Men, having kids young (18-30) vs having kids older (31-50)???

[skyrunner1]

Have em soon as ya nuts drop. Waiting is overrated

The younger the better for sure.. Its a tough balance as far as when will be financially ready but definitely younger the better

 

[DaPresident]

I’m 41 now and wifey pregnant with our first.

Should be here before 42, so I’ll get back to you lol

 

[Roid Jones]

The better question is are you financially, physically, mentally and spiritually in a position to have kids?

 

[Diyhai]

If you haven't grown past the Disney-rugged-individuality fables, it won't matter what age you are. There is no such thing as being prepared, money or not. Having children will jar you out of your entitled expectations because you're responsible for a whole other person who cannot do for themselves, and that is a wakeup call unlike anything else.

That's what self-awareness, loyalty and faith are for, to understand no one makes it alone and to seek out the proper people to plug the gaps and move forward together. If you have none of those you have some growing up to do.

only people from broken homes think like this
a stable relationship and financial security will make having a child a lot easier
also a woman that has experience with children is a plus
plenty woman have babysat and taken care of children before that weren't their own
just like when people say its no book on parenting... nygga there thousands you just don't read

 

[7th Letter Specialist]

Turning 40 in a year

A lot of of high school brehs popped up on my FB recently. Its nice to see what brehs from high-school made out of their life so far. Many brehs let themselves go.

bra!!
-insert John Wall at the lecture meme-

…I be seeing some of my ppl nowadays looking EVERY BIT of they age. I be like “got damn, am I really this old?!?” lol.

 

[MajesticLion]

only people from broken homes think like this
a stable relationship and financial security will make having a child a lot easier
also a woman that has experience with children is a plus
plenty woman have babysat and taken care of children before that weren't their own
just like when people say its no book on parenting... nygga there thousands you just don't read

Fishing expeditions

 

[Gator48]

I couldn't imagine ripping and running to practices and parent teacher conferences as a I had both of mines in my early twenties and now they're out the house *almost*

 

[RubioTheCruel]

Had my son at 27, I think that's the perfect age to have kids. You got to have fun in your teens and early twenties - established a bit in life, making better $$$, still have the energy to run around with a toddler

 

[MaxBundles]

Had my son at 27, I think that's the perfect age to have kids. You got to have fun in your teens and early twenties - established a bit in life, making better $$$, still have the energy to run around with a toddler

This 100%
I had my 1st kid at this age as well and thought I was late in the game compared to my friends but now feel that was the best decision
Can't imagine having my 1st kid over 40 unless ima millionaire

 

[Maddmike]

2 year old an oops baby or you planned for it? My homebody has a 15, 13 and 7 year old. The 7 year old was made after a night at Magic City. Them strippers got him sloppy and got him to slip up in his Wife.

Would have been done in five years.

I have a 6 and 3 year old. I’m about to be forty. I took the scissors and won’t base my pull out game on chance.

He was planned. But I can't help but think how easy it would be to navigate these later years without having to take him everywhere

But it is easier having the older kids to step in and play with him/teach him etc

 

[Mike Ock]

I am 42 now. Had my first at 35 and second at 40. I got a lot of partying and travelling out of my system by the time I had my first. I don't wish I had them any other period because I only experience what I've lived. It worked out for us because a year after my 1st covid hit and been working home ever since. Once covid hit we got a house in a more relaxed environment and I am now able to be around much more for the kids. Prior, when commuting to work I would be too stressed out once I got home.

No need to debate this. Things happen for people at different times. My parents had myself and other 2 siblings by the time they were 27. Times done changed. What ever age you have kids at, just be sure to enjoy ya time with them.

 

[Phantum]

As someone who waited I feel like I could have done it earlier but I was scared I couldn't afford it or be a good father. Now my kid has only one grandparent left and that makes me kind of sad. On the other hand if I did have my kid super young I most likely wouldn't be a good father at all. I wasn't mature, very selfish, too many women etc.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

only people from broken homes think like this
a stable relationship and financial security will make having a child a lot easier
also a woman that has experience with children is a plus
plenty woman have babysat and taken care of children before that weren't their own
just like when people say its no book on parenting... nygga there thousands you just don't read

i was just telling my homeboy this the other day when he said that "you don't know/you'll see when you have kids"
negro please. this world turns on people having kids, it's one of the most non-original scenarios you can be in, you ant special. if you don't know what to do by now with all the knowledge and experience in the world available

 

[Shadow King]

Previous generations had their kids earlier than this generation, much earlier than 31

Exactly. That was then and this is now.

31 is not "older" going into 2026.

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

I'm 40 just had my first

They better not have a colonial name.