. they probably see your potential even if you don’t yet but you have to actualize yourself more. i used to be a raw prospect when people would play weird motives with me. invisible competition

our situations could be slightly different as im reading more

 

[rabbid]

I feel this but the thing is, sometimes we can be the issue

Shyt they had an intervention at work for this chick because her mental issues (legit) are becoming more and more of a problem and they might fire her ass. Take everyone’s kindness for weakness. It’s wild.


On the other hand, OP could just be surrounded by ppl who take his kindness for weakness and shove him around because they think they can. If that’s the case, get a new circle

Exactly. the acknowledgement of your issues in itself isnt gonna stop people from having smoke with you. You'll always have people that don't like what you did. I had an ex that did some very low level scheming and we reconnected. All she did was apologize to the point where i was just turned off from continuing to deal with her.

I kept telling her, you have to forgive yourself before you ask me for forgiveness. I had already forgiven her 30 apologies ago, but we not dating again, oh well.. Always be kind to yourself. I'm not sitting around thinking about your past actions, YOU are. And if i was, so what? The past is the past. You'll never have 0 negative energy. Just do better for the next time, and try to apologize only ONCE if you can lol.

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

You ever sat back and thought about what others say about you? Like I get constantly criticized and insulted for just being me. Like I know we have to validate ourselves and all that shyt but the consistency of it gets to me. TBH I have no idea what I do or did. like if im too nice and respectful then i'm soft and docile. if im aggressive and ignorant then im crazy lol. Like I can't win with people. The craziest shyt to me is the lack of loyalty others have, you could do a lot for people when ever they need it, but once they on they feet they act brand new. I'm honestly at the point when I'm gonna stop caring. Cause the funny thing is everybody who talks down I've helped and went out of my way for ...

I think I'm done sparring feelings cause they don't spare mine. But if I every slighty react to my unhappiness then I become the problem lol. When I was the when beneath their wings when they needed me

I ain't doing shyt for a soul ever again

Trying being alone for a while. Go from there. Work on yourself.

 

[sanityovar8ted]

Yet if I turned up dead, nikkas would have a R.I.P thread

Let me vent and have the brehs that care come in here

Uknow I love u n appreciate the things u did 4 me....can't NAN mf ever say I ever talked down on u or nebody else that looked out 4 me


Except this mf
I talked bad about him 2 him
And will again if necessary

 

[Dad]

You ever sat back and thought about what others say about you? Like I get constantly criticized and insulted for just being me. Like I know we have to validate ourselves and all that shyt but the consistency of it gets to me. TBH I have no idea what I do or did. like if im too nice and respectful then i'm soft and docile. if im aggressive and ignorant then im crazy lol. Like I can't win with people. The craziest shyt to me is the lack of loyalty others have, you could do a lot for people when ever they need it, but once they on they feet they act brand new. I'm honestly at the point when I'm gonna stop caring. Cause the funny thing is everybody who talks down I've helped and went out of my way for ...

I think I'm done sparring feelings cause they don't spare mine. But if I every slighty react to my unhappiness then I become the problem lol. When I was the when beneath their wings when they needed me

I ain't doing shyt for a soul ever again

Create boundaries. Everyone doesn't need to know your life story.

 

[Peruvian Connect]

you are the problem. but it's not negative though. Apparently you are a good hearted person. You like helping people, Don't let their ungratefulness make you bitter.

 

[RareHunter]

You ever sat back and thought about what others say about you? Like I get constantly criticized and insulted for just being me. Like I know we have to validate ourselves and all that shyt but the consistency of it gets to me. TBH I have no idea what I do or did. like if im too nice and respectful then i'm soft and docile. if im aggressive and ignorant then im crazy lol. Like I can't win with people. The craziest shyt to me is the lack of loyalty others have, you could do a lot for people when ever they need it, but once they on they feet they act brand new. I'm honestly at the point when I'm gonna stop caring. Cause the funny thing is everybody who talks down I've helped and went out of my way for ...

I think I'm done sparring feelings cause they don't spare mine. But if I every slighty react to my unhappiness then I become the problem lol. When I was the when beneath their wings when they needed me

I ain't doing shyt for a soul ever again

It will only harm you and the bitterness in you will grow in the end. Give your life to God and keep doing good. You probably don’t fit in because you are being called by The Most High (The God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob who sent his son to die for the sins of the world). It could be you know this and are trying to escape it and fit in with the crowd. Don’t ignore it.

Luke 6:34
Verse Concepts
If you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners in order to receive back the same amount.

Luke 6:35
Verse Concepts
But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.

 

[Ces1ne?]

yeah but moving on and letting go always been hard for me

And that’s your biggest problem bruh…..why let people occupy head space in your mind when they don’t let u occupy the same space in their heads????

 

[Ohene]

You ever sat back and thought about what others say about you? Like I get constantly criticized and insulted for just being me. Like I know we have to validate ourselves and all that shyt but the consistency of it gets to me. TBH I have no idea what I do or did. like if im too nice and respectful then i'm soft and docile. if im aggressive and ignorant then im crazy lol. Like I can't win with people. The craziest shyt to me is the lack of loyalty others have, you could do a lot for people when ever they need it, but once they on they feet they act brand new. I'm honestly at the point when I'm gonna stop caring. Cause the funny thing is everybody who talks down I've helped and went out of my way for ...

I think I'm done sparring feelings cause they don't spare mine. But if I every slighty react to my unhappiness then I become the problem lol. When I was the when beneath their wings when they needed me

I ain't doing shyt for a soul ever again

dont worry breh. it aint you .
dont live your life to please the general public. just stick to your code/moral ground